DH wanting me to get a different job after MAT leave

[Crocodilefortheday]

Aibu to think DH doesn’t get to dictate that I get a less senior job after MAT leave? I’m head of my department but currently on MAT leave. DH is trying to insist I step down as a head of department and get a less senior job (within the same area of work) and of course this would come with a pay cut. He’s saying it’s so I’ll have more time with the baby but I’ve tried to explain to him that my working hours are likely to be the same anyway so I might as well stay as head of department for more money (I will still see my baby so his point there isn’t really valid). He’s getting grumpy about this and says I’m “not listening” to his “instructions” but I don’t think what job I do is for him to dictate. We both earn about the same.

The problem with nurseries is them not taking your child when the child is sick. Which is more likely, in general, than a nanny being sick. And if you have babysitters doing non-nursery hours (especially if they are nursery staff) the chances of them being able to cover during nursery times can be low. But the need for a back up plan for whatever you choose is particularly important if you’re essential in your workplace and/or can’t rely on a second parent to pull their weight.