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Ungrateful Tw@ts at Xmas

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StuffChristmas · 24/12/2022 00:51

Who can beat this for ungrateful Xmas tw@ttery?

I didn't manage to get Xmas cards sent in time, so instead sent a few close relatives last minute gifts, like flowers, bottles of wine etc. The first arrived today and I was looking forward to hearing that the bottle of champagne had been well received. Instead, my Uncle phoned my Dad to report arrival of said gift. The inference is they are really annoyed about it as they thought they had made it clear no gifts were to be exchanged between our families.

I have tried not to let on how upset I am. I remember now that no gifting had been mentioned, but honestly, why the *@$£ can't they just say thank you??? I don't want /need an Xmas present in return. They have been so kind to me over the years. Why do they have to be like this?

I had thought of dropping round to take it back, suggesting they donate to charity, pour it down the drain.... I don't even know if they will actually mention it to me!

I feel hurt and a bit stupid. Just as I was talking about this to my Dad, my cousin was Whatsapping, so I know they know.... such an unpleasant situation and I was only trying to be nice/kind/festive. I am sure there are plenty of other stories that will beat this. Tell me yours!

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WeepingSomnambulist · 25/12/2022 15:40

HurtAndConfused2022 · 25/12/2022 01:47

God people are fucking ungrateful. If you can’t afford to gift back, that’s a You problem.

Most people gifting do so out of the goodness of their hearts. I love getting gifts but I don’t gift to receive - I genuinely enjoy picking things out for my friends and family that I think they’ll like or appreciate and bonus points if I can see/hear their reaction when they open it!

If they can’t gift back I do not hold it against them, it’s not about that. You can show your appreciation and love in other ways if you can’t afford to gift back.

So buying gifts for other people is about you then? You do it because of how it makes you feel. You do it because you enjoy it. So,.gift giving for you isnt about the person you're buying for, it's about you.

That's pretty selfish. Gift giving should be about the other person. Not how it makes you feel. If the other person has been very clear with their communication that they do not want a gift, then buying them one is just selfish and vain.

You're not making them happy. You're not giving them someone they will enjoy. You're acting selfishly to give yourself the feeling that you want, without caring about how it makes them feel.

All in all, you're not being a nice or kind person. You're just making it all about you.

Whoopsywoo · 25/12/2022 15:45

Oh for goodness sake some of these comments are ridiculous! I totally get you it’s not a massive gift it’s a bottle of something to say merry Xmas!

LikeAStar1994 · 25/12/2022 16:45

How hard is it for the ungrateful swines to say "Thank you"

Nobody is forcing them to keep the gifts. They can give them to somebody else who has nothing.

Christmas really does bring out the worst in people and it doesn't surprise me in the slightest that most people on here are siding with them. Typical Scumsnet.

Hahahahohoho · 25/12/2022 16:55

Whoopsywoo · 25/12/2022 15:45

Oh for goodness sake some of these comments are ridiculous! I totally get you it’s not a massive gift it’s a bottle of something to say merry Xmas!

Bottle of Champagne is probably about £50 plus p&p - that's quite a big merry Xmas gift in my world.

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