To bring a fizzy drink to a meal?

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So, I visited my boyfriend's family for the first time on Sunday

His mum cooked for us all. Lovely meal. When I arrived, I came with a bottle of lemonade. I said this to his mum ''I've got this, can I pop it in the fridge? Please help yourselves''

When having dinner, I asked for a glass (there were only small wine glasses on the table).

His mum said 'but we're having wine?'

I said no thanks, I'll just have some of the lemonade please'

She seemed really at me!

We had a nice meal and then my boyfriend mentioned to me today 'Mum was really confused about your lemonade! Maybe don't do that next time '

AIBU to think it's fine? It wasn't just for me. Anyone could've helped themselves but it was so strange. It was as if I had placed 10g of coke on the table and told everyone to help themselves to a line

Very odd indeed surely?

I don’t like FR but if someone turned up with a box I’d say thank you obviously.
I have boxes of chocolates in my pantry now that I’ve been given but probably won’t eat because I don’t like them.

If I got given chocolates I didn't like I would smile and say thank you, offer them around after the meal, then take any leftover ones to work.

I tend to either take them into work or pass them on to the DC. the person giving the gift would never know, I always smile and say thank you whatever they bring.
I don’t really like cut flowers but they go straight in a vase on display.

I love flowers. They are always a winner with me.

I find them a bit sad, sitting in a vase basically waiting to wilt and get thrown. And I have to be careful because I have a cat.
I do like a plant though.

Cats are even better than flowers

This would be better than any wine, lemonade or chocolate.

@Sparklingbrook

what chocolate do you like?

Hotel Chocolat, or Lindt. But no soft centres.

I like Lindt and M and S. I'm not keen on nuts and chcoclate together. I love nuts and I quite like chocolate, but if someone gives me a box of chocolate brazils they wouldn't even get opened in our house.

Chocolate is very personal though and I don't think people should get snobby about it. It is very much personal taste.

@Sparklingbrook the OPs boyfriend's mother : "Kittens? Oh didn't he tell you.... we only do pure bred poodles here".
😂

Not snobby or pretentious. I said I’d be embarrassed, not be a wreck. Of course it’s not massively embarrassing in the scheme of things, but it is a bit - that’s why we have social norms -so people in general know what to do. Of course the mum should have handled it all much better and not commented at all.

But you described the situation as ‘awful’. So awful that it made you cringe. I really struggle to understand how something on this level can be ‘awful’ in anyones world.

Went out for a meal tonight at a steak restaurant and the respectable 40 something man on the next table was drinking 7up. Definitely didn’t look out of place (the women he was with had wine)

People are so weird. Life must be exhausting obeying so many imaginary rules in order to signify how much better you are than the other people who don't care about your imaginary rules.

Boom! I think you have summed up this whole thread in one sentence! 😊

I agree.

So true. Now if @Idtotallybangdreamoftheendlessnotgonnalie could make their way over to the “what constitutes TV watching” thread and provide similar common sense advice there that would be appreciated 😂😂😂

@Womencanlift I’ll have to look for that thread!

PS love the username,

I feel like I live on a different planet sometimes because I really don’t get all this snobbery over a bottle of bloody lemonade! If one of my kid’s partners brought a bottle of pop along with them to drink I’d think it was quite cute and thoughtful & definitely would not look down in my nose at them for their preference of drinks. I would not expect them to bring a bottle of wine either and would be more than happy with the chocs and the offer of a pudding.

I live on the same planet as you @PinkSyCo

In my gazillion years on Mumsnet, this may be the difference between American English and English English that has shocked me the most, which is is saying something! 😂

To me, 7Up is definitely not lemonade. It’s pop. (Most Americans call it soda, I think, but I’m Midwestern so Coke, Pepsi, Sprite, 7Up, it’s all pop.) Lemonade is just water and lemon juice and sugar. Or yellow powder that you mix with water, but that’s not as good.

Either way they are definitely not the same to me, but I’m not English so it is just different here, I suppose.

Ok yeh I think that’s a cultural difference. Sprite and 7up is normally classified as lemonade or sparkling lemonade and what you describe would probably be referred to as homemade lemonade. There’s then cloudy lemonade which is slightly different too. It is pop/fizzy drink but we typically think of lemonade as pop (at least I do, there could also be cultural differences within the uk that I don’t know about).

🤗😘

I was thinking about this thread today, it all
went a bit ridiculous and judgmental didn’t it!

just wondering did you get invited back ever? Did you take 7UP?