For those having a crap Christmas- come here and rant

[ReformedWaywardTeen]

Just that really.

Mine are:
Yet again, no Christmas gift from DH. He's had weeks. Ive literally done everything else, every gift, every bit of food planning, been cooking since Friday for it. Not one fucking thing.

My house is damp and crappy, landlord is a wanker so no point asking him as he'd already made comments about our rent being way under the value for houses in the area. Despite the fact the only thing the tosser does each year is a gas check and we've lived here ten years. So I went to put something nice on today as I live in jeans and never go out really bar to the supermarket, to find my tights have rotted through due to damp. The back of the drawer they were in is disgusting but I didn't realise as it's not a drawer in regular use. So now, fuck all to wear.

I have anxiety about my looks anyway due to my toxic mum who used to call me the ugly sister to my younger half sister. I always think people wonder why DH is with me when I'm fat, ugly and useless, or so my brain tells me, so now when everyone else looks nice I feel like a joke.

DD very obviously didn't like their gifts. It's difficult to know what to get them as they're an older teen, and don't conform to typical teen fashion from PLT and the likes. They barely smiled at anything but have said it was all nice they just don't have to jump around about gifts as they're not a little kid anymore.

DS is unwell with a cold. He's really trying to get in the spirit but can tell he'd rather be in bed bless him.

So yes, if you're having a shit time and can't say anything to your nearest and dearest, say it here.

I understand. But please don’t feel bad. Your DS associates Christmas with his Nan and that’s where he thinks he should be.

For those thinking they haven't created the magic for their kids they experienced- you most likely have! You just can't experience it much as the adult doing the '(wo)man behind the wizard' act!
We had lovely Christmases growing up, but it mostly was because we were young and innocent and believed everything at face value! We didn't know how much work went in to decorating and cooking and cleaning. How my parents agonised about how to spend the little money they had to make things special. No we saw the lights and the gifts and the food - all wonderful!
Christmas ok here so far - just me and my two teens. My husband passed away 13 years ago when they were little, and as it's A level year we didn't go abroad to visit my sisters. My son seems to be able to check his temper (he's struggling a lot these days - covid really was a disaster for him which I'm just realising), and my daughter, at the tail end of flu, is doing her best. Presents went down well, dogs have been walked and turkey is in the oven!

Sounds ungrateful but I'm hurt by what my grandmother in law got me.. or didn't get me I guess, I'm hosting Xmas for her as even though it's stressful because I have 2 toddlers she is normally alone for Xmas so thought I'd be nice to host a dinner... I also got her 2 lovely presents worth a good amount of money. She bunged my toddlers £10 each but they don't understand money so DDbwas a little disappointed as I'd told her that grandma was bringing a present for her. My son didn't care. But I then I got a necklace and earring set that is definitely for an older generation bought second hand and I don't have my ears pierced. She has even overcooked the beef which is all I asked for her to bring.

I feel ungrateful but it's just I've set up a lovely day and felt a little ... Stung, she then went and gave her son and dil a load of money in a card, everyone got money but I got something I think she already had.

Sorry to hear all this. Try to be strong. Sending hugs x

You truly have my sympathy. My only child died 15 years ago, and Christmas is the worst time. I promise life does get better though, if you let it.

Best wishes

My Step Dad died 3 years ago on Boxing Day and my mum finds Christmas really hard as a result.
She has already rung me in tears about it and she is due here for dinner this afternoon and I can tell she’s not going to enjoy the day.

My DC don’t read remember him as he was ill for a few years before he died and the kids didn’t see him much, which then sets my mum off because they can’t remember things when she’s talking about him and them doing things together.

I’m dreading her coming tbh which makes me sound like a massive bitch but I just can’t face another day of her crying and getting upset, she rings me at least once a week crying about him dying and I know there is no time limit on grief but I’m so drained by it.

Sorry - wrong thread!

Just not feeling it - just want everyone to go and just spend time on my own. Not bothered about presents - I bought and wrapped my own.

DH is having a shitty time at the moment so it's only fair we make it nice for him.

Hopefully it'll be my Christmas next year

Blimey .. this has put my complaints into perspective. It's humbling to realise some people have real proble.s to worry about. Ix should be thankful.

In St. Thomas’ Hospital, with my teenage daughter.

It’s not that bad here thankfully - although most of the family had a few too many cocktails so opened presents whilst quite hungover n have now all gone back to bed or own homes leaving me in kitchen - no idea what time to eat now either

Sending love to anyone finding Christmas difficult

So, we are in Scotland (visiting family) from Manchester and DH told me this morning that after Christmas we should maybe take some time apart. It’s crushed me.

Sorry to everyone having a difficult time. Not the worst problem in the world i know, but I’m sitting here alone in a foreign country wondering where it all went wrong.

I live in DH’s country, it’s just us two. I’m recovering from flu and still reeling from a recent MC and my grandma’s death. DH has shown almost no concern for my feelings through any of it. So I haven’t been feeling festive at all. I’ve put a tree up anyway, decorated, bought Christmas food… today I forced myself to do my hair and makeup and wear something nice instead of slobbing about. I came downstairs and found he had used up the last of the coffee and gone out! I have no idea where he is, I’m guessing with friends, and we haven’t even exchanged presents. Silly but I was gutted about the coffee as well, I was really looking forward to it when I got up.

I can’t face starting the dinner - it seems like too much effort now just for me, when he could take it or leave it. I used to love making a special dinner even just for the two of us and would spend the best part of two days faffing with complicated recipes.

I don’t have any good friends over here to talk to, the few people I know (neighbours) are having loads of fun with their families. I have spent it alone a few times before while working abroad and it was fine, but this time doesn’t feel like it’s a choice. Finding it hard to see any point.

Galwayshawl: I am so sorry you just lost your mum! My mum died in December four years ago and I now just hate this time of year.
Give yourself a break and allow time to grieve, it's a shocking loss and if anyone treats you badly right now quite frankly they are less than human.
Mums are really special, it will take time for you to deal with this pain, it's really a very difficult time. You poor little poppet!
My best advice is to let yourself grieve, don't try to be brave, that's for later.
Try to think of happy times with mum and remember you are worthy of love and compassion. Big hugs to you darling xx

It's official I'm the person everyone gives hand lotion, hand-wash to. I go out of my way to get people the gifts that they may like and I have got 4 presents today 2 of which were hand lotions and handwashes . I'm stuck at home with Covid while everyone else is enjoying themselves.

Merry Christmas everyone.

Lost the home I've lived in since 1985 due to family drama.

In a flat that's barely furnished. I have bubble wrap up at the windows. My bed frame is still in storage so i'm sleeping on my mattress on the floor. No decorations or anything up because I had to move so quickly.

Was meant to be going to other family today but ive woken up with a bug and just can't face driving.

Having problems breastfeeding my baby, struggling as a new mum.

I'm in bloody a&e and beginning to wish I hadn't come! Still, could be a lot worse. Missing my kids.

three days with the in laws. I’ve had my parenting criticised by SIL. The in laws raise their voices to my children. They made fun of 11yo dd’s dress which she wore to Christmas dinner, incredibly odd behaviour. I’ve been told I look REALLY TIRED on several occasions. They are SO loud. Zero Christmas feeling, no music, no fun.

My children and I are all counting down the hours until we get to leave.

Nothing as bad as the previous posters who have lost loved ones, I am deeply sorry for you. But I really hate it here and the worst part is we are coming for an entire week for Easter, I don’t think I will survive that.

My dp fell asleep on the couch after work yesterday. Came home, had dinner then conked out. Tried to wake him but wasn’t for it. I had to put kids to bed, 3year old didn’t fall over till half 10 then had to finish wrapping and put presents out by myself so didn’t have time for a shower n didn’t get to bed till around 1. Have hardly spoke to him all day(he knows he’s in the bad books) I am about to jump in the bath with a very large vodka while dinner is in the oven and he keeps the kids entertained

I have food poisoning from a takeaway last night. I'm hosting dinner but want to go to bed.

Visiting my elderly mum (87) in hospital. Found her collapsed on her bedroom floor a fortnight ago.Not looking good and I know they're short staffed but I think if I find her in a dirty gown with eyes glued together and very dry cracked lips again, cleaned up her myself yesterday, I'm going to lose my shit! Not a lot of dignity and she was always so elegant.

It gets easier, @srx1. It's a rollercoaster having a little baby but you've got this. However you feed your baby it will grow and thrive and you'll feel less overwhelmed. Xx