Is it inappropriate for an opposite sex teen/YA to share a hotel room with parent?

[MrsRobinsonsHandprints]

This was raised on another thread but isn't directly related to the thread so I don't think this is TAAT. Also if you read that thread please don't talk about it, this is a wider question than that situation.

Providing everyone gets on and is happy with it I don't think it is inappropriate for a parent to share a hotel room with their opposite sex child/Young adult. I would go further and say (again providing both sides are happy) that it isn't inappropriate to share with your child at any age.

YABU you shouldn't share with your older child

YANBU, it is a parent child relationship of course it isn't inappropriate.

Maybe there’s history there? And I’m guessing PP can afford the rooms. But struggling families who get one holiday every 10 years, not so much.

imo it’s only inappropriate if one of them
is a weirdo - I’m what other scenario is it inappropriate?

DS1 has to travel for work so we sometimes have to stay over, I wld share with him, he's 16, we also went in holiday recently and DH, I and both DSs shared. I would share with my dad also if need be if single beds available.

I don't think it's weird and anyone who thinks it is I would definitely judge.

I think you have a general unhealthy view of parent teen relationships. It’s a bit strange. The vast vast majority of parents have a normal appropriate relationship with their grown up children, whatever the age.

But WHAT is more likely??

You're more likely to, um, masturbate if you're sharing a room with your son? You're more likely to.. nope, can't think of anything else!

In the glorious new world of gender self-id having to share a room with a same sex parent sinks into 'whatever' territory when your daughter will have to accept a boy watching her change for PE at school every week as he says he's a girl and that's a female boner thanks you trainsphobic beatch.

Absolutely fine. You can get changed in the bathroom. Only problem is that it’s not always easy to get a twin room rather than a double.

@BethDuttonsTwin no you should ignore the loons! & carry on as you are!

in your situation any two of us would share the bed and the other on the sofa
or whatever.

@MrsRobinsonsHandprints I didn't see the other thread, but I don't think it's inappropriate at all!! I have an abundance of god children/nieces & nephews & now some great god daughters.

I'd share with all of them, they'd all share with me & so would their parents.

only thing that makes me hesitant these days is that I snore, so I don't sleep well trying not to!! 🤣🤣

When I was 19 me and my Dad went on a week away to America just us. It would have been way too expensive to justify going if we didn’t share a room and it was fine. It was a small city central room in a modern hotel with a bunk bed (I was on the top).

Most hotels don't let teens have a room without an adult staying in it.

I would share a room with the opposite sex family members. Getting changed in private then going to bed isn't a big deal for a holiday or short trip.

I have 2 teens. We still get a family room on holiday as it’s cheaper. If we stay in cheaper hotel I get 2 rooms. DS shares with his dad and add with me.

The 6 hotels we've stayed in over the last year allow it perfectly happily. In UK and abroad. Including premier inns.

Sorry!! Mis read that as hotels don't allow an adult to stay with a teen!!! My fault - apologies!

That was probably my post. Still think it’s inappropriate.

Pfhh. Went on a recent family holiday and space was a bit tight in the rented villa for 10. One room had 2 double beds and the others had one double bed each. My 33 yo BIL had to share a bed with 67 yr old MIL and they also had and aunt and uncle sharing the other double bed on the room 😂😂😂 He got no sleep for the 5 days thanks to the snoring.

Meanwhile since we were 11 in a 10 bed villa, my own poor 24 yo brother had to cosy up in a double bed between by parents, also big snorers 😅

What are you insinuating? I have a very healthy relationship with my adult DC and did when they were teens. There’s nothing wrong with valuing privacy for yourself and your teen DCs.

Not if its a member of your family, don't see that there's any issue atall. In fact I'd find it odd to not share if the only reason is sex of the child. If old enough then own room best but happy to share.

imo it’s only inappropriate if one of them
is a weirdo

And sadly if they are then they are not only a weirdo when sharing a hotel room.

That’s my point actually, there doesn’t have to be risk of inappropriate behaviour for a situation to be inappropriate.

Quite possibly, it's just unusual for me to have other people agreeing with me, twice this week I've been called a troll/bot because my opinion is different to the majority. I respect your view even if I don't agree.

Also, I went on a few overnight sports trips at uni and we were made to share rooms with all sorts. Definitely not segregated on the basis of sex.

@Onnabugeisha

could you explain what you think is 'inappropriate' about it?

I've got a primary aged and a pre-teen, and we happily share a hotel room/bed at the moment - can't see why that would ever change (well, beyond the fidgetting/farting/duvet hogging of course - but that actually seems to have reduced as they get older.. perhaps it'll increase again)

They're my sons! Exactly what 'innapropriate' behaviour are you expecting?

Thank you for respecting my opinion. I’m glad you started this thread because I’ve always been a bit aghast at how entire families with teens seem to pack into a tiny family room at resorts while we have a 3 bed villa…

I think a holiday in such crowded conditions would drive me doo lally.

Have gone away with my dad when younger, shared a hotel room but 2 beds (I was around 25)

I'd not share a bed with him, unless total emergency, would mind less if it was mum I suppose.