AIBU to think my DD's teacher was inappropriate?

[picklesandicecream]

Idk what exactly to think of this... my 14 year old DD came home from school the other day absolutely fuming. When questioned on what happened, she told me that her (male) teacher had been really sexist and unfair. She said that when she offered to help carry something to another classroom, she was told to sit down and let one of the boys do it. She then told the teacher that she was perfectly capable and happy to help, but he stuck to his guns and asked one of the boys to carry the box to the other classroom. DD and her friends were outraged and spent the rest of the lesson talking loudly about modern day misogyny and the influence Andrew Tate has on vulnerable men and teenage boys.

If that teacher only ever asks the boys to fetch and carry things, and only ever asks the girls to go and fetch him a cup of tea, I'd think that maybe he was being a tad sexist.

Otherwise, nah - let the boys do it.

How heavy was the box?
A 14-year-old boy can be quite a bit stronger than a 14-year-old girl. It is not sexist to know this and act accordingly.

It is interesting that only on the news today we have complaints that men don’t respect women and yet we have this OP complaining when boys are selected to do the work and carry things. I would’ve thought this is respecting a girl and her femininity. What we need boys to do more off!

Only post for the username and they've not returned. Interesting.

I wonder what made her into a drama queen?

Hopefully next week he'll have something seriously heavy to move and the OP's daughter will be given the job!

Oh yes, haven't we all! We used to call them Right Little Laurens in the staffroom, thanks Catherine Tate!

She sounds like the sort of pupil you want sitting in their seat working not wandering round school on some errand that would doubtless drag into a much longer absence from the classroom!

Oh yes, let's make her even more obnoxious shall we!

Talking loudly about something else (and distracting her friends) when she should be learning, after trying twice to get out of the lesson? Sounds like a pattern.

Would that be because women should always get their own way? Is that where equality is now?

WTF?

Have you read the exchange you’re responding to here?

We aren’t talking about women “getting their own way”. We’re talking about women being allowed to do things they’re capable of and want to do. And yes, that is a part of what equality is.

The op hasn’t returned to the thread

shocker

We aren’t talking about women “getting their own way”. We’re talking about women being allowed to do things they’re capable of and want to do. And yes, that is a part of what equality is.
It's really not about women being allowed to do things they are capable of and want to do, because the central part of the (likely made up) OP is that a teacher has selected a student to do an errand and instead of letting the student do the errand, another student chose to disrupt the lesson, argue with the teacher to try and do the errand, and continued to disrupt the lesson with their passive aggressive disruptive behaviour.

The situation didn't need to have happened because the OP's daughter didn't need to get involved in the discussion about the errand in the first place.

Your dd sounds like she overreacted and is hard work.

As you should be able to tell from the use of “women” and “men” throughout, the exchange you took this from was a not about the girl in question and whether or not she should have been given the job she asked for, which I agree isn’t a given.

The exchange was about whether or not it is respectful in general that men do any lifting if they are around whether or not a woman wants to and is capable of it.

In the OP’s scenario it isn’t clear what exactly was said and what the sequence of events was. But many posters are defending the idea that the teacher should pick boys for this task and not allow girls to do it even if they are capable and willing. That’s what this exchange was about. The idea the it is right and respectful that half the population shouldn’t even be considered for something they want and are capable of doing.

The OP seems to have fucked off but I'd be interested to hear the teacher's side.

What's with the bold and under lining??

Is such a shame that OP posted early afternoon yesterday & hasn't even replied since ...

Evening, everyone. We're going to close this thread to new posts now. It doesn't look like the OP is returning so we don't think there's going to be any more information forthcoming..