He woke up with a cold…. First date

[WorriedWarrier]

Supposed to meet this lunch time…. He’s woken up with a cold.

He doesn’t want to meet, right?

I cancelled my first date with my now husband because I had a cold. I felt and looked awful, and rearranged for a few weeks later.
Having said that of course, he could be giving you the brush off but only time will tell! You’ll just have to wait and see.

He’s trying to rearrange ;)

Excellent.

So all this fuss for nothing 🙄

@BellePeppa what 'fuss' are you talking about? The thread that you chose to engage with? 🙄

Yayyyyyy! Oh ye of little faith!! Enjoy the date, be pleased that he didn't want to spread his germs about.

See 😀

The fuss the OP was making.

HORRRRAY

see your lack of faith is depressing think the best of people and good things can happen.

I was raised to cancel if sick, because it’s not nice to spread things when you don’t know the other person’s situation (they may have vulnerable relatives, used up their sick leave, not able to afford time off work right now, etc.). If I know the person well, I would let them know and leave it up to them, but for a first date I would cancel in case they felt awkward telling me about a personal situation so early on, or were worried about causing offense.

I wouldn’t automatically assume that his cancellation meant something nefarious. From the last update, it sounds like he’s trying to reschedule?

Poor guy tbh

Let me guess “you should difficult”.

Sound*.

also are you jealous?

You don't just sound difficult but also immature and at some point ridiculous 🤷🏻

Yes, totes jealous of whatever this is

you ok hun x

I don’t think she sounds ridiculous, if a guy sent me a short message before a date stating he has a cold and no plans to re schedule I would also think he has no interest.

also are you jealous?

😂😂

What on earth do you think they might be jealous of?

Back in the day, if I cancelled before a date, it meant I found someone else to go on a date with and I was cancelling this one to make space for it. It's called playing the field, but I agree, doing it right before means its a bit inconsiderate, but you're an attractive stranger. Being exclusive comes over time as it is earned as a sign of mutual respect and attraction, over time, that may become love. It is not a Disney romance unless you're both singing while doing the laundry together. My advice is that this behaviour not a pre-requisite nor something that should be expected from the get go. Glad to hear he rescheduled though! Sometimes people just have colds. You are being unreasonable and you need to be straight up with your date if it continues, to say that you overthink things and need reassurance. You also need to work on your self esteem. Dating can help with that, but don't let it fuel your insecurities and don't let this community be your crutch. We want to help celebrate your successes, not watch you anguish over something most people wouldn't even blink at!

Good luck and best wishes.

Why are you winking at us?

Weird.

Did you manage to rearrange?

Yep this weekend :)

Oh good! Fingers crossed for you that you have a lovely time.

Yes. He’s been messaging me but I feel like momentum has been lost!

but time for me to get out

Ah yes use it as a practice date for when the real deal comes along. You might like him you might not. Have a fab time!