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Parent in pyjamas at this time

166 replies

igotatext · 06/01/2023 15:10

My daughter (9) had her friend over for a sleepover last night but her friend got home sick. Her mum is a single mum and has a younger child and was in the house alone so I offered to drop the friend home, so did that at 1 am. Came home, and didn't manage to get to sleep till about half 2.

So today I decided we were just having a day in the house. I went for a shower and put on fresh jammies. My daughter closed the living room curtains to watch a film and be 'cosy'.

Suddenly there's a knock at the door. I answer and it's friends lovely mum with a bunch of lovely flowers for me to thank me for last night. I thanked her and said she didn't need to do that and off she went.

I am now just so affronted what she must think of me, living room curtains closed at 2 in the afternoon, me in my pyjamas, not a scratch of make up on (and I have really red, bad skin) and I just keep cringing thinking what must she think of me.

In those circumstances would you judge a parent for the same reasons? Or am I overthinking?

OP posts:
Flurbegurb · 06/01/2023 15:11

You sound normal OP! Don't overthink it.

KnitterNat · 06/01/2023 15:12

You’re massively overthinking. Just enjoy your flowers. I’d barely notice if someone was wearing PJs in their house and definitely wouldn’t notice make up.

44PumpLane · 06/01/2023 15:12

Honestly, the only thing I'd be thinking is "what a bloody good idea....I might have a pyjama day tomorrow"

Id be thoroughly jealous and nothing more!

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 06/01/2023 15:13

She probably didn't think anything tbh.
I think we've all been there.

NoSquirrels · 06/01/2023 15:13

Overthinking, although I would feel embarrassed too - it’s illogical but understandable! Presumably you said something like ‘We decided to have a movies & pyjama day’? In which case think no more of it.

Esmereldaaa · 06/01/2023 15:14

It's not something I would do, but wouldn't judge anyone else for doing that.

I hate being sat around in pyjamas, I like to be dressed.

igotatext · 06/01/2023 15:15

NoSquirrels · 06/01/2023 15:13

Overthinking, although I would feel embarrassed too - it’s illogical but understandable! Presumably you said something like ‘We decided to have a movies & pyjama day’? In which case think no more of it.

I bloody didn't say that, kicking myself

OP posts:
bloodywhitecat · 06/01/2023 15:16

If roles were reversed would you be judging the mum who came to the door in PJs at 2pm because I know I wouldn't be. If she thought any negative thoughts about you it says more about her than it does you.

FatGirlSwim · 06/01/2023 15:17

Totally overthinking. It’s perfectly normal.

TooBusyGazingAtStarss · 06/01/2023 15:19

I went to the door to accept an Amazon delivery in my big hoodie snood thing. It was like 3pm.

I could not care less what anyone thinks about me. And tbh, you're in your own home. Wear what you want 🤷‍♀️

NotAnotherBathBomb · 06/01/2023 15:20

I'm judging you for even thinking of this! It wasn't until I moved to the UK that I realised opening curtains and being 'dressed for the day' was a thing that people spent time pondering about. Who gives a shit?

GentlyBen · 06/01/2023 15:20

If I’m at home (without guests) then I’m in pjs. I change as soon as I get home - I find outside clothes impossible to relax in. I never thought anyone would judge me for it.

Sartre · 06/01/2023 15:21

I’ll go against the grain and say I probably would be a bit judgemental. I wouldn’t hold it against you and definitely wouldn’t say anything but I would be wondering why a grown adult is sitting in pyjamas with the curtains drawn in the middle of the afternoon unless they’re very sick with the flu or something, yes.

I don’t think it’s very usual behaviour? I’m probably too uptight but I’d feel really depressed if I had pyjamas on in the afternoon!

Spaghetti201 · 06/01/2023 15:22

I think since covid ppl are in the pj/loungewear a lot more. If I saw someone in PJ I would feel relieved - yay!, someone like me!! We would probably be good friends 🙃

Whostoblame · 06/01/2023 15:22

As soon as I'm home I'm in PJs. I work from home wearing an oodie and answer the door wearing it and leggings or pj's bottoms all the time, which depends on whether I've been out that day/am going out later 🤣 I wouldn't give it a second thought.

KangarooKenny · 06/01/2023 15:23

When I get home from work I take off my uniform and put PJ’s on for comfort. I wouldn’t think anything of it.

Notimeforaname · 06/01/2023 15:23

Just send a text saying something like Thanks again for the lovely flowers, sorry you had to see me in my jammies haha - having a movie day!

x2boys · 06/01/2023 15:23

I did think the two women walking around asda in full sleep.wear.were a little odd and attention seeking last week ,but mother in her home in the Xmas holidays no I wouldn't judge .

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/01/2023 15:24

I wouldn’t consider it a problem at all!

pelargoniums · 06/01/2023 15:24

I don’t think I’d even notice. Personally I hate curtains closed and pyjamas in the day but couldn’t give a fuck what someone else does.

mrsed1987 · 06/01/2023 15:24

Me and my 4 year old were in pj's till 1pm as I was sorting out washing, toys ect, we got dressed in comfy clothes now so I wouldn't judge

ShadowPuppets · 06/01/2023 15:25

I answered the door in my dressing gown at 4 yesterday, because the door went when I was drying my hair and I figured it was better than a towel :D

So I wouldn't assume that you'd been in PJs all day!

ThePumpking · 06/01/2023 15:27

GentlyBen · 06/01/2023 15:20

If I’m at home (without guests) then I’m in pjs. I change as soon as I get home - I find outside clothes impossible to relax in. I never thought anyone would judge me for it.

Same! Home is where you get to be comfy

123ZYX · 06/01/2023 15:27

She knows you were up late last night dropping her daughter home - if anything she'll feel guilty that you're so tired today

name985 · 06/01/2023 15:27

Baffles me when people judge someone wearing pjs. Is it so important to adhere to societal norms that we sacrifice comfort?

Life is too short ... be comfortable and do what you want as long as it's not harming anyone.

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