Parent in pyjamas at this time

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My daughter (9) had her friend over for a sleepover last night but her friend got home sick. Her mum is a single mum and has a younger child and was in the house alone so I offered to drop the friend home, so did that at 1 am. Came home, and didn't manage to get to sleep till about half 2.

So today I decided we were just having a day in the house. I went for a shower and put on fresh jammies. My daughter closed the living room curtains to watch a film and be 'cosy'.

Suddenly there's a knock at the door. I answer and it's friends lovely mum with a bunch of lovely flowers for me to thank me for last night. I thanked her and said she didn't need to do that and off she went.

I am now just so affronted what she must think of me, living room curtains closed at 2 in the afternoon, me in my pyjamas, not a scratch of make up on (and I have really red, bad skin) and I just keep cringing thinking what must she think of me.

In those circumstances would you judge a parent for the same reasons? Or am I overthinking?

Can't think of any time of day when pyjamas are unacceptable in your own home. I change into home clothes (pyjama type things) when I get home and stay in home clothes til I next go out. So whenever you knock on my door, unless I'm on my way out or in, I'm probably in 'pyjamas' 😊

This doesn't make sense though.
You say you'd judge but then say you'd assume they were ill.

Surely you wouldn't judge someone you assumed was ill for wearing their PJs?

I love my PJs. These days there's a fine line between PJs and lounge wear options anyway, so it's not always easy to tell the difference.

I have a friend who is always in PJs at home. She has day PJs and night PJs.

No judgement from me OP.

Exactly. Technically I spend all my time at home in pyjamas. I call them home clothes. Comfy things like tracksuit bottoms,leggings, loungewear bottoms. Very rarely actual pj bottoms, but that's because I don't wear pyjamas at all so I don't even have a full pair.

And me

You dropped her child home at 1am and your in PJs this afternoon? As her, I'd feel bad that you were presumably tired.

OH MY GOD WHO CARES

No I wouldn't judge someone who hosted my DD. I'd be very grateful and hope you enjoy your day chilling out as you eserved it

I thought you were going to say that the other mum made a comment! I bet she thought nothing of it. I spend a large portion of my day in a Percy Pig oversized mid calf length hoodie. Sometimes I have my pyjamas under it and sometimes I'm fully dressed in jeans and t shirt and cardigan. This morning I threatened to pick DS2 up from school wearing it if he didn't get his ass in gear and finish his breakfast🐷🐷

It's just a pyjama day, totally normal every now and again in our house! Don't worry at all.

This is me, OP. Don’t worry about it.

I would spend the rest of my life in pyjamas if I could get away with it.

I sometimes don’t get dressed on rest days from work, at all. Shock horror! It’s the ultimate indulgence. I would be mortified if anyone came to the door (probs wouldn’t answer tbh) but it would not stop me from doing it again 😂
If I were you, I would text and say “sorry you caught me in my pyjamas earlier! Had a cosy PJ day as it was so miserable outside” or something of that ilk and then she’ll no doubt reply “ooo I’m jealous” or something like that, and you’ll feel much better. You shouldn’t feel like you have to but if it makes you feel better then do

I’d judge someone in public in pyjamas - doing the school run, going shopping etc - but not in their own home.
I don’t think it’s unusual. I had to drop something round a neighbours recently - she opened the door in pyjamas and a dressing gown at 2pm and was clearly working from home not even having a “pyjama” day.

Personally I always wear a dressing gown or oodie type thing (usually over clothes not pyjamas) at home during autumn / winter as it keeps me warm and comfortable. In the summer I wear yoga trousers and a vest etc.. it’s all about comfort and you’re entitled to wear what you want in your own home.

We all have pj and duvet days! Don't worry! You do not need to explain yourself to anyone. You're in the comfort of your own home.

And that says a huge amount about you doesn't it?

@Abraxan I meant I'd judge them as lazy if they weren't ill as that's really the only excuse to be in night wear during the day, or if you work shifts.
I was brought up to get dressed for the day and change into night wear before bed. Maybe it's a generational thing but my parents and grandparents never slobbed about in their Pjs.

@whataboutsecondbreakfast I have a hobby and a full time job, thanks. I don't do either in my pyjamas!🙄

Everyone who is saying they would 'judge', it doesn't really matter to anyone else but you, so you can have a nice bitch with hubs when he gets home about the slovenly neighbours while you sit uncomfortably until 10pm.

However, I'm going to be a hypocrite here and admit I would probably have a quick judgement of people who wear pj's to the shops or dropping their kids off at the school gates, but it would literally be a fleeting thought because it's just as easy to put leggings on when you wake up as it is pj bottoms and it's in public. Comfort wear is comfort wear but pink cat pyjama bottoms with a dressing gown while out and about and not in your home is crossing an invisible line (that I have made up).

Anyone who does this can ignore me because it doesn't effect either of us!

I’m not sure I would notice pyjamas though, I might just think it’s leggings/joggers with a t-shirt?

Good for you 🙄

So why do you care so much about what other people happen to wear in their own homes? And more to the point, why are you proud of being so judgemental?

Comfort wear is comfort wear but pink cat pyjama bottoms with a dressing gown while out and about and not in your home is crossing an invisible line (that I have made up).

Maybe I haven’t lived, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone wearing sleep-wear outside the house!

Op this lady appreciated what you did so much that she brought flowers around...she sounds lovely not judgemental. She obviously felt bad that you had to bring her home so late and so will fully understand why you might be opting for a pj day. Although there is nothing wrong with a pj with no good excuses.

I do both too in clothes but I have the odd pj day and I give absolutely no fucks if you would judge me. I even xlap a oodie on sometimes.

I judge people who judge people for having pj days.

Slap not xlap

I haven't personally seen it but there has been SM posts of people sharing photos at supermarkets or local shops (which I don't agree with!) and some threads. Although again probably shouldn't be judgemental, maybe getting out the door that morning was all they could manage.