Parent in pyjamas at this time

[igotatext]

My daughter (9) had her friend over for a sleepover last night but her friend got home sick. Her mum is a single mum and has a younger child and was in the house alone so I offered to drop the friend home, so did that at 1 am. Came home, and didn't manage to get to sleep till about half 2.

So today I decided we were just having a day in the house. I went for a shower and put on fresh jammies. My daughter closed the living room curtains to watch a film and be 'cosy'.

Suddenly there's a knock at the door. I answer and it's friends lovely mum with a bunch of lovely flowers for me to thank me for last night. I thanked her and said she didn't need to do that and off she went.

I am now just so affronted what she must think of me, living room curtains closed at 2 in the afternoon, me in my pyjamas, not a scratch of make up on (and I have really red, bad skin) and I just keep cringing thinking what must she think of me.

In those circumstances would you judge a parent for the same reasons? Or am I overthinking?

Wow. I am so so glad I have no one like you in my life.

I wouldn’t think anything of it anytime, but if I knew you weren’t home yourself until around 2 am and probably weren’t asleep until 230 ish because you were bringing my child home, I would think too right she’s in her pyjamas poor love must be knackered!

I was brought up by parents who were not in PJs in the day and who didn't change into house clothes when they got home or really do slobby clothing. So I would feel underdressed if someone turned up and I was in my PJs. BUT I do have slobby days and remain in my PJs and actually lots and lots of people immediately change into PJs/Loungewear/older and more casual clothes when they get in. It's really sensible to do this actually. So I suspect, unless she is old like me, she won't care. Also, you did have to return her dd in the early hours, she's probably feeling so guilty that she has exhausted you.

What I actually find a bit worrying that you worry about not having make-on. What world are we living in that makes women think like this?

You were dropping her dd off at 1am! She probably just thought you were having a lazy day after a late night with her dd.

Overthinking.

I'm glad I read this. I would never have thought it is something people would judge me for. I am always in PJs at home. Fresh jammies after shower is the norm if I am spending the day at home. I am new to the UK and the concept of 'getting dressed for a day at home' is new to me

Only read your posts. If it was me I'd be feeling embarrassed that having to bring my kid back had left you so tired. I wouldnt be judging you!

Personally I get dressed first thing and only put PJs on when I go to bed. I’d never dream of wearing PJs during the day and I don’t know anyone who would either, even if ill. I’d think you were odd.

Everyone has a pj day once in awhile! Enjoy and stop worrying

At least you weren't at midnight mass in a cathedral in pyjamas and dressing gown. I did have my judgy pants on for that!

You worry too much about what other people think. Fuck em

You’re in your own house, so pj’s are absolutely fine. If you were at the school gates or wandering around Tesco like that, I absolutely would judge you. But, at home, do what you want. No need to overthink!

I would like you better if it was me. Maybe a small glass of white in your hand and we be mates for life

Nothing odd about it. You learn something new everyday

I wouldn't think twice about it! If you can't wear PJs in your own home, when can you?!

I wouldn’t think anything of it. As others have said, we all have PJs days. I find people who have strict rules about when they can/can’t wear pyjamas generally are quite uptight. It’s just clothing.

I find it even odder that when you're home and ill you would still get fully dressed

Funny my DD and I were having a conversation about this sort of thing last week. She said she and her partner thought it was really odd that DH and I wear our jeans in the house when we are relaxing as she and most of her friends get into PJ type clothes the minute they get in!

I used to do home visits as part of my job and many of the parents I visited were wearing comfy soft PJ type clothes- I never thought anything of it- certainly didn't judge them!

I would never judge anyone for lack of make up, but would not think well of someone in pyjamas at that time of day unless I knew they worked night shifts.

Uptight is definitely the vibe

You really need to find some kind of hobby.

You would judge someone in that situation which is why you're so panicky and embarrassed right now.

Maybe readjust your thinking, it'll make life easier and more enjoyable.

Honestly this says more about how judgmental you are than anything else