For those having a crap Christmas- come here and rant

[ReformedWaywardTeen]

Just that really.

Mine are:
Yet again, no Christmas gift from DH. He's had weeks. Ive literally done everything else, every gift, every bit of food planning, been cooking since Friday for it. Not one fucking thing.

My house is damp and crappy, landlord is a wanker so no point asking him as he'd already made comments about our rent being way under the value for houses in the area. Despite the fact the only thing the tosser does each year is a gas check and we've lived here ten years. So I went to put something nice on today as I live in jeans and never go out really bar to the supermarket, to find my tights have rotted through due to damp. The back of the drawer they were in is disgusting but I didn't realise as it's not a drawer in regular use. So now, fuck all to wear.

I have anxiety about my looks anyway due to my toxic mum who used to call me the ugly sister to my younger half sister. I always think people wonder why DH is with me when I'm fat, ugly and useless, or so my brain tells me, so now when everyone else looks nice I feel like a joke.

DD very obviously didn't like their gifts. It's difficult to know what to get them as they're an older teen, and don't conform to typical teen fashion from PLT and the likes. They barely smiled at anything but have said it was all nice they just don't have to jump around about gifts as they're not a little kid anymore.

DS is unwell with a cold. He's really trying to get in the spirit but can tell he'd rather be in bed bless him.

So yes, if you're having a shit time and can't say anything to your nearest and dearest, say it here.

I’ve got covid, feel shit. On my own because my daughter is at my mums. Knowbody has wished me merry Christmas. Don’t feel like eating anything. Bloke I love is back on cocaine and says that’s it for him
now. Feel heartbroken

1st Christmas with new baby that took us 7 years to get. Had this horrible virus for nearly 2 weeks. All sleeping in separate rooms, no decorations up. Presents not wrapped etc. Hardly any sleep. Woke up on the sofa to dog puking and shitting everywhere. This morning has been spent coughing, cleaning up after the dog and trying to calm a sick baby. We are lucky in that family will be visiting in a few days which will be nice but there is added pressure that we haven't got all the presents.

DH's cancer came back with a vengeance a couple of months ago, we found out from his pet scan last week that the chemo hasn't worked so he has to go for a different treatment that has only 40% success rate. Was supposed to spend with our family (everyone lives overseas) but obv can't travel now. DH is in some pain and we are just having a quiet one with DS (18yo). I offered for DS to go overseas and spend Xmas with all the extended family instead of having yet another Xmas marred by DH's illness but he chose to stay here as long as we could have a Harry Potter marathon. Mum is so sad and really worrying about DH. Also about us as DH was main earner and the diagnosis came just as he was about to renew work contract so now he has no work.
We are on the 2nd Harry Potter already, getting lost in the magic and praying next year is better and not (60% chance) even worse x

Fuming with 2 DS's and DH. They stayed up way too late necking rum and now can't move. We're leaving at 2 to go to family for food. I've watched Snowman, eaten croissants. Woke them up at 10.30 but both still pretty gaga. Heading back upstairs soon for next try. If no movement I will probably just get ready and leave anyway. Not impressed.

Oh you poor thing, that sounds terrible. Sending hugs

Long history of Christmas disappointment in my house as DH doesn't believe in Christmas. I have COVID and am struggling for energy. Just asked family if they could walk dog and help cook lunch... Total silence until DH says, let's just cancel dinner until you're better and then f@@ked off upstairs for a kip. Leaving me to clean up all the wrapping paper, breakfast etc... Aibu to be pissed off

Sorry, this must be v tough. Sending good thoughts your way 💐. Certainly puts my moan about heavily hungover family in the pale. Take care and enjoy films and comfort.

Landlord just before Xmas told us he is selling up. Hence a made rush to find a new place to rent. Applied for a new place got turned down so January will be a mad panic to find a reasonable priced place to rent. But I’m with my lovely housemate for Xmas and I’m lucky to have them here. I think there needs to be a cull on landlord s though. Fucking greedy bastards. Hope everyone’s day improves and being get better. X. Thinking of you all Christmas can be so blady hard

You are NBU!! Eat something you like, put on a favourite film and forget them.

All these sad posts 😭😭😭, why do we let Christmas do this to us.
I'm as bad though, hit me like a ton of bricks at 1am that this is the first year in 58 that I'm totally alone... My younger brother warned me years ago that I'd end up being a lonely old lady. I'm desperately trying to prove him wrong but who am I kidding 🤣. I keep telling my self I'll be ok but I'm not - it's fucking shit.
💐and🤗 to everyone here who's feeling like the Grinch x

Sorry to all those who are grieving their loved ones this Christmas. 😞

I feel gutted DS has SEN and associated behavior difficulties and all he wants is to go to his Nans. We weren't going to this year but he is inconsolable. I've given in and let him go. I feel like an awful parent. All the time and effort and he still would rather be there with nan than us. 😔

Here is someone wishing you Merry Christmas ⛄.
Sorry things are shit. Do things you like and try to forget about guy with the habit. Better days will come.

Should you not be 48 hours clear of symptoms before going back to work? Hope you feel better soon x

I'm so sorry and sending hugs to all those grieving - must be awful - and to those who are ill.

We all have covid!

Im about to do a 5 hour round trip to see one daughter, other is with her adopted family ie her boyfriend, other is with her grandma getting pissed to survive it.
Its my year to have the kids for Christmas.

Am devastated tbh

You sound lovely op. I’m sure people aren’t wondering why dh is with you - I’m actually wondering why you’re with him given he’s such a useless arsehole he couldn’t even get you ONE Christmas present!!! How awful!!

First Christmas where I don’t have my children all day. They have to go to their fathers, who having ground me down financially during the divorce and who continues to battle not to pay any child maintenance and who took me to court and therefore has them part of today, is throwing a big Christmas, having done the square route of fuck all for these children at any other point “suddenly” he has all this money. He has planned an amazing day with all the relations who ignored the kids for years and encouraged his spite during the divorce, but who “suddenly” must be there for the victory that is “getting them for Christmas”

Im almost blinded with hatred for him.

Having done all this for them today two of my children had a screaming row and almost a fight over who wasn’t going to make me a cup of tea. I was very hurt by this, because it was one cup of tea.

Also, had this horrible illness all week on top of it all

Sad to read your comments everyone and I'm sorry for those of you who are dealing with terrible news and recent losses.

I'm not feeling great at the moment because my DH has been drinking from 5am. He works so much and when he isn't he is drinking.
I'm sad this is another Christmas and I've still not left. He's not always like this and the financial security is what keeps me but I'm realising the price I pay in staying is not worth the trade off. I'm just so disappointed in myself. I used to be strong and principled. My young self would be shocked at what I tolerate to be financially comfortable. I disgust myself, honestly.

Meanwhile people are dying in America through the cold, there's a war in Ukraine, yesterday a 4 year boy died at Centerparks, kind of puts things into perspective dosent it.

Sorry OP and to everyone else.

This time last year I had a miscarriage. Had another start of this year - my third. Found out after much having pain and pushing for answers I have PCOS which possibly was the cause. All that mental stress and all that stress on my body for nothing. May as well not have bothered.

Grandma is ill in hospital and her sons are all being so great. And her grandkids. It occurred to me when sitting with my Dad being lovely to her that when I’m old there will be no one be there for me 😪. Doubt my stepkids will bother. They’re nice but I’m not their Mum and I don’t think they love me.

And my friend just had a baby. I was supposed to have mine by Christmas.

I hate Christmas and the feel you have to force being cheerful!

No fun here either.

At the in laws and so far zero sign of any food at all - I’m nine months pregnant and am going to start chewing the table if there’s not even a mince pie or something soon. Present from in laws was the rejects from MiL’s beauty advent calendar - I don’t wear makeup and they didn’t even take them out of the numbered boxes so it was very clear what they were. DH has done most of DC’s stocking with her even though I bought absolutely everything.

Constant criticism of two year old DD (well, really of our parenting rather than her), no food provided for her and lunch timed for right in the middle of her nap.

Nothing major just generally disappointing and unChristmassy.

I've never really enjoyed Christmas but I try to for the kids. Family dramas are usually the biggest issue, it's my daughters first Christmas and several relatives are yet to even acknowledge her existence. I'm sick of being the one to pack all of the bags, wrap the presents, cook the food. The kids are fighting over toys. Our living expenses have just increased a lot and I'm stressed and tired.
Sorry to everyone who's having a crappy day.

This feels insignificant in comparison to some truly shit Christmases on here. But here goes

Staying with my parents with DH and toddler DS. The house is so cold (they're very wealthy, btw). We have had 1 cup of mulled wine and are now allowed nothing but sherry. 1 bottle between 7 people. I really need a drink but it tastes like I'm drinking a massive raisin