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Worst Wedding Reception Ever?

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TheShellBeach · 23/12/2022 14:46

I am still trying to get my head round this one.

It was a friend's wedding last week and they happy couple invited twelve people to their reception.

After the ceremony (which was lovely) we went back to the couple's house.

There was no wedding cake. No drinks. We made ourselves cups of tea and coffee.

Then the groom handed out menus for the local curry house. Once we'd all picked what we wanted, he asked us to transfer the cost of our orders to his bank account, before he phoned up and placed the order.

After we'd eaten and tidied up, the newlyweds asked us to leave because they were tired.......................no speeches, no fun, no dancing, no music and NO FOOD provided.

AIBU to think this was the worst wedding reception ever?

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HermioneWeasley · 23/12/2022 15:25

It’s extremely rude to ask guests to pay for themselves, and describing it as a “reception” as theirs was totally misleading.

Cantbebotheredwithchores · 23/12/2022 15:25

Well... at least you got fed is one way of looking at it! Haha!
I was at a wedding last year in the middle of no where and stayed at a little
b&b, no takeaways or anything and we were there from 1pm and all we were given is a little white bread roll with pulled pork in and some coleslaw!

burnoutbabe · 23/12/2022 15:26

It sounds crap.
Even a buffet of sandwiches l/crisis and coke/lemonade to drink would have been more hospitable!

ReneBumsWombats · 23/12/2022 15:27

Yes, that's shit.

If they didn't want to spend much, they could have set up a home-prepared buffet, or asked everyone to bring a set dish, or even had a potluck. That would have been very nice.

Ordering curry and getting everyone to transfer money first? Nah.

DownInTheDumpster · 23/12/2022 15:27

We went to a wedding last year where the only food provided was a tiny square of dry lasagna (a child’s portion), the tiniest triangle of garlic bread and a ramekin (like gu pot size) of salad. That was it. No canapes, no starter and I don’t even think a pudding. There were then brownies and the wedding cake in place of evening food. I have absolutely no issue which basic food to save money but we were ALL starving. It was at a venue so couldn’t even order food like in a pub or get crisps. I felt so bad for couple as it was so ridiculously stingy portions. I’d have given my left leg to pay for a curry at that moment!!

DownInTheDumpster · 23/12/2022 15:28

@Cantbebotheredwithchores sounds similar- stranded and no food. How a venue can think that’s appropriate is beyond me!

Charliehaus · 23/12/2022 15:29

MN hate weddings but they love to slag them off

girlmom21 · 23/12/2022 15:29

If this was my friend I'd love it. If it's a distant relative I'd have made my excuses and left.

DrManhattan · 23/12/2022 15:30

Some rich people are so miserly

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TheShellBeach · 23/12/2022 15:30

DownInTheDumpster · 23/12/2022 15:28

@Cantbebotheredwithchores sounds similar- stranded and no food. How a venue can think that’s appropriate is beyond me!

That does sound worse than ours, admittedly.

At least we had food, and it was lovely food, too.

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Cantbebotheredwithchores · 23/12/2022 15:31

@DownInTheDumpster what made it worse is that it was my birthday as well! And I was like.... it's my birthday and I'm starving!
I tried to take a good few bits of wedding cake on the way out of the venue.

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TheShellBeach · 23/12/2022 15:32

DrManhattan · 23/12/2022 15:30

Some rich people are so miserly

Yes, it was weird. They live in a lovely house in a good area and their furniture etc. was good quality.

The entire bill was about £150.

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TheShellBeach · 23/12/2022 15:33

Cantbebotheredwithchores · 23/12/2022 15:31

@DownInTheDumpster what made it worse is that it was my birthday as well! And I was like.... it's my birthday and I'm starving!
I tried to take a good few bits of wedding cake on the way out of the venue.

Ha! There was no wedding cake at this shebang.

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sweatervest · 23/12/2022 15:34

... and their first dance was "you can't curry love"

Followed by "if I said you had a beautiful bhaji, would you hold it against me"

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TheShellBeach · 23/12/2022 15:35

girlmom21 · 23/12/2022 15:29

If this was my friend I'd love it. If it's a distant relative I'd have made my excuses and left.

Well, we were all asked to leave once we'd finished eating..................

Not that there was anything to stay for by that point. Most people didn't know one another and it was difficult to keep the conversation going.

No alcohol, either. Just......weird.

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RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 23/12/2022 15:35

What a whinging wet pants you are OP.

It sounds great and I wish the marrying couple would've given your place to someone who would have been grateful for the experience.

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TheShellBeach · 23/12/2022 15:36

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 23/12/2022 15:35

What a whinging wet pants you are OP.

It sounds great and I wish the marrying couple would've given your place to someone who would have been grateful for the experience.

So do I, on reflection.Grin

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Barbudura · 23/12/2022 15:36

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LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 23/12/2022 15:37

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 23/12/2022 15:35

What a whinging wet pants you are OP.

It sounds great and I wish the marrying couple would've given your place to someone who would have been grateful for the experience.

This is such a MN response!

The OP had given up her day, spent £50 on this couple, no doubt got dressed up and made the effort to attend THEIR celebration…all to be told that she has to pay for her own takeaway? And she should be grateful 😂😂

Some of you have really really low standards for yourselves

Loafbeginsat60 · 23/12/2022 15:37

Ugh that sound awful

Hope you didnt splurge on a gift!

Holly60 · 23/12/2022 15:41

bjjgirl · 23/12/2022 14:48

Jesus you were lucky enough to be on of only 12 guests, I would have been honoured at that. Plus a curry and an intimate do sounds lovely

What was lucky? They got invited to someone's house to pay for a curry they didn't ask for before being asked to leave.

Not sure what OP is supposed to be grateful for.

YANBU OP it sounds awful. Do you know the couple well?

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TheShellBeach · 23/12/2022 15:42

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 23/12/2022 15:37

This is such a MN response!

The OP had given up her day, spent £50 on this couple, no doubt got dressed up and made the effort to attend THEIR celebration…all to be told that she has to pay for her own takeaway? And she should be grateful 😂😂

Some of you have really really low standards for yourselves

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Thank you, @LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet
I actually bought a new outfit for this wedding, not that it matters - I can wear it again.

I do not regret going - it was an experience, I love weddings, and as I say, the curry was lovely.

It was just being asked to transfer the cost to the groom's bank account prior to his ordering it which was a bit off.

A LOT off, actually! Who does that? Xmas Grin

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HaggisWurst · 23/12/2022 15:42

The only thing I find awful is that you had to pay. They should have footed the bill and planned that in (at the very least gave you all a warning you'd be required to pay).

Newmum0322 · 23/12/2022 15:42

Bananarama21 · 23/12/2022 14:50

I think your being spiteful this is easily identifying and can easy be picked up tmby the media. They wanted a low key wedding with friends and tou go and run to bad them on mumsnet.

This.

You we’re 1 of 12 so obviously close to them and I imagine this would very hurtful if they found out. They chose a low key wedding, asked friends back to theirs and ordered a curry! It’s their choice to do that and your choice to participate.

Not everyone wants to spend all their savings feeding greedy and entitled guests!!

Get over yourself!

FlamingJingleBells · 23/12/2022 15:43

Extremely bad manners and rude, I'd be tempted to invite him over for dinner one evening and do the same. That way you're even, I wouldn't even call it a reception. How expensive would it have been to put on a buffet of party food & prosecco. They basically got you to fund their wedding take away 'reception'. Did they even mention their plans beforehand. I wouldn't have gone if I had known beforehand. I bet they expected wedding gifts as well, the bloody cfs.