Is it inappropriate for an opposite sex teen/YA to share a hotel room with parent?

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This was raised on another thread but isn't directly related to the thread so I don't think this is TAAT. Also if you read that thread please don't talk about it, this is a wider question than that situation.

Providing everyone gets on and is happy with it I don't think it is inappropriate for a parent to share a hotel room with their opposite sex child/Young adult. I would go further and say (again providing both sides are happy) that it isn't inappropriate to share with your child at any age.

YABU you shouldn't share with your older child

YANBU, it is a parent child relationship of course it isn't inappropriate.

Bottom line in most cases is the options are teen shares, or doesn’t go. Most can’t afford to double hotel rooms, even if u18’s were allowed to stay alone.

even in some cases like holidays the choice is two hotel rooms, but a lower budget for spending money/generally. We would rather share a room for a week and have the spare cash rather than 2 rooms in a lesser hotel and have to count every penny while we’re out there.

what if you have two opposite sex dc? Do you need a room for the parents, one for ds and one for dd? If it’s inappropriate for a parent to share with a child, it must be for opposite sex teen siblings as well.

It’s totally fine to share a room with your own children. Last holiday we went on we had a family room with ds (17) and both my husband and I have shared rooms with our adult children, of an opposite sex, at some point or another over the years. Can’t imagine what people are doing in their rooms that make it inappropriate.

If I’m having to share a hotel room with my teenage sons I do wear my pjs. I wear more clothes than I wear on a sun lounger next to the pool. Inappropriate?? What is inappropriate? Smiling, wearing socks in bed? Not brushing teeth?

"But you’re a mature adult not a 17 yo girl."

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing We've done it since I was a teen.

Not ideal but sometimes needs must.

It's definitely not inappropriate. Wouldn't be my choice but I could live with it for a few nights. Would prefer an en suite though for changing clothes. I don't undress in front of my teens or want to be there when they do.

if separate beds and enough room for a bit of privacy, then ok for a single night eg after a family party or at an overnight stop en route to or from a holiday then it's fine. not fine for multiple nights throughout a longer holiday, and certainly not expecting to share a double bed.

I declined an offer for DS & me to join a larger friends group holiday when I found the sleeping arrangements would be that he and I would be sharing a tiny twin bedroom where there would be hardly any space between our beds, I didn't feel it would be fair on him to have his mum that close for a week. a young man needs a bit of space. he went alone instead.

I travel with my 17 year old ds a lot - he and I love to travel, his dad isn't so keen.
We always share a room (though not a bed).
We wouldn't go if we had to pay for 2 separate rooms.

There's a vast difference between being unhappy to do something/ disliking it or it being inappropriate.

I do not think it's inappropriate.

I'm thinking I'd better cancel the upcoming holiday with my 14 year old as we have a 2 single bed studio. It might damage him beyond recognition. And I'll let all the other families doing the same know their poor precious teens will be scarred

It's not ideal but as a one off if no other alternative then it's not the end of the world.

It’s still inappropriate imho.

And if we couldn’t afford separate rooms for our teen/YA DC, we didn’t go on the holiday/trip.

If money was not an issue, it would be lovely for teen/adult children to have their own hotel room, but cost often precludes this. I have shared a room with my DS (21) and he usually shares a room on holiday with his sister (18). We always specify twin beds and the kids dress in turns in the bathroom. Only time it was a problem was when we stayed in a hotel which had a glass panel between the bathroom and the bedroom. DH and I had to go to the bar (shame) to give them a room each to shower and change in.

Separate tents is what happens with us.

My son and I travel a lot. We always share a room and he is now 17. This year we went on a cruise, short trip to Milan and to Qatar for the World Cup. Had twin beds in a room for all trips. Really not a big deal and certainly not inappropriate.

He doesn’t see it as a big deal - just asked him and he just shrugged his shoulders and said ‘what’s the issue?’

Not doing anything inappropriate, that’s actually more likely amongst those who insist on sharing rooms.

^^ totally this!

We continued with family rooms until both DS were over 16. At that point I was the one that refused to do so any more. Between the farts, snores, messy loo seats, bathroom queues and the fact that there were just too many limbs in a small space ( they were both over 6 foot by then with my over 6 foot husband), I had enough. I got myself a cheap single room and left the blokes to it 🤣🤣🙄🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm glad the majority agree, I often seem to have a different view point to the majority on MN but was surprised when I read a post saying it was inappropriate. I can't see that it is preferable in most cases but certainly not inappropriate.

Mind you I forgot that by then I was also menopausal and needing to throw covers off - not good idea with sns in same room 🤣🤣😱

Under 18’s aren’t allowed to stay in a room on their own in hotels.

Depends on the hotel. We never had any issues. Easy to get connecting rooms or a suite.

I wouldn’t chose to but for a couple of days I wouldn’t have a problem. Too expensive for everybody to have separate rooms.

Why is it wildly inappropriate?

Nobody is naked or cracking one out etc, they're sleeping so what's inappropriate about that?

Can you explain WHY it's inappropriate?? What is happening that is inappropriate? This is what I would really like to understand and no one is explaining.

your teens would prefer to miss out on a trip than share a bedroom with a parent?

😂