To not find this funny?

[Whatthough]

My husband has a daughter who is 10.

Recently she has started telling literally everyone who comes to our house that I drink all the time (variations of that sort of thing).

The thing is I genuinely hand on heart do not. No more than any other person maybe a glass of wine on the weekend or something but I really do not drink much at all.

I don't know why it's started but she seems to think it's hilarious. I've told her not to say it a few times now but honestly it's starting to piss me off now. She said it to my mum earlier again.

AIBU to get mad if it's said again seen as asking nicely doesn't get me anywhere? DH just thinks it's a joke. Not a funny one. And as awful as it sounds it's just starting to make me dislike her.

If you’ve reacted like it winds you up then obviously she’ll say it more! That’s how jokes work.

I'd be reading the riot act to your husband because this isn't funny, at all. His child, he needs to put an end to this behaviour immediately.

Absolutely do not get mad, she'll think it's hilarious. Just agree with her and make a comment about tripping over the empties at the back door while rolling your eyes. Honestly, do not make anymore of a deal of it - you won't get the outcome you want.

Say “yup, one glass every time you wet the bed”.

Just do the same to her - every time she tells someone you drink too much tell that person some embarrassing tall story about DSD. When she gets upset explain how it makes you feel!

12 is usually the time you learn that if the target of your joke doesn't find it funny, it isn't actually a joke.

I’d try and divert it. My DD loves a non-alcoholic Ironman cocktail. You could make them together - make it fancy in a cocktail glass etc and say this is ‘our drink’

She's saying it more cause it is winding you up, ignore and it should soon stop

Definitely agree with the above. Either ignore, do a ‘yes dear’ with a roll of the eyes, or ham it up and jokingly fall around the place. Don’t ever show it gets to you, children just want the reaction and often don’t have the capacity to see it could be hurtful (they probably don’t really have a concept of alcoholism).

I’d have a stern conversation with your DH where you point out that she’s telling people lies about you having a substance abuse problem and this kind of lie could develop into things that involve social services if said to the wrong person, the wrong way or with the wrong variation. It’s not a joke to an adult, it’s a joke to a 10yo who doesn’t understand the potential repercussions.

Where did she get this from? How did it start? I would expect my DH to stop her from saying it and explain to her how serious these kinds of jokes can be - she simply doesn’t understand that, if taken the wrong way, this could be a really big problem.

I understand why you’re embarrassed but she’s only ten. She has no concept that she’s actually hurting you by doing this. It does not to stop but don’t blame her.

I would suggest your DH deals with her. Little madam. Clearly doesn't realise that that said in the wrong direction could set alarm bells ringing.
It should've been sorted by your DH straight away, she is trying it on and clearly lacks the discipline to understand it's not funny and she should show some respect.

If it helps one of my daughter does this to me. She's 13.

I have maybe one drink a week on a Saturday night and she always always comments. I had a bit more over Christmas like you do (1-2 drinks most but not all days from Xmas eve to new year) and she didn't shut up. It got to the stage I stopped having anything as it was winding me up so much.

But like a pp says, she does it because she gets a rise out of me. Dh drinks the same if not a touch more and she never says a thing to him.

Stop reacting and she'll stop although I know this is much more easily said than done.

No, that's how bullying works; jokes are meant to make people laugh.

Tell your DH that this stops now, and he has to see to it. It's all very well saying ignore it, as some PPs are, but if OP comes to be thought of as an alcoholic by some people that could have negative consequences for her.

I’d do this, every single time.

Don't try and make a "witty" comeback or deliberately humiliate her in front of other people, that's a dick move to pull on a child.

Tell your DH in no uncertain terms that you don't like it and either he puts a stop to it or you will. Next time she does ot give her one warning and a consequence "DSD, I have told you that I don't find this 'joke' funny (and explain why). If you do it again then I'm taking your tablet away/we're going home/you can go to your room/whatever other consequence you usually use" then follow through on it.

What else might she start putting about? It's definitely not funny and needs to be addressed. She's directly lying about you.

WHAT.

My friends kids say this kind of thing. We do all drink sometimes to excess but then tend to stay off it, but the kids always say we like a drink like we are a bunch of lushes.

The very next time she said it I would say "Goodness me, this old lie again! I've repeatedly told you it's not funny. I tell you what - every time you say it to someone then I'll tell them you still wet your pants. That will be funny, won't it?"

She's old enough to do as she's told and not keep repeating something you've told her not to. That's deliberate defiance, whether she thinks it is a joke or not.

Any chance it is something that has come from her Mum?

What? I don’t drink alcohol. Me and my DD make fancy non-alcoholic drinks together. What’s your point?

wtf?

Stop reacting to it but also stop your DH reacting to it; she will be very quickly get bored

Whatever you do, don't do this!

How do think that would resolve the situation at all? And making a 10 year old even a 'micktail' is sending confusing messages imo.