Am I just an ungrateful bitch?

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Been with DP a few months, our first Christmas. He can’t do enough for me and he’s so so lovely.
I absolutely love the little things, it’s something I’ve always said and he knows about me. I got him a pair of boots he really wanted, but I also filled a stocking of his favourite snacks and got a few little bits he really loved.

He knows I’m huge on little things too. And there’s lots of little things I have been pointing out such as ornaments for my room, types of (not expensive) jewellery I like, fave type of sweets etc etc.

He got me one big present, which was a piece of jewellery with my favourite flower on it, as well as a Prosecco glass as I accidentally broke one of mine.

It’s honestly really lovely, but he spent over £100 on this big present and I’ve never been huge on big sort of superficial gifts like that. I know I’d rather have £100 spent on lots of little things or something for us to do.

I am really grateful for it but I think I just worry that it means he doesn’t know me very well, or doesn’t listen.

Am I being a bitch? I haven’t said anything and obviously won’t, but just wanted to know if I’m being mean

Honestly after spending 10 years with someone who doesn't get me (and for the second year in a row hasn't got me a birthday or christmas present at all) nope it's ok to want to be spoiled and if he doesn't get that then you need to understand that he might never and consider if this is something you're willing to compromise on!!

I don't think op is coming back

He bought you a thoughtful gift and you're whinging about it. I don't know, are you being unreasonable? That's a tough call.

His present for you sounds a lot nicer and more thoughtful than what you gave him. Poor guy.

I wouldn't say you are being a bitch bit I think you are nit picking a bit.

‘Am I being a bitch?’

Yes.

Yes, you sound really hard work.

You think a piece of jewelery from a boyfriend is "a superficial gift"? No, it isn't. It is actually very meaningful.
It would be rather ridiculous to expect him to gather together loads of tat and put it in a stocking. No-one's got time for that and it's shallow anyway. It's a load of empty fuss. You aren't a little child.

Personally don’t like jewellery but I’d rather have nothing than have someone waste £100 on a load of rubbish that will end up eaten or chucked out in a few months.

he bought you thoughtful gifts, be grateful.

What does he prefer? A big present or lots of small things?

Maybe you will learn for next time.

He sounds lovely.

🤣 jewellery with your favourite flower is superficial, but you buying him his favourite crisps isn’t? 🤣

I would hate £100 on cheap bits that I could have bought myself if I'd wanted them.

I'd much prefer a larger gift and it sounds as if his were very thoughtful.

Maybe 'knowing the real you' means knowing that you are ungrateful and spoilt, and he will run a mile?