He's sent sick DS in

[WantedHisDayOff]

For context my DS who is 2 attends nursery on a Thursday and has been sick for the past couple of days with a barking cough, snotty nose and temp.. While he seems ok in himself his cough is quite nasty.
He woke up this morning with a slight temp again - just under 38c and seemed under the weather but did perk up after my Dh gave him calpol.

I said I didn't think he should go in to nursery today, my Dh who is on leave until after New year's said it wasn't fair he wanted his day off, also because he's perked up after the calpol said he'll probably be ok but worst case if he's sent home early so be it.
He also said he would look after him on condition I finished early, which I said was ridiculous as he's got the day off and I'm supposed to be covering because of Christmas leave today and tomorrow.

I don't think this is fair on the nursery workers or other children who may catch it either.
AIBU to not take the day off when my Dh is on leave (and is being a jerk because this is his only chance to have a day without ds this week)

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Totally agree! 10.30/11 is the magic time.

its amazing how unwell some children are sent into nursery

eg been off sick for a few days, come in to nursery dozed up on calpol and are lethargic and not themselves with a sky high temperature,.

we’ve also had children come in during the height of summer with long sleeved tops, leggings, jumpers and we have noticed spots which turned out to be chicken pox!

About temperatures…when I was having chemotherapy I was told to take my temperature twice a day and if it reached 37.5 or over to go straight to hospital. I realise there is a difference between my case and a child but I always use 37.5 as a benchmark.

The nursery staff could probably smell the calpol and your not so DH has damaged your reputation with the setting. They now know he has no regard for his sons health and sees nothing wrong in passing illness to other people because he wants to watch TV in his pyjamas. It's going to be fun when he has to take a week off because the nursery staff have coughs, snotty noses and temperatures. Well done him 👏

Jesus can weep all he likes. I’ve already explained it was in response to a different poster and not to the OP.

@WantedHisDayOff

I hope you're managing to get work done & DS feels better soon.

I think some posters have been completely unnecessarily harsh on you - your H is the child's parent too, and I agree you weren't left with a lot of choice here.

I rarely judge situations in black & white on MN but here I have scant time for your H; regardless of how he might otherwise be a good day, he has been selfish & uncaring here & I would be furious, but more upset. I can't imagine a parent deciding to send a sick child to nursery when they had the option not to.

I think you need to really thrash this out with him later.

Jesus can weep all he likes

😂 potato this line made me laugh!

He also said he would look after him on condition I finished early

This really stood out to me, amongst all the arseholery that has already been mentioned upthread. What kind of man attaches 'conditions' to looking after his own unwell child?? What decent men regard as basic parenting, your DH clearly views as him doing you a massive favour. Not only has he selfishly put his own wants ahead of your poorly DS's needs, he has also shown how little regard he has for your work. He clearly thinks your job is so unimportant it's something you can dip in and out of for his convenience. I'm sorry, OP but your DH sounds like a misogynistic twat.

That's nice of him. That's the only symptoms my 8 month old had when she was unwell - turns out it was strep A. If he's happy to potentially pass that around a nursery, then it shows what kind of man he is.

“The nursery staff could probably smell the calpol“ omg 😂 it’s not booze!

I said to dh don't expect me to look after him today but I might finish 1 hour early anyway if I want to and he said ok.

rookie mistake. Do the opposite. Finish an hour later.

So because your child was like that, you cannot understand how any other child could be any different???

My child is silent & laid on sofa when poorly. As are many children. Everyone is different! Either way, they certainly should NOT be at Nursery!

Also, your DH possibly gave medicine to your child when it wasnt needed, which is bad enough. Unless there are other issues to be considered, giving paracetamol to bring a fever of 38 down is bad as the body needs the temperature to fight the bugs of.
I find it actually disgusting what your DH did.

surely your child has more symptoms than what op ‘s child has to even tested for strep A and antibiotics? I hope you don’t give your kid antibiotics every time they have coughs and running nose and temp of near 38? 🙄

@RealBecca when he gets every other weekend access ?!?! Wtf?!

It’s always the way isn’t it. My DD nursery staff were stopping like flies pre-Christmas because every man and his dog were sending in their sick kids, end result being no staff and kids like my DD becoming unwell. Selfish arses!

At times like this, I like to remind myself that one day your DS may be choosing your husband's care home.

To be fair, I did once discover my husband stuffing my child into a winter coat when his arm was still sore after a fall in gym class two days before. My husband wanted to play golf! I took my son to the doctors, got him X-rayed and then took him to be plastered up because he had broken a bone in his wrist. I have given my husband a pass on this one because generally speaking he has been very good with the children and at least he wasn't running the risk of infecting somebody else.

In your circumstances, I would learn to drive.

You d send him in while you go home to sit on the couch for the day?

its irrelevant if the parents is staying home for the day isn’t it? I usually calculate my pay for the day + the fees paying to nursery, so it actually costs a lot more on our day off to keep our son home if we still have to pay for nursery.

I can completely understand where your DH is coming from. I mean, we all know how mums jealously guard their vacation days and refuse to care for sick children, and how SAHMs demand their 28 days of paid leave a year… oh wait, no. This is REALITY, where we all know how mums have to give UP their vacation plans if they need to care for sick children, and how SAHMs never get a day of paid leave. Or even unpaid leave. Or even a 20-minute break when a child is poorly.

So obviously, your DH is a fucking clown. ESPECIALLY for using key workers’ advantage to send your sick tiny son in for an early nursery start at 7am so he could maximize his child-free time. Disgusting.

No, those were the exact symptoms my child had, barking cough, temperature and snotty nose, when the GP decided to test.

I'm not sure why you're saying "I hope you don't give your kid antibiotics everytime they have coughs...etc". You surely know that in the UK, you can't just decide to go into tesco and buy antibiotics off the shelf and give them to your kid, yeah? The only time a kid can get antibiotics is when a doctor or other prescribing heatlhcare professional assesses them and deems them clinically indicated. So yes, I do give my child antibiotics when they've been examined and assessed by a doctor and subsequently prescribed antib's.. And I will continue to take the advice of a doctor over the opinion of 'zoemelb' off mumsnet when it comes to the medical treatment of my unwell child, thank you very much.

And your eye rolling emoji - do kindly fuck off dear 👍

Smug? Don't think that's what you should be feeling.
How can you still be attracted to the man who sent your poor son in to nursery sick so he could laze on the couch?
You son must be feeling awful and really unwell. Imagine if you got sent to work like that.

Problem is with current news. Im really questioning that only those symptoms can be indicated of strep a and the GP even bother to test it. Definitely not my GP, and those symptoms are not the only symptoms of strep A (or a case of concern) as far as I am aware. Other parents whose child are sick at the moment may make them nervous- eg OP.

gladly so. 🙄🙄🙄