MIL wanting to stay for 2 weeks after I give birth

[StaffordLou]

I’m currently pregnant with my 1st, due in a few months. My mum passed a few years ago and our families are very excited about the new baby. My husband dropped last night that his mum wants to stay for 2 weeks after I have given birth to help out.
we get on with each other but this seems crazy to me! My husband completely regresses around his mum and ends up storming off leaving me to pick up the pieces. When I said I didn’t want this at all, he said I wasn’t being realistic about how difficult it will be with a newborn. I completely lost it and he has apologised!
an I being unrealistic? Everyone I know, friends and family haven’t had anyone move in with them to help and have been fine! We also live in a 1 bed room flat (not ideal with a baby coming but we have cladding issues - long story!).

sorry for the rant, I just need some perspective. Thanks!

I would say no. You want to get to know your baby without a house guest.

2 weeks is far too long even if you had a spare room. Without one it's impossible.

Another one who had my mum and dad stay for a few weeks after birth and it was incredibly helpful. My mum did so much for us

BUT we lived in a 4 bedroom house, not a one bedroom flat and she didn’t arrive til DS was 2 weeks old and DH had gone back to work.

It does sound like this offer has come from a good place and she’s probably assuming her DS would have an honest conversation about it with her if you had concerns! (your DP needs to man up a bit here). Thank her for her kind offer but you think a house guest in the first few weeks is probably too much. You will see how you feel after baby is born and of course she will be top priority for meeting the baby but she may need to stay at an Airbnb as your flat is so small and she knows all about the situation there… then start a rant about the flat situation or change the subject to avoid any debate about it. How will she meet the baby though? Can she afford an Airbnb? She’ll want to meet baby fairly early on.

Really your DH should be having these discussions with her not you. I’d push him to start talking to her like an adult now. You’ll need him to do this when baby is here.

In a one bedroom flat?

Hahahaha.

No.

Two adults if reasonable competence can manage life with a newborn. That is what his paternity leave is for.