To think toddler swearing isn’t a big deal

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My daughter recently said fuck off recently. I was videoing her and she said it in context, she is two. I tried not to react as didn’t want to make it into a bigger deal. I don’t swear around my kids, or certainly not at them.

I told her dad, sent him the video because the timing was perfect and kind of funny ( I do NOT think children swearing is okay or cute but it happens).
a whole argue started as he said he’s not impressed, I need to find out where she got it from, we recently spent time with family over Christmas. My family also don’t swear around elders or children culturally it’s not the done thing.

Her dad said he feels like someone must be talking to her like that, maybe in my family we think it’s okay but no one is his family ever swore as a child. He said I need to figure out how she learnt this, could be from literally anywhere?! I don’t think hunk it’s a big deal, she doesn’t know what the words mean and I wouldn’t encourage it? Am I really being unreasonable to think it’s not a big deal?

Well he's pissing against the wind if he thinks he can find out where she heard it.

But to answer your question, yes I think toddlers swearing is a big deal but I'm aware some others disagree.

Horses for courses.

Gross.

It's pretty terrible. I'd be shocked if I heard a two year old swearing.

It IS a big deal and when you send your child to pre-school / school and other people’s children pick it up from her, you will discover this for yourself. Teachers won’t be impressed either. With you, that is.

You did the best thing by not reacting to it, all kids do it at some point!

You may not find out where she got it from but I would be discouraging it.
It’s awful.

It is a big deal - sorry. She obviously heard it somewhere. I would be saying to her 'we don't say those words'.

I think it's a big deal. It's horrible to hear little kids use language like that.

This must be a joke. Yes it would be a big deal for me and most nurseries and schools. Most worrying would be that she’s heard people using it either to others or worse to her- doesn’t that worry you?

i’m not saying I enjoy her swearing, or want her to do it again. But it’s not the huge deal where we can find out where she heard it, then what? We know where it came from then?

She’s not being deliberately naughty, we don’t talk like that in my home and I just moved the conversation on and she hasn’t said it again

No, they don’t

A two year old saying ‘fuck off’ is dreadful.

It would be a massive deal in my house! Grim.

Yes it’s a big deal especially given it was said in context. It would make me worry about abuse if I heard a toddler say that.

It is awful. She has heard it somewhere, and used it in context. It isn't funny, sorry.

we can find out where she heard it, then what? We know where it came from then?

Again surely this must be a joke? You speak to whoever it is and ask them to stop using inappropriate language or your daughter stops seeing them. Good grief, it’s not rocket science.

there is no way someone has spoken to her like that. She’s with me all the time I can’t really think where she would get it from. I’m a single parent and it’s just me and the kids. I don’t swear in front of them. I obviously don’t enjoy hearing her say it, I don’t advocate for it one bit.

She does go to nursery but they have never said anything to me, I obviously would be embarrassed but what can I do?

Are you pretending that you don't find it a big deal to be a contrarian ?

Your toddler was unsupervised long enough for someone to swear around her. I wouldn't be impressed and I wouldn't be impressed with my partner shrugging it off either.

youll be asked at nursery/school where does she acquire delightful language from. We only asked her to put the pens away 🤣🤣

My son said 'shut up' a few times and we made a big deal about how you don't say that, it's unkind, bad words etc. He said it for months, with this look of smug power on his face when he did so. It became a whole big deal that dragged on, his nursery even got involved because other kids were copying him, it was a whole thing.

My son has also said fuck maybe three times, ever. We totally ignored it each time. It never became a thing. He's never sworn at nursery.

Ignore, move on, don't tell them it's bad words because you are handing them a weapon! 😂

It's truly dreadful language from a toddler. We moved house to get away from neighbours who encouraged our daughters to use bad language and laughed delightedly when they did it.

The child will not be popular at nursery or school, if they are overheard using bad language, and staff I'll massively judge the parents.

I'd laugh it off and hope it didn't happen in polite company. Some people on this thread sound like they need smelling salts.

My daughter recently said fuck off recently. I was videoing her and she said it in context

In what way did she say it in context? Also the odds of filimng at the exact time she said it, and when using the words in context would be incredibly slim. So I suspect her dad is worried it's a lot more than a one off.

No. Some people simply have standards.

No it’s not a massive deal. You try as hard as you can and it will slip out, they’ll hear it and copy it. If it’s not you it’s someone else.
My son knows what a swear word is and he will
absolutely not say swear in front of anyone except me or his father. Even if he says then in front of us we correct him, but I know he will.
I would rather him be kind, friendly, polite and loving and say the odd “oh shit” than be a horrible, rude, naughty boy.