Wedding guest attire

[honda1114]

NC as I know my MIL is on here!

BIL is getting married in the summer. A little while away, I know, but I have a household full of teenage girls who are obsessing excitedly about what to wear.

Showed one of the dresses my 21yo DD said she liked for the wedding, and MIL said it was far too dressy, and next to the rest of us (who don't even know what we're wearing yet) she will stand out like a sore thumb.

I didn't really know what to say to that as I thought a wedding was about as dressy as you get!

I have been to a few weddings but my DDs haven't been to any since they were small so they don't have a comparison and I can't say I can remember what girls of that age wore at previous ones Ive been to!

I'll attach pictures of dresses similar to what she liked. She doesn't want anything particularly clingy as she is a bit weight conscious (probably due to comments from MIL)

If you saw a young girl wearing a dress similar to these at a wedding would you think she was too dressed up? And if so, what would you expect someone of that age to be dressed in?

@Princesspollyyy That's really nice - I like that.

@MysteryBelle

No one should dress for anyone other than themselves. You are not dressing for the bride and groom when you go to their wedding. And there is nothing wrong with wanting to look nice and confident in what you're wearing.
It's a wedding - there will be loads of pictures. Why should you wear something to please someone else and not because you actually like it? And have the constant reminder in those pictures?

I bet your wedding would be fun.

I'm not sure that I'd be the person to go to @MysteryBelle wedding, I'd probably decline.

I mean the original beautiful dresses are perfect for opps up side your head and that's what's important!

But there are conventions about appropriate attire for guests at various types of social events. Insisting that they don't exist is pointless.

But does the wedding have a dress code?

Totally this. You can still look nice and stylish. There's a different between stylish and skanky. Spoiler alert, very low cleavage and slit right up your leg at a daytime family wedding isn't it. Keep it classy, it's a wedding afterall. Are people really this clueless 😐

What about a silky slip dress, heels and a cardigan for your daughter, OP? These are all lovely:

www.omnes.com/products/new-riviera-midi-dress-in-purple?variant=43102914347232&utm_source=google&gclid=CjwKCAiAzp6eBhByEiwA_gGq5JtKyDfpEYkS3pP_n6laxyr_NQD9H6y-d9-wCJW-eHo7ZJpi-vHh3hoCMrwQAvD_BwE

shop.mango.com/gb/women/dresses-and-jumpsuits-midi/satin-panel-dress_37069071.html

www.ghost.co.uk/palm-dress15-d05g003-f20?pk_cid=1&pk_keyword=5059814115719&pk_medium=multifeeds&pk_campaign=Google&pk_source=Google&pk_content=ClothingAccessoriesClothingDresses&utm_source=Google&gclid=CjwKCAiAzp6eBhByEiwA_gGq5Lz0ujo9on9IJg0uvwTcxtjA_z3P-KbI0fyfec3_tx6EvyXtHfyN5BoClwkQAvD_BwE

Otherwise, maybe take a look at Rixo? Though that's a bit more expensive. There are lots of dresses to rent on the platform HURR (Rixo is one there, as well as Ghost), and if you order something that doesn't fit, you can get a refund.

Good luck in finding something; it's great that she's excited about getting dressed up!

Does it matter? Do people really need "a dress code" to understand that a slinky, skimpy and revealing frock would look absurd at an average daytime wedding?

You can still look nice and stylish. There's a different between stylish and skanky. Spoiler alert, very low cleavage and slit right up your leg at a daytime family wedding isn't it. Keep it classy,

Exactly! And there’s a difference between stylish and fashion - a lot of posters seem to be confusing the two - they are not always the same!

Satin is not traditionally a daywear fabric.

@honda1114 Here are some females "dressing for themselves" Any takers?

www.instagram.com/p/CHrH_KwprGY/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=5302a82f-e311-4e11-b501-69bbebce13d3

@ZeldaWillTellYourFortune my mum used to say frock, so funny are you 98 as my mum would've been?

FROCK!!

@littlelilypad that Omnes dress is divine ❤️

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@littlelilypad

Sorry I think you've not understood the assignment. The OP was asking about wedding outfits for the daytime, not nighties to wear to bed afterwards.

Sorry this is a baby doll nighty, you're very confused!

I'm 26 and would definetely wear that for a summer wedding

She might like something like these as a compromise?

These are lovely, stylish and classy 👌
Remember it's not a Love Island wedding!

@dogdaydown

Yes that's a 'babydoll' nightie, I didn't say that I just said 'nightie'.

Sorry, I was just offering a suggestion based on other 20-year-olds I know, not a definitive answer. As an aside, someone in your household is very lucky if you're wearing something similar to bed; my DH is lucky if my pj's match 😄

Have a look at Girl in Mind or Lipsy for a wedding.

Would she like either of these styles?

@littlelilypad

Fair point, I was only joking by the way 😊 I'm currently sat in mismatched pyjamas 😂

@Ladyinpuce gpod for them

Sorry did you mean this one?