He woke up with a cold…. First date

[WorriedWarrier]

Supposed to meet this lunch time…. He’s woken up with a cold.

He doesn’t want to meet, right?

He has a cold. Take people at their word

Hmmm, it could be true but honestly, sounds like an excuse. Let him rearrange, if he doesn’t then move on. It probably feels like it sucks right now though - sending hugs despite that not being a Mumsnetty thing to do

There's a lot of bugs going round recently, I wouldn't want a first date turning up ill! It might be true, it might not. See if he re arranges.

Try not to read into it too soon. I once had to cancel a date as I'd caught chicken pox. Understandably my date didn't believe me, or so i gathered from the playful response about how far i would go to get out of a date. I rescheduled with him once I recovered.

Why don't you just believe him and see if he rearranges? Do you always think badly of people?

He needs to man up! Like previous poster said, give him a chance to rearrange. If he doesn't cut your losses. Colds always feel worse in the morning and evening I think. He may perk up later!

Too early days to say for sure, but cancelling on someone because you have 'a cold' is a bit pathetic. Does he bunk off work too at the sign of a sniffle? Keep an eye on it, but it doesn't sound promising (to me.)

It's a first date. Why does it need hugs? OP will hopefully have many more dates either with this one or someone else.

Things have changed so much on this score. A few years ago no one canceled anything for a cold, but now you leave yourself open to vilification if you don't.

Whatever the truth, all you can do is say sorry to hear that, feel better soon and leave it to him to reschedule when he's well.

I'd expect him to say he's woken up with a cold so do you still want to meet or would you prefer to rearrange.

Choosing to cancel himself is pretty bad form.

There's some nasty bugs going around at the minute, I wouldn't struggle to believe this one. Do you really want a first date with a bloke whose snotty and spluttering everywhere?

It’s 50/50. My friend became ill before a first date so rearranged and now a few years in. Equally I have used it as an excuse to bail on first dates. You’ll only know if he arranges

Impossible to know for sure. You’re right to be cautious. Leave it to him to reschedule. If he doesn’t, you know why.

Less about thinking badly of people and more about thinking highly of yourself.

Maybe @iamruth is just being nice? I mean God forbid some people are actually pleasant to others on here sometimes!

He might be streaming with snot and want to make a good first impression. What's wrong with that?

There's some horrible colds going round. Why not wait and see if he rearranged

Fair enough just seems a bit OTT for a first date and he's cancelled with lots of time.

In the current climate I would cancel with a cold. Wait and see if he rescheduled. Good luck

just ignore him and if he wants to rearrange then maybe decide if it’s something you can be arsed with

Could be either way tbf. I've both used this as an excuse to cancel a first date and let the chat die down, and had to postpone my now BF for a week when i got covid.

I'd park it mentally, don't spend too much time chatting online or thinking about him but if he proactively reschedules in the normal time frame for getting over a cold then give him a chance.

But he knows how ill he feels. So if OP said oh I don't mind he has to drag himself to the date in whatever state he's in?

Has he mentioned rearranging? That would be the key for me - if I had to cancel a date but I was still interested in the person I'd be making sure they knew it was postponed rather than cancelled.

I think it could be true. He would want to feel his best and not under the weather surely. I can feel really manky with a cold. Try and take it at face value, although it’s disappointing!

I would rather someone didn't meet me if they had a drinking cold, who wants people coughing and sneezing all over them.

Of course he may not have been telling the truth, which is a different matter...

Without wishing to derail the OPs actual thread - I just empathised that the OP might be feeling disappointed if they had been chatting to this person for some time and was looking forward to today. I know it’s not the done thing on here to just be nice sometimes and it wasn’t intended to cause offence - just an expression of empathy that might or might not be needed or helpful.