For those having a crap Christmas- come here and rant

[ReformedWaywardTeen]

Just that really.

Mine are:
Yet again, no Christmas gift from DH. He's had weeks. Ive literally done everything else, every gift, every bit of food planning, been cooking since Friday for it. Not one fucking thing.

My house is damp and crappy, landlord is a wanker so no point asking him as he'd already made comments about our rent being way under the value for houses in the area. Despite the fact the only thing the tosser does each year is a gas check and we've lived here ten years. So I went to put something nice on today as I live in jeans and never go out really bar to the supermarket, to find my tights have rotted through due to damp. The back of the drawer they were in is disgusting but I didn't realise as it's not a drawer in regular use. So now, fuck all to wear.

I have anxiety about my looks anyway due to my toxic mum who used to call me the ugly sister to my younger half sister. I always think people wonder why DH is with me when I'm fat, ugly and useless, or so my brain tells me, so now when everyone else looks nice I feel like a joke.

DD very obviously didn't like their gifts. It's difficult to know what to get them as they're an older teen, and don't conform to typical teen fashion from PLT and the likes. They barely smiled at anything but have said it was all nice they just don't have to jump around about gifts as they're not a little kid anymore.

DS is unwell with a cold. He's really trying to get in the spirit but can tell he'd rather be in bed bless him.

So yes, if you're having a shit time and can't say anything to your nearest and dearest, say it here.

Sorry to everyone having to deal with loss and serious illness, or other reasons for not enjoying Christmas which are quite frankly more valid than mine. Feeling very tearful at the moment.

I brought the cold from hell home to my family in just enough time for DH and DD (16) to be coughing constantly and off their food today. I've struggled through being ill to buy and wrap gifts only to have a super-quick masked-up gift exchange only with DD (25) and DS (25) and their partners rather than the usual few hours spent together which I've been looking forward to.

I feel awful for DD because she pretty much missed out on the last holidays due to stress and appointments, and this time she's been ill since the holidays began.

Also DH is the most awkward person to buy for, we usually just exchange cash and this year's no different so I feel guilty because he is actually rather a lovely person and I've been able to do nothing to make his Christmas better.
I just wish I could wave a magic wand and make everything less shit for everyone.

It's not a good time of year to be alone and depressed. Very sad that I wasn't included in friends' Secret Santa (have been in all previous years), They have all been online, showing their presents and saying thankyou. If I say something it will make other people feel bad on Christmas day.
So very sorry to all of you who have lost loved ones, it must be so hard today

I hope that made you feel better. This being a thread to vent all sorts of uncomfortable emotions, no matter how petty. You know... a safe space to blurt and regain some perspective. Usually without any nasty judgemental shit.

Well done. Merry Christmas 💖

2 year old daughter prefers daddy, I do everything for her. Always there and from the moment she got up today she said no mummy, daddy. She has rejected me helping her with her Santa toys.
It has pushed me over the edge. Christmas has a wonderful way of magnifying pain.

That coupled with a recent house move, a difficult and sad family situation and just not settled in new home. It’s small fry in comparison to many on here so sending love xx

My oven broke halfway through cooking lunch so chips instead of roast potatoes and no pigs in blankets etc. Thankfully the turkey was cooked.

Have you read the whole bloody thread where posters are devastated because of recent bereavement or where close family have diagnosis of serious illness ? This is meant to be a thread for kindness and empathy . It doesn't always have to be a race to the bottom .

It's been nice, the children are happy with their presents and my husband cooked a lovely dinner. However my 10 year old may have ASD/PDA on top of diagnosed ADHD and with the day not going how she wants it to there's been a couple of meltdowns. This started before 4AM when she woke us up and we wouldn't let her wake up her little sister until 6.

@DanteThunderstone thank you. Everyone says that and I sure hope so. I wouldn't even mind formula at this point if only he wasn't rejecting the bottle too

I am so so sorry.

Hugs to everyone having a crap Christmas. Mine is only averagely rubbish - everyone is ill.

Everything bad feel feels so heightened at Christmas when everyone is supposed to be happy. Here's to Boxing Day. 🍷

Dd at her dad's for the first time. DP was hospitalised with a virus that spread and put him into respiratory failure, he is out the other side and came home yesterday but he is very weak and not up to do anything but sleep. We had to cancel plans, so I'm sitting here watching crap telly, bored and fed up. It's not his fault, but we have had a year of serious health problems and It's starting to get to me a little

Husband shouted at me in front of my entire family. Then he ‘helped’ wrap up the Santa presents and in doing so revealed how little he has engaged with the present buying process (or indeed the kids). Thought a scissor set was for the 15 month old, ffs, and when I went to comfort the crying baby I came back to find he’d put a bunch of her presents on the 4 year old’s pile. He hasn’t bought me anything. Not the first time. He spends most of his time on his computer, even at Christmas. I’m so embarrassed. My whole family can see that he has no time for me and pretty limited interest in the children.

Snap. I feel like this is my exact situation. I'm in shock from realising how I've been covering up for my abusive family for years and something triggered me a few days ago. I feel like my soul has left my body and I'm remembering years of abuse.

I'm also in on the shit Christmas I've organised dinner made sure we had everything we needed I needed to get a couple more f last minute things yesterday DH decided to have a go at me and say I should have had it already done has since nearly spoke to me I organised all kids gifts last night under the tree from Santa made breakfast cleared up made dinner my youngest son feels ill and so do and still no help and my Dh decided not to give me a gift today either I've cried a couple of times but holding a brave face for our youngest, Merry Christmas to you all and take things at your own speed with lots of Prosecco

I was doing so well, having made the sauces at 8am and about to do the hello mates, blah blah. When son said, ah don't to Mrs S. Good friend died Friday. We kept it from you so not to spoil Christmas. Bastards. Old friend, husband of couple, (he was known to me first at the school gate). The wife said he didn't want visitors. I am angry I was banned from visiting. You know when you look at your friend's husbands and think, ah no. I looked at him and thought what a lovely bloke. I am a mess today and no chance of a happy Christmas. I burnt the turkey. They can get their pudding.

well said.

Minor problems here but dh is cooking the dinner and didn't realize the foil tray for the turkey had a hole in it so all the turkey juices have run off into the bottom of the oven and onto the floor when he got it out of the oven leaving nothing to baste it with so he is stressed and grumpy about that. Elderley dog sprung into action licking up the turkey juices so hoping she hasn't made herself ill. I got caught in a torrential rain storm earlier with no cost whilst walking the dogs so feeling thoroughly damp and cold. Sorry to all of you recently bereaved, and I hope you somehow mange to muddle through x

I've got Covid.
Sister and nephew had huge row resulting in him running away (for half an hour).
My kids fighting and one broke the other ones favourite toy.
Dinner now about 2 hours late due to the running away incident.

Yeah my Xmas is rubbish too....

8 months pregnant and my family haven't even bothered to text or call yet alone include me in any celebrations (my family dropped me as soon as I got pregnant, just like they did to my cousin too).

I found out a few weeks ago that my husband had been having an affair with a co worker as soon as i found out i was pregnant in may till Nov (I was in hospital with bleeding and my phone ran out of battery so I used his... only for a message about sexual positions to come thru from another woman!)

Well, a day ago he texted her that he loves her and always will after spending weeks saying she means nothing and he don't love her.

So I'm alone in the bedroom in the dark. Husband's downstairs scoffing his face and enjoying himself. My family are gathered together up north having a massive family dinner, treats, games and presents.

In the new year..... ill return the favor to each of them!.

DH has had flu plus a chest infection, he's just starting to feel better as I've come back to bed for the second time today as I'm feeling rubbish. We had to cancel going to my DDs, who always dies a lovely Christmas, and cancel his DCs and their children on 27th. However we're still here and have each other. Hugs to all suffering bereavement or a not so good Christmas

My oh is in hospital not doing very well, struggling with fighting off an infection.
Been to parents and mid way thru dinner prep my mum feels unwell and gets very upset tummy so we've just had to all jump in car and dash away as I daren't take a bug to my husband.
So no Christmas stuff, can't go visit husband, feeling very sorry for myself and all of us.

DP however is saving the day, doing all the cooking and letting me rest and keeping me in tea and hugs. I am grateful for him and 6 months today he will become my husband so that's amazing.

Sorry for the rest of your crappy day but to this. Congratulations.

I've had a shit day( not that the kids know)I'm really bothered about my ex this year playing happy family's with his "new" family. I have no idea why it's bothering me I can't stand him!

My DP spends Christmas with his DC at his parents' house. I can't go because ex would kick off and refuse to let the children go. He's sending me photos of everything that is going on. All the food, presents, happy faces etc. This is his way of including me in the day. I don't have the heart to tell him that it does nothing for me. So I'm sat at home, in my Oodie, eating Ferrero Rocher which I can't taste because I have Manflu, having to make my own Lemsips, with no presents because Royal Mail still has them!

I don't hate it, though. Never been a Christmas person and I am very introverted, so it quite suits me. It's just embarrassing when having to answer, "how was your Christmas?"

Mines been hard rather than out and out shit.

Mum died earlier this year and it is our first Christmas without her.

Had a lovely Xmas dinner at dads yesterday and back today for breakfast and gifts.

We had let overs for lunch but I think it was too long because kids opened gifts here before we went and usually we spend morning at home to explore and afternoon at parents.

The shit bit really has not only been mum missing but that my brother and sister are such miserable stroppy shits anyway and I've noticed it more this year. My sister is vile to my dad. He's not an easy man but he's not unkind or difficult - he just is an older man who likes to do things his way.

She cannot grasp the irony of stropping and being rude because he's doing things his way - not hers 🤦‍♀️🤣

@Marshmello33 i get on fairly well with my ex but that shit does still kinda rub. Usually I just try not to think about it but obv pretty hard today!