To be annoyed and angry with DH

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on a 2 night trip to London with DH and the kids. Our first day here. We’re still out now. Since it went dark earlier this evening DH has not stopped saying “we need to go back to the hotel”, “it’s too dark”, “it’s not safe” and so on. I’ve told him to stop and he won’t. Aibu to be angry and annoyed with him? We’re on our way back to the hotel now but earlier I had to keep explaining to him for hours that just because it’s dark we don’t have to go straight back to the hotel. He’s been making the same comments for hours and hours since it went dark

The OP hasn't given many details at all so it's hard to comment - is her husband habitually anxious? Unused to cities? If so surely this should have been discussed beforehand? Surely this paranoia didn't come out of nowhere. It's completely bizarre and irrational to think it's "not safe" because it's "too dark" in London, anyway. I wouldn't know what to say to someone who said that to me, I'd just boggle at them for being so simple.

Not from me. The reply from me would be get over yourself.

Absolutely, but this wasn’t a bit, this was ridiculously extreme.

Men’s mental health?! What qualifications do you have that means you can diagnose someone you’ve never met or even spoken to, but simply read one post about? Do you think being a psychologist is an untrained job?

Sorry forgot you were the MN police. My mistake xxx

Yes she said over and over but that could mean a few times. I would say most posters would dramatise a little just because it’s from their POV and they found it annoying, but also that they’d like the other posters to be on their side. Have to take it with a pinch of salt don’t you.

why are you on mumsnet? To get overly upset and defensive if someone has a different opinion?

You live in London do you? I do, never seen anyone “on spice” or even fights in the streets for the matter. And being so bloody scared that you want to go back to a hotel as soon as it’s dark, which is about 4.30, is pathetic. Nothing vile about it. He could have gone back to the hotel if he wanted, but he doesn’t get to demand OP does too.

It doesn't matter how safe people who live in London think it is, people from outside of London are fed a different impression by the media. As someone who grew up in Belfast and constantly heard "outsiders" expressing fear about visiting, I can understand why some people from outside of high-crime, murder-capital London might be concerned about being out late with their young family.

Honestly some of the ideas people have about what central London is like are making me LOL.

You are as likely to see a spice zombie in central London as an alien. Or a stabbing in zone 1. Central London has pockets of homeless people but it’s basically off limits to people who are not wealthy because of the cost. There used to be “skanks” as so charmingly put, in Kings Cross but they were cleared out 20 years ago. Central London is incredibly sanitised.

Yeah there’s crime in London (like most major cities). But a stabbing at 4pm in zone 1 would make the national newspapers.

This bloke really needs to get out more. And he clearly doesn’t live there but that’s a quite absurd level of paranoia.

Agree.

You’d be more likely to see a Spice Girl in Zone 1 or 2 than a Spice Zombie!

As someone who’s lived in London for 53 years, I’ve been a victim of pickpocketing once and that was in West Ham - hardly the centre of the throbbing metropolis.

And I doubt the collective Kings Cross retailers of Jo Malone, Fortnum and Masons, The White Company (plus the kids at the 9 and 3/4 Platform) etc would be happy being described as ‘skanks’ (nice language)

Come and discover your capital city fgs!

You’d be more likely to see a Spice Girl in Zone 1 or 2 than a Spice Zombie!

😂

It was 10.30!!! On what clock is that nearly midnight?!

The kids are 6 & 8 ffs.

@UnshakenNeedsStirring 10.30 is not nearly midnight, whatever the age of the child.

It's a one off, it's fine.

Why is it so horrifying for a six year old to stay up until 10:30pm (gasp!) while on a mini holiday to somewhere new?

And your point is? They're on a mini holiday. One late night isn't going to hurt.

I'd find this annoying. Plenty of people about on a Friday night, into the early hours of Saturday morning in Central London.

Perhaps in your neighborhood. In most of the world, especially on holiday, it's not.

There are some very sheltered people on this thread, which is fine but spouting shit about "spice zombies" just showed your ignorance about what central London is like and if you're passing those attitudes on to your children then that's really sad I think.

I have never seen a “spice zombie” in central london and have spent a lot of time in London.
I’ve seen plenty of “spice zombies” in small, rural towns though!!

I find most seaside towns more dodgy after dark than central London!

Some are even dodgier during the day than central London at night 😂

@LordSugarTits you seem ghastly

There are some terrified little suburban mice on this thread, aren’t there? Christ almighty. 😆

Funny how that's not that's not the advice to women who behave the same way - their paranoia should be indulged.