Worst Wedding Reception Ever?

[TheShellBeach]

I am still trying to get my head round this one.

It was a friend's wedding last week and they happy couple invited twelve people to their reception.

After the ceremony (which was lovely) we went back to the couple's house.

There was no wedding cake. No drinks. We made ourselves cups of tea and coffee.

Then the groom handed out menus for the local curry house. Once we'd all picked what we wanted, he asked us to transfer the cost of our orders to his bank account, before he phoned up and placed the order.

After we'd eaten and tidied up, the newlyweds asked us to leave because they were tired.......................no speeches, no fun, no dancing, no music and NO FOOD provided.

AIBU to think this was the worst wedding reception ever?

Sounds fine to me- they obviously wanted something very low key.

Your post is quite identifying.

Jesus you were lucky enough to be on of only 12 guests, I would have been honoured at that. Plus a curry and an intimate do sounds lovely

Seriously, I had no problem with the takeaway curry but I thought it was beyond tight to ask the guests to pay for it.

It's not as though the couple are short of a bob or two, either.

They abhor social media.

I'm not even sure that even counts as a wedding reception.

Sounds utterly awful.

I'm also thinking that I wouldn't have dared eat a curry in my wedding dress for fear I'd drop some on myself 😂

None of that's weird, but getting you to pay for your own curry? Odd.

Sounds great to me!

It sounds pretty weird but to be one of only twelve people invited, presumably these are very close friends of yours? Had they not discussed the plans for the reception at all with you? Is this very out of character for them?

When I say none of it is weird, I mean it's not my style at all but obviously was what they wanted

I think your being spiteful this is easily identifying and can easy be picked up tmby the media. They wanted a low key wedding with friends and tou go and run to bad them on mumsnet.

Bizarre. I hope you didn’t subscribe to the wedding list.

No, it was not mentioned. He is a distant relative of DH's and I have a feeling that a lot of people chose not to go because they know how tight the bloke is.

We were probably only asked because a lot of people did not want to.

The getting you to pay for yourselves is weirdly mean. The rest of it sounds great though. No tedious photo shoots or standing around in the cold starving. I'd happily pay for my meal to escape all the normal bollocks.

Did the groom produce a feast from one naan bread and a tikka masala?

It doesn't sound anything like a wedding reception. It sounds like having some mates round for a takeaway. If that's what they wanted fine but don't dress it up as a reception. And yes it's tight to expect you to pay and not to offer any refreshments. I'm presuming you forked out for a wedding present so it seems a bit mean on their part to not feed their 'guests'.

Is this very out of character for them?

I am not sure. I have only met them once before.

What was on the invite? Did it say reception held at home address?
Its fine if that’s what they wanted but that can’t be described as a reception I don’t think.
man’s getting everyone to pay for their own by bank transfer?!
YANBU.

Did you get them a present?

Yes, we gave them a present.

I hope they had they say they wanted. Not sure you could really call it a wedding reception though, so I don't think it's the worst ever!

One of the best weddings I went to there were 5 of us plus the bride and groom then we went back home for a takeaway (the bride and groom did pay though) and we had a lovely evening chatting etc. It felt very special honestly.

I don't think anyone was upset by the small numbers in the reception group.
It was being asked to pay for the curry which startled us.
We thought they were joking at first.

Tight AF. We laid on a free bar for most of the evening.

You describe them as “friends” in the OP.