DP won't lend me his carrier bags

[Feelquiteisolated]

I know this sounds totally ridiculous but DP and I had a fall out today over carrier bags.

DP is organised, he carries 3 carrier bags in his coat and more in his car and house. I spend most weekends at his house and I have bags in my car but none in my coat. Today we went shopping and I had no bags. Had I been alone I would have bought some, but he had some. He wouldn't loan me one of his 3 in his pockets, and said I needed to buy my own.

I was not happy. I bought his lunch and dinner yesterday and during the shopping trip he added an item that cost £1.30 so I was like "well I'm worth a 20p bag!"

He ended up loaning me the bag but tonight he expressed his unhappiness on WhatsApp. He said I have no right to spoil his systems, I don't respect him, he doesn't want my mess adding to his mess. He said it's a tragedy because he can see himself ending up with no bags.

He said I need to know my behaviour was not acceptable. But I really just think if he has something I need why would he make me buy it, it feels humiliating to me. But perhaps I'm missing the point and I need to pay for not being organised.

I feel like I generally pay for more than him, well no, I know this is true. I pay for 80% of our meals out, I drive over 50% of the time, I buy him treats etc.

So he said all that and then said for me to stop being dramatic because he was going to bed. This was before 9.30pm. I'm left feeling a bit abandoned, isolated and lonely. I don't really think I'm a needy person but I feel this way quite often.

This is totally outing if he reads it, but oh well.

AIBU? should I buy and carry my own bags and buy them while out even if I would only need to borrow for a short time?

You sound lovely. I don’t think he appreciates or deserves you. Flicking water in your face is so disrespectful and aggressive, even if he tried to pretend it was funny

That's basically me when I leave my bags in the car where I keep them. 😣

I think that, OP, you need to start back peddling on this relationship and take stock. It's time he picked up the heavy lifting because he seems to be behaving like a spoilt brat. Znd you seem to be letting him get away with it.

What a sorry creature. You can do an awful lot better than him. LTB.

I would send a message to cease contact and block him on everything .. then pop a bottle champagne congratulating myself on getting well rid of an utter right arse/ weirdo.

You need to leave him. He sounds hard work. I can see things probably make him anxious but the way he handles his anxiety puts too much pressure on you.

This is totally off the scale and unbelievable, although I do believe it's real. I can't imagine going ape-shit over carrier bags. Never heard anything like it in all my puff. 🙄🤐

This is a semi-zombie thread, folks.