Fining children and expecting other parent to enforce it?

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Ex is angry because dc1 has not been answering exs calls and dc2 is angry with him (ex) and was rude to him on the phone.

I have had serious talk to dc2 about rudeness and would support warning and enforcement of agreed discipline for future repeat, but ex wants to fine him £25, with no warning, to be taken from his Xmas money that dc has already received and I would have to enforce.

Ex also wants to impose the same fine on dc1 for not answering calls and for me to similarly enforce it.

I don't use money fines here. I have explained my consequences which are applied and well understood by the dc, but he has decided that he wants to impose fines, £5 per transgression, enforced by me.

AIBU to object to being made into his enforcer and made to use his consequence framework which I don't use here because I don't think it's fair?

Why the fuck doesn’t he pay maintenance?

I’m guessing he’s unemployed Op if doesnt pay any maintenance and in fact you pay him to have your children on occasion?

He is indeed

So I would suggest that him “fining” is more to do about him actually wanting the money for his own purposes and bugger all to do with punishment.

OP… shut down. And do nothing to encourage or enable interaction between your sons and ex. If he wants to see them, he can arrange

Yep, he fancied a chunk of their Xmas money and made up some shitty reason to try and get it. What a horror.

Well done on leaving the bastard, OP.

Your ex is such an arsehole. He’s still trying to control you! You discipline your children as you see fit, not what he wants. He’s going to push the dc away with this stupidity.