He woke up with a cold…. First date

[WorriedWarrier]

Supposed to meet this lunch time…. He’s woken up with a cold.

He doesn’t want to meet, right?

@WorriedWarrier i was replying to the poster that said she wouldn't see them if they didn't reschedule that day.

which is entirely different to what you just said.

yes, I would have said something about rescheduling when I feel better, but I wouldn't make definite plans.

I wouldn't read anything into someone not saying much else, tbh, he may just feel incredibly shit & not up to wording the perfect text.

Not everyone follows the same script

@Hobbi not the point I know, but why flour??unless it's some kind of in joke, I'd think they didn't believe I wasn't well.

indeed, thats what i'd do - so sorry i have a nasty cold, can we postpone, i should be okay for next Saturday, but also free sunday as well. let me know.

I’ve had a cold with a horrid cough since before Christmas. There’s no way I’d be sharing it on a first date.

Well no I wouldn’t believe that.

I've got a cold at the mo, no way I could go on a date. No way you would want to be on a date with me right now.

Cold sweats, streaming nose, falling asleep, headache, sneezing my head off and feel so rough.

His follow up will be the reveal,eg if he arranges and attend a date. If he remain vague and noncommittal just let it go.

I would say it’s probably genuine, good luck.

@SkylightSkylight
He told my flat mate to say he'd got me some flowers. First of many good/bad jokes.

What’s it to you why it needs hugs? You’re not the boss of Mumsnet!

You'll find out whether it's genuine in 2-5 days' time, when he either gets eagerly in touch to rearrange - or doesn't. Until then, it's could easily be either.

If there’s no push to reschedule then it’s a brush off.

If its genuine then he'll make the effort to rearrange soon surely? Slightly on a tangent I don't think I would want to date someone who cancelled lunch due to a sniffle. Its pretty pathetic.

OP all depends on the message he sent you. I'll explain:

"Hi Jill, sorry I woke up with a cold so lets leave it for another day"

Translation:
Sorry but I may have sneezed at some point this morning and the prospect of going out with this bad weather doesn't look appealing so I'd rather stay at home and play video games. I may or I may not contact you again all depends on how bored I am.

"Hi Jill, I truly apologise, but I woke up with morning feeling awful and I think I came down with the flu or maybe it's just a bad cold who knows. I would have loved to meet you for coffee but I'm in bed sick. Could we move our date for next weekend once I'm feeling much better? I would still love to meet you. let me know if that's OK".

Translation:
He is sick indeed, but he's interested and would still love to meet you.

This ☝️

best response ever OP. His response is not a kind one and shows lack of interest in you. This is not a good apple. I would bin this one and move on to greener pastures if I were you.

But he did? Why are you getting worked up by this?

• didn’t

Men are big babies when it comes to having colds. They feel sorry for themselves. They won’t have dates at the forefront of their minds when ill.

But at least he’s let you know in plenty of time.

The ball is in his court OP. If he wants to rearrange, he will.

I woke up with flu on Wednesday and literally could not get out of bed. I was fine the day before. So embarrassing, I had an important work meeting I couldn't miss. I missed it.
See how he feels when he is better.you wouldn't want him to pass on his germs surely.

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt, but wait for him to take the lead in rearranging. If he doesn't, you'll have your answer.

I've woken up with a cold this morning too. My throat is on fire and I can feel myself getting more bunged up. If I had a date planned for today, I'd cancel too. However as soon as I felt better, I'd be looking to rearrange.

Maybe it's fate.
the fact he is this bad with a cold,imagine how he'd be if you lived together and he had a cold or flue .

If you're not happy with how he's handled things...just move o .

My first date with now DH, I had tonsillitis and temp of 104. No mobile phones then, so just had to ‘stand him up’ 🫢