Worst Wedding Reception Ever?

[TheShellBeach]

I am still trying to get my head round this one.

It was a friend's wedding last week and they happy couple invited twelve people to their reception.

After the ceremony (which was lovely) we went back to the couple's house.

There was no wedding cake. No drinks. We made ourselves cups of tea and coffee.

Then the groom handed out menus for the local curry house. Once we'd all picked what we wanted, he asked us to transfer the cost of our orders to his bank account, before he phoned up and placed the order.

After we'd eaten and tidied up, the newlyweds asked us to leave because they were tired.......................no speeches, no fun, no dancing, no music and NO FOOD provided.

AIBU to think this was the worst wedding reception ever?

D'ya think they get someone else to pay for it?😁

I couldn't find it LOL!
I expect it was well-hidden by then.

Did they make
you aware about how low key it was going to be? They sound really stingy getting their guests to pay. That’s shameful.

Newmum0322

You we’re 1 of 12 so obviously close to them and I imagine this would very hurtful if they found out. They chose a low key wedding, asked friends back to theirs and ordered a curry! It’s their choice to do that and your choice to participate.

Not everyone wants to spend all their savings feeding greedy and entitled guests!!

Get over yourself!

Oh please. How were the guests greedy and entitled? The tight couple invited them to their reception. They didn’t knock the door down and barge into somewhere they weren’t wanted. I think the majority of guests would assume that there may be food and drink on offer. How can anybody find this in any way reasonable behaviour?

It's sounds somewhat surprising - especially the pay for your own bit if there was no warning. But I'd have been happy with it to be honest. Especially getting to choose my own Indian food (even if I had to pay!)

My god. What weirdos.

You sound lovely OP but I'm wondering he is a very distant cousin a hundred times removed on DH's side. We were surprised to be asked as we only met them once before.

is cos they have no friends left to invite with their stingy attitude?

No! It just said "...............and a reception at (our house address) for all guests"

It did not mention that there would be nothing to eat or drink. I can cope with no dancing and no music.

Actually, scrub that. Even a tape of their favourite music would have been better than no music at all.

That sounds shit 😂 Whatever happened to hospitality? Did you buy a gift?

@TheShellBeach

It doesn’t sound low key. I’ve been to some splendid low key affairs. That just sounds utterly tragic. There was no point in inviting anyone to that.

Not everyone wants to spend all their savings feeding greedy and entitled guests!!

Not all guests are greedy and entitled!!

Yes - a £50 gift voucher which is what they asked for.
Well, they didn't specify £50 but they did ask for gift vouchers.

I've read most of the thread. Super odd!! The whole thing, but I wouldn't have minded (like you sound like you didn't) any of it bar being asked to pay for the food, that is beyond rude IMO

Not everyone wants or can afford one of those massive dos with meals and an open bar.
Sounds ok to me.

What a load of crap for a 'wedding reception' - mates round for a curry of an evening is what it was, you can't remotely call that a reception.

And of course you're getting a bunch of MNetters on here saying 'yes, totally fine, really normal round my way' - where on God's earth does that count for a wedding reception? Or have they never actually been to a wedding so wouldn't have a clue anyways🤔

Tight sods. Sounds awful.

All sounds fine, it’s what they wanted and their wedding should be about them.
Bit tight to charge you for the curry though

@Hoppinggreen

I agree but charging the limited guests for the takeaway curry?

Embarassing.

Sounds like they decided to just not have a wedding reception and instead have a few friends round for a curry.

Sounds lovely to me, though I am surprised they didn't tell you the plan in advance.

Litotes at its best

As I said, that was tight

No, but there’s a middle ground between a massive do with an open bar, and expecting your invited guests to pay for their own takeaway at your wedding meal. That’s just tight-fisted and plain rude. If you’re inviting people to your wedding and expecting them to make an effort then you can stump up £200 for their dinner.

Sounds exceptionally rude and incredibly dull. But they will probably end up on one of the threads where people boast about how small their wedding claiming how much everyone loved their intimate, relaxed day.

The wedding choice is fine however you should be. warned if you are expected to pay for your own food.

I worked in a hotel years ago, we once had guests start arriving for a reception we did not have booked in!! Turned out b&g had put "11am pre reception drinks at Crown Hotel" on their invites but they were planning on just going in the public bar. All fine except the bar didn't open till 12!!

My worst wedding was a good friends. Awful venue with terrible food. They were also snobby about music so turned their nose up at a dj and instead compiled a list of songs to play on a loop. Unfortunately their songs sucked so nobody danced all night. There was also a fight and the bride screamed at me because all so terrible. Despite the advice I'd tried to give her when booking. (As I use to be a wedding coordinator)

Low key is one thing but putting guests on the spot to pay for their food is another
That's rude you didn't have the option not to
I wonder if they'll send a thank you card for the voucher

I missed a wedding reception apparently the bride chased the groom down the road with a knife and the police were called the guests were more bothered about the fact that they hadn't cut the cake first 🤔 it didn't last

Rich people are rarely generous its how they stay rich