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Parent in pyjamas at this time

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igotatext · 06/01/2023 15:10

My daughter (9) had her friend over for a sleepover last night but her friend got home sick. Her mum is a single mum and has a younger child and was in the house alone so I offered to drop the friend home, so did that at 1 am. Came home, and didn't manage to get to sleep till about half 2.

So today I decided we were just having a day in the house. I went for a shower and put on fresh jammies. My daughter closed the living room curtains to watch a film and be 'cosy'.

Suddenly there's a knock at the door. I answer and it's friends lovely mum with a bunch of lovely flowers for me to thank me for last night. I thanked her and said she didn't need to do that and off she went.

I am now just so affronted what she must think of me, living room curtains closed at 2 in the afternoon, me in my pyjamas, not a scratch of make up on (and I have really red, bad skin) and I just keep cringing thinking what must she think of me.

In those circumstances would you judge a parent for the same reasons? Or am I overthinking?

OP posts:
Findyourneutralspace · 06/01/2023 19:28

I’d never judge anyone for being in pyjamas in their own home, at any time of day. Some people just like to be comfy at home.

Olivia199 · 06/01/2023 22:05

Honestly PJ days are the absolute goal and I'd have just been a bit envious of your snug jammies and cosy livingroom!

SomethingOriginal2 · 06/01/2023 22:10

Shes thinking the huge favour you did her at 1am fucked your nights sleep and now look at the state of you. She's hardly going to think you're lazy.

AfterEightMintyCedric · 06/01/2023 22:12

I'm self employed and frequently wear something pyjama adjacent when I'm not going out for meetings etc. If I'm writing I sometimes tale my coffee and toast back to bed for the morning.

So basically I'd be in no position to judge, not that I would anyway.

SwingandaPrayer · 06/01/2023 22:17

If you're bothered, then drop her a quick WhatsApp under the guise of saying thanks again for the flowers and just say you're having a lazy movie afternoon in pj's. I'm quite sure she's not judging you though.

MavisMcMinty · 06/01/2023 22:21

I’m retired, with many, many pairs of pyjamas, and if my OH is on dog-walking duty there’s no need for me to get dressed at all that day.

I remember one day I saw/heard a McDonald's ad and suddenly wanted a Big Mac more than life itself, and the only thing stopping me driving the 50-mile round trip* to the nearest McDonald’s was that I was in my pyjamas. It was only much later that I realised I’d have gone to the drive thru’ anyway, without having to get out of the car, nobody would have known I was in my PJs!

*I almost never have a McDonald’s because it’s so far away. It’s both a good and a bad thing.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 06/01/2023 22:57

shrunkenhead · 06/01/2023 18:37

@Abraxan I meant I'd judge them as lazy if they weren't ill as that's really the only excuse to be in night wear during the day, or if you work shifts.
I was brought up to get dressed for the day and change into night wear before bed. Maybe it's a generational thing but my parents and grandparents never slobbed about in their Pjs.

What absolute trash you spout.

RenovationsUnderway · 07/01/2023 06:09

She would know you weren't lazy, as you drove her kid home in the small hours.

WandaWonder · 07/01/2023 06:12

Esmereldaaa · 06/01/2023 15:14

It's not something I would do, but wouldn't judge anyone else for doing that.

I hate being sat around in pyjamas, I like to be dressed.

Me exactly, I get washed and dressed every morning to get it out the way as I find it so boring

But I have zero interest in what others do with this, no wouldn't have given you a second thought

TheWitchOfShields · 07/01/2023 13:36

I've spent most of the Christmas Holidays in PJs and my huge oodie style hoodie. My neighbours, friends, postlady, Hermes delivery driver have all seen me in such and I couldn't give a hoot!

I showered and put clean PJS on everyday, even though I don't sleep in them. I don't care what others are wearing and don't care what people think of me, as long as I'm covered up & warm 😀

SadieContrary · 07/01/2023 14:03

You’re absolutely overthinking it. She’s well aware you hosted a sleepover last night AND brought her daughter home in the middle of the night. The only person judging you is you… and please stop. You’re a good human. That’s all that matters. PJs or not x

InthekitchenAmz · 07/01/2023 14:13

Sometimes being a woman I cannot find a single pair of trousers, joggers or leggings that feel comfortable on my tummy (no matter what time of the month) and only pj bottoms will do...same today and mother nature hasn't been.

In my own home in wearing what is comfortable. my friends are welcome to come on their pjs if they wish as are family. My neighbour does often because I know that she feels comfortable with me as a person to do that and I know that she has the same issue as me sometimes clothes are uncomfortable.

harrassedmumto3 · 07/01/2023 14:15

Totally fine!

Ohhmydays · 07/01/2023 14:20

Totally over thinking. I have probably spent half the holidays in my pjs I couldn’t give 2hoots what any one chapping my door thinks lol

dutysuite · 07/01/2023 14:35

I wouldn’t judge at all. If I’m not going out anywhere on a weekend I wear my PJs. If I go out and come back early afternoon I can’t wait to just get in and put on my PJs. My father always insisted on being up at the crack of dawn showered and dressed even if he didn’t have plans to be anywhere specific. Each to their own!

Sophie89j · 07/01/2023 23:53

We live in our pjs in our house, don’t have comfy clothes for at home so just stay in PJ’s🙈 nothing wrong with it at all!!

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