AWBU blended family drama

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So myself and my partner thought it would be nice to take our older kids away (without the younger ones)
On an all expenses paid holiday.
So we can go out have a laugh etc without having to be in early for the lil ones.

They agreed they'd love to go so we did our research and booked Marbella .

To our shock we've been told the location is chavvy and we're shit parents because we didn't ask where they wanted to go.

But we genuinely thought we'd taken all their own personal needs into consideration and got a great deal!

It's cost us £4000 (all inclusive) and they are saying they're not coming!

My partner is so upset because we were so excited and looking forward to having some quality time with the older kids but have been met with utter discontent :(

They are 20, 20, 18

Have we fucked up here or are they acting like spoilt brats?

Spoiled entitled brats !

Like most people who work, I have limited annual leave available to me. I might suck it up for a weekend (to spend time with the people who booked the holiday) but definitely not a full week.

Jesus, some people here seem to think Disney movies are factual and all step mothers are evil 🙄

You tried to do something nice OP, it was a gift. Anyone who reacts like that to a gift is a brat with no manners in my opinion. Go without them.

They’re all adults so it really is their choice. I personally wouldn’t enjoy somewhere like Marbella either so I’d be gutted if my Mum bought me tickets without consulting me then got upset when I said I have no desire to go. I don’t think they’re being brats, you should have consulted them first because they’re adults.

Take your son. The other 2 can stay home. Why cancel?!

What?! If they want to surprise their dad and step mum with a holiday, they can bloody well pay for it themselves!

Your intentions were good op!

But some people don't like surprises- I'm one of them!

And it's not really a treat if it's something they don't want unfortunately, even if you really did mean well.

Marbella is not for everyone. I really would not want to go again.

You are very bold ! ( an Irish way of saying somebody is cheeky or naughty ).

Well yes as I only have 5 weeks of holiday and want to spend those weeks in places I will enjoy. Marbella is not my cup of tea at all so while I may go for a long weekend if my family really wanted to go there, I wouldn’t want to go for a week

I'm just glad somebody finally got it @LadyEloise1 😂

I'd just take the person that wants to go. They were all invited and are complaining. No favouring about it. They didn't want to go
Their mum sounds jealous and ignorant. She clearly doesn't have any experience of Marbella.

I agree OP that even if they don’t like the destination it is bloody rude to come across as so ungrateful. My children are in their 20s and are always grateful for a free holiday. Absolutely nothing wrong in saying politely that they would prefer somewhere else but to be as rude as you said they were ,is awful!

@redskydelight yes but the poster was saying they’ve not been able to go on a holiday for years due to funds but still wouldn’t go on a free trip to Marbella
I also get limited holidays but I still don’t manage to fill all 4 weeks up with trips to places Only I want to go