Is it inappropriate for an opposite sex teen/YA to share a hotel room with parent?

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This was raised on another thread but isn't directly related to the thread so I don't think this is TAAT. Also if you read that thread please don't talk about it, this is a wider question than that situation.

Providing everyone gets on and is happy with it I don't think it is inappropriate for a parent to share a hotel room with their opposite sex child/Young adult. I would go further and say (again providing both sides are happy) that it isn't inappropriate to share with your child at any age.

YABU you shouldn't share with your older child

YANBU, it is a parent child relationship of course it isn't inappropriate.

I'm a single parent to my dd now 16yo, she'd hate having her own room if we stayed away. I know this for a fact as she had her own room when we went on a caravan holiday and she chose to come in with me as she felt lonely 😂

I wouldn't think it was odd to share an occasional hotel room with teenage son or daughters. We have had various s combinations over the teenage years, bothers and sisters, me and son, me and daughter, all of us in a tent, aunt and neice, me and my dad. The only issue I have sharing is they complain about me snoring and I complain about their farting.

My adult son has ASD and I sleep in the bed with him if he’s poorly. We could also share a twin room if needed but he does like his space. Having said that I could never have been this close with my father, but that is because of the type of person that he was.

In lots of hotels you actually can’t do this anyway. Premier Inns and Travelodges actively check. So while I could check my husband and I and our 2 children in to 2 rooms (when they would and do question who sleeps in each), if I took the children myself I physically could not have separate rooms as it would be clear there wasn’t someone over 18 in each room as per their rules.

Therefore if my 15 year old son and I did travel just us, we would have to share a room to meet certain hotels’ policies anyway.

We share hotel room with 17 yr old dd. We did a week cruise in a small inside cabin this year.
Teens are usually on a different time scale. In New York we went to breakfast while she faffed in bathroom getting ready at her leisure. On cruise we barely saw her - we went to bed and she was still out socialising. In morning we went to breakfast she was asleep. It wasn’t an issue at all.

When I go on holiday / weekend break with my teen / YA sons we usually share a room. Its a few days. When we all go together for a week or so, I / they usually have my own room. Change in the bathroom, walk around in bedroom in joggers / T shirt. How can this be inappropriate ...?

I share with my adult sons no issues, they don’t want their own room

We all share a tent so I don’t see why not.

Wait until you find out about hostels. We regularly share not just with each other but also with strangers.

That's interesting. I'm sure I heard about a case of a man who took his teenage daughter on holiday and the hotel contacted the police because they thought he must be up to some mischief.

Yep it’s 100% true.

Husband and I took 2 x 15 year olds (son and nephew) to a Premier Inn (2 rooms booked) and we were asked who was sleeping where, because we had to have one adult per room.

We regularly book a separate room for my 15 year old because that’s his preference (not anything to do with me as a female, he doesn’t like sharing with my husband either), but we have to book a double and a triple and pretend we have one extra child for the triple and that there’s an adult in each. We have been genuinely grilled on this, more so in London than anywhere else, with both Premier Inns and Travelodges.