To bring a fizzy drink to a meal?

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So, I visited my boyfriend's family for the first time on Sunday

His mum cooked for us all. Lovely meal. When I arrived, I came with a bottle of lemonade. I said this to his mum ''I've got this, can I pop it in the fridge? Please help yourselves''

When having dinner, I asked for a glass (there were only small wine glasses on the table).

His mum said 'but we're having wine?'

I said no thanks, I'll just have some of the lemonade please'

She seemed really at me!

We had a nice meal and then my boyfriend mentioned to me today 'Mum was really confused about your lemonade! Maybe don't do that next time '

AIBU to think it's fine? It wasn't just for me. Anyone could've helped themselves but it was so strange. It was as if I had placed 10g of coke on the table and told everyone to help themselves to a line

Very odd indeed surely?

Actually, the more I sit here the more I have decided I'm not unreasonable it is decided lol

I can't drink alcohol while I'm eating so I'm with you 🤣

I don’t drink alcohol and would have bought something to drink

I hate it when people think you must have alcohol with a meal.

I won’t drink water either

Not everyone is a drinker. Are they big on booze as a family? If you brought Sprite I might secretly judge you but a nice lemonade sounds great.

I do think it sounds like they were slightly odd!

It's a bit odd albeit hardly the end of the world. A present of a nice bottle of wine together with some sort of posher sparkling presse (for example) if you don't drink would probably be more usual unless you have very specific dietary requirements. Turning up empty handed other than lemonade for you might come across a bit unthinking.

It was 7UP

How dare you bring a thirst quenching non alcoholic drink to a meal!!!!! It's outrageous 😂 What an odd comment fron your BF too, to not do it next time😂!!

Eh it is a bit weird to bring your own soft drink, but they’re odd for not catering for non drinkers as standard

odd all round

sounds like you’ll fit in fine!

I'm certain you did nothing wrong.

His family Sound odd

Oh lord.

We text to ask if we could bring a desert and what would they like, we were told not to! It was all sorted and to just arrive please

I did bring along some chocolates for afterwards (I don't like chocolate much but most people do)

I don't think lemonade is weird, but I'd have brought something for the hosts...like err, wine.

No, it is not odd to bring your own soft drink. People bring a bottle of wine to a meal sometimes.

What lemonade was it ?

We text to ask if we could bring a desert and what would they like, we were told not to! It was all sorted and to just arrive please

no that's a rookie mistake. Never turn up to dinner or to stay at someone's house without a gift for the host. Chocolates and/or flowers and/or wine. And then if you only drink, say, 7Up you bring that too.

I'd have taken my lemonade and a bottle of wine. Best to look generous if someone has cooked for you.

@Brefugee the OP said they took chocolates too.

Nope, yanbu.
not everyone drinks

Sorry I've just seen it was 7up 🤣🤣

the OP said they took chocolates too.

for after the meal though - that's... meh. You bring something for the hosts, if they want to put them out on the table and say "help yourselves" that's up to them

What’s wrong with sprite!!

I've taken soft drinks to a friends because I'm driving but I do take wine and flowers

Why do people always assume everyone drinks alcohol,especially wine 😖
His Mum would think i was even weirder....I'd have brought along my own ready mixed drink of lemon.😂

YANBU