To ask if there is really much difference having children in your late 30's

[FlyingHighFlyingLow]

Just that I guess. Due to careers we've been a bit late settling down (I'm 33, DP 34). We are engaged and were planning on getting married and having a couple of years to ourselves married before having kids but both of our parents had easy pregnancies in their early 30s then a horrific one in their later 30s resulting in long term health problems, surgical intervention etc.

I guess I'm just looking for other persepctives of how others found pregnancies after the dreaded 35 and hoping our parents experiences were just bad luck! Do we need to rethink?

I had my first at 36 and second at 39. Both pregnancies were very easy, not a single day of morning sickness and although I was tired, I was no more so than younger people I knew, and it was mainly in the early days.

Pregnancy over 35 is so much harder. Had my first two early 20's - so much energy, really enjoyed parenthood. Had child 2&3 at 36 and 38 - struggled despite being very fit.
Who leaves parenthood that late if you don't have to?

Meant child 3 & 4 at 36 and 38.

i had my first at 35 and second at 39. Both pregnancies were absolutely fine - no sickness or tiredness at all but was v vv difficult to actually get pregnant and took a LOT of fertility treatments and IVF. So leaving it later isn’t necessarily just about how you’ll cope with pregnancy but actually if you’ll be able to even get pregnant. I wish I’d started sooner!

interestingly I heard very few of my friends having difficulties conceiving in our 20s. Out of those of us who were trying in our mid-late 30s almost all have had IVF.

If you are a person with continuous problems it probably isn’t a good idea.

“dreaded 35” why do you say this? Why do women shame women on age?

im not even 35 saying this. You do realise 35 is young still

My doctor sibling says fertility plummets at 35. I had my last (natural, not identical (2 eggs) twins - so no plumeting in my case at 36 with no problems. People vary however. My mother had an aunt who had her one child at 41; another aunt who had her two at 37 and 39 and another aunt who had her first at 36 and managed to have five within 5 years! (41 when last one born)