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Would this bother you?

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 15:53

I’m prepared to be slaughtered and accused of greed but in my shoes would you be annoyed by this…..
At work one of my colleagues decided to sign up for a radio competition to win a huge sum of money. To win the money they were asked a question live on air. They didn’t know the answer but I did so I told them and they won. Colleague is now (obviously!) ecstatic to receive the prize money, everyone congratulated them, requested a round of drinks on them and went back to work. My point is, is it unreasonable for me to be upset I wasn’t thanked or offered any of the prize money?

OP posts:
nancydroo · 22/12/2022 15:54

Ooh good one. Should give you a bit maybe.

forththeroast · 22/12/2022 15:54

You should get half.

nancydroo · 22/12/2022 15:54

Would bother me a bit

Getamoveon36 · 22/12/2022 15:56

Would be nice of them to offer something, not talking halves here but some for m of acknowledgment/thanks wouldn’t go amiss!

Twentyfourlegs · 22/12/2022 15:58

What would have happened if you hadn’t been there? Was it all or nothing/second chance with less money or what?

If it was all-or-nothing I would say you get 20-25%. Not half, because you didn’t have the impetus to enter the competition. But you were a crucial part of their win.

Scurryfunge12 · 22/12/2022 15:59

You shouldn’t have told them, it was their entry 😂 I’d only tell someone if they were a close friend or family and yes, I’d expect something because they wouldn’t have won otherwise! But I’d know that my friends or family would offer.

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 15:59

I have 2 hours left to decide if I’m going to talk to them about it before we close up for Christmas! I wouldn’t expect half, even a small amount would be amazing as we are having a financially difficult time at the moment. No one else knew the answer so the colleague would have failed and not received a penny.

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MaggieFS · 22/12/2022 16:01

Hmm, tricky on the thanks - they may have just forgot in the heat of the moment and hopefully they will thank you profusely when you go for that drink as it will no doubt be talked about.

I'd only be annoyed if they didn't then thank me.

In terms of should they give you any... it depends how much they won and it's so hard to put a value on a reasonable amount, I was thinking £100 - £200 if they won over £5k, but actually it's not about the value, it's about saying thank you. So I think something like a seriously good bottle of champagne would be in order.

Eightiesgirl · 22/12/2022 16:01

You should have got half. I would have given you half as you were the main factor in her winning. I hope she has a conscience and does the right thing.

PenanceAdair · 22/12/2022 16:02

You definitely should be acknowledged for saving the day and I think a decent person would offer to give you something from it as a gift but I don't think you should feel entitled to the money, not even with financial difficulties as they aren't responsible for helping you with that.

LaffTaff · 22/12/2022 16:02

It would be nice of them to offer. I wouldn't ask though, you chose to give them the answer without condition.

Thefriendlyone · 22/12/2022 16:03

They should have said thanks, I don’t think you are entitled to payment for helping them, and certainly not half. You hadn’t entered, you offered I assume out of good will. Not for payment.

Thefriendlyone · 22/12/2022 16:03

Eightiesgirl · 22/12/2022 16:01

You should have got half. I would have given you half as you were the main factor in her winning. I hope she has a conscience and does the right thing.

I’d eat my hat if you’d give half 😂

MaggieFS · 22/12/2022 16:04

Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 15:59

I have 2 hours left to decide if I’m going to talk to them about it before we close up for Christmas! I wouldn’t expect half, even a small amount would be amazing as we are having a financially difficult time at the moment. No one else knew the answer so the colleague would have failed and not received a penny.

You can always cal their bluff - when you walk out the door say something like "bye everyone, have a great Christmas. Rosie, I'll text you my bank details so you can send over my half of the winnings" and walk out before anyone can say anything. Everyone will be wondering if you're serious and the balls in prize winners court to decide what to do next.

I probably wouldn't have the nerve but it sets the expectation that you are hoping for something!

chary · 22/12/2022 16:04

I'd offer as I wouldn't have if it wasn't for your help.

Essexexile · 22/12/2022 16:05

If I’d been given the answer that I didn’t know, I’d offer a percentage of the winnings regardless of your financial position, purely because it’s a nice thing to do and a way of saying thank you.

If I were you though OP, I wouldn’t expect anything and that would say more about your colleague than you. I do hope you get something though.

forththeroast · 22/12/2022 16:05

I would definitely give half if I hadn't known the answer and you stepped in. Otherwise, I would have received nothing. What sort of person is this colleague that that does not occur to them?!

MaydinEssex · 22/12/2022 16:08

Could the colleague just be waiting to receive the money first? Maybe see what happens after Christmas, she might hand over a wad of cash!

Rainbowx · 22/12/2022 16:10

Yanbu they should offer you a percentage all depending on amount won.i would especially as no one knew answer .

Roystonv · 22/12/2022 16:13

I too feel you deserve half but I suppose the character and financial situation of the winner will come into play. I hope she recognises the part you played in her win op.

Relocatiorelocation · 22/12/2022 16:15

How much did they win?
You definitely don't warrant half, but they could give you a drink for sure.

W0tnow · 22/12/2022 16:15

I’d expect half, and offer it, if I were the winner.

Peashoots · 22/12/2022 16:17

she definitely should give you some. Not all though. How much are we taking?

Ocrumbs · 22/12/2022 16:18

Next time don't answer

HimiJendrix · 22/12/2022 16:23

How much did she win? Undoubtedly she wouldn't have won without you. If it had been me I would share the money 50/50.