To regret taking on dog and potentially rehome?

[amberstonelove]

I’ve wanted a dog since my eldest took a huge interest and love for dogs.

I thought it would be lovely for the children. It has been.

I knew I wanted a dog that wasn’t a puppy. I took on a 2 year old dog asked lots and lots of questions etc before taking her on. One of the biggest things for me was bypassing the puppy stage and not having to toilet train etc. The toilet training was a big thing for me. I didn’t want to do it.

The children adore her. My daughter cried when we bought her home. She’s a very sweet loving girl and follows us everywhere.

But I feel the previous owners covered up a lot of things. They didn’t tell us she was in season when we drove miles to get her, they forgot to tell us that she only eats a certain brand of subscription food otherwise she vomits like crazy. The promised and promised she was toilet trained…..

SHE IS NOT.

It’s driving me to despair. I have health anxiety and OCD and this dog I love her and so do the kids but it’s making me ill. My anxiety levels are sky high and i’m vomiting as a result and am in tears every day.
I feel like i’ve ruined our family dynamics even though the kids adore her.
A but I feel like i’m stuck with her now because I can’t bear the thought of breaking my children’s heart they are 3&8.

She is just weeing and pooing everywhere and does not understand going outside for toilets at all. She just stands there. I’ve tried everything.

AIBU to want to rehome her?

I feel so low about all of this. I deeply regret getting her.

Have you MET a French Bulldog?

I don't think one would scare off a bear. Get eaten by one, yeah, but scare one, no.

The OP is not as far as I can tell, living on a vast farm property, nor is it the kind of dog that is capable of growing a thick weather proof coat, your advice is nonsensical in the extreme!

Animals do have the capacity to grow extra fur when needed, you know! Or was it cruel to keep the horses outside also?

Some dogs are suited to life outdoors - collies and huskies, for example.

French Bulldogs, not so much

Agreed about Frenchies being indoor dogs. Our rescue was kept in an outdoor puppy mill in rural PA, and has permanent frostbite on the tips of her ears from living outside 24/7.

My friend’s Samoyed often chooses to sleep outside at night in winter. He beds down in the snow. But that’s the dog’s choice, and he’s free to come and go through a dog door.

Samoyeds are a spitz breed, like huskies, akitas etc - they are designed for arctic temperature. They have small, narrow eyes, small pointed ears thickly furred inside, narrow pointed noses that they can cover with their tails when they curl up at night, and have have incredibly luxurious, dense, double coats.

Whereas, Frenchies . . . perhaps not quite so much 😁