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Would this bother you?

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 15:53

I’m prepared to be slaughtered and accused of greed but in my shoes would you be annoyed by this…..
At work one of my colleagues decided to sign up for a radio competition to win a huge sum of money. To win the money they were asked a question live on air. They didn’t know the answer but I did so I told them and they won. Colleague is now (obviously!) ecstatic to receive the prize money, everyone congratulated them, requested a round of drinks on them and went back to work. My point is, is it unreasonable for me to be upset I wasn’t thanked or offered any of the prize money?

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CountessWindyBottom · 23/12/2022 22:20

Says a lot about your colleague when you infer that they’d have made your life hell if you’d known the answer abs hadn’t helped. They sound incredibly rude not to have thanked you profusely but they may have been caught up in the moment. I think £1k as a thank you gesture would be reasonable.

Theonlyoneiknow · 23/12/2022 22:24

WOW. I think this speaks volumes about them. I would absolutely have thanked you and given you some money. Did any of the colleagues who witnessed you helping comment that he didn't thank you/ask if you were offered any of the money?

Check1Check2 · 23/12/2022 22:37

Was this competition for Kiss FM? If it was, it was £170,000. The entrant had to know the exact sum of money and they won. You shouldn’t have given her the answer.

Tygger · 23/12/2022 22:45

Did the radio programme know that this person didn't know the answer and that they were allowed to "ask a friend"?, if not, then you have some serious clout with them.

oakleaffy · 23/12/2022 22:45

Check1Check2 · 23/12/2022 22:37

Was this competition for Kiss FM? If it was, it was £170,000. The entrant had to know the exact sum of money and they won. You shouldn’t have given her the answer.

Jeez!
I thought OP said £12,000
It really sounds greedy of the person @Grapesontheice gave the answer to.

The “ Winner” didn’t really win on merit.

pinkvariant · 23/12/2022 23:11

If I was in your colleagues shoes - I would 100% offer you half.
In my eyes they wouldn't have won the money if it wasn't for you giving the answer AND you wouldn't have had the chance to give the answer if they hadn't entered the competition.

It's bizarre they haven't even thanked you or acknowledged it.

Zazazoolly · 23/12/2022 23:16

THEY entered the competition. The odds of getting through were probably enormous. They were already probably 90% there when you helped answer the question. I’d be disappointed if nothing was forthcoming but wouldn’t expect nor want much.

Shoemadlady · 23/12/2022 23:18

You are being completely unreasonable. You don't know what kind of financial situation they're in. You answered a question, didn't donate a bloody kidney! She's entered the competition, you didn't. If you want to win maybe you should have entered yourself!

Shoemadlady · 23/12/2022 23:20

How many questions did they have to answer? At the very most if it was 10 questions and you answered 1, maybe she could offer 10% but no more

XanaduKira · 23/12/2022 23:25

Zazazoolly · 23/12/2022 23:16

THEY entered the competition. The odds of getting through were probably enormous. They were already probably 90% there when you helped answer the question. I’d be disappointed if nothing was forthcoming but wouldn’t expect nor want much.

I agree with this. They should have said thank you to you, but nothing more.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 23/12/2022 23:29

They were already probably 90% there when you helped answer the question.

All through luck. 90% meant winnings of zero, so counts for nothing on its own.

You are being completely unreasonable. You don't know what kind of financial situation they're in.

OP is completely unreasonable to think they might have said thank you? The poorest person in the world (if verbal) can say thank you, and it costs them nothing.

eastegg · 23/12/2022 23:32

Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 18:54

If I hadn’t known the answer I wouldn’t have commented at all. I was very confident I was correct, they also chose to accept my answer without question. IF I’d been wrong I’d have been apologetic but you can’t lose money you didn’t have in the first place. Maybe I’m just too generous as I’d be falling on my knees with gratitude if I’d been the winner. I know faced with a huge sum of money many people aren’t willing to let it go, but as many have pointed out they wouldn’t have won without my answer. I’m just shocked at how greedy and selfish some people can be when it comes to money. I didn’t answer with the intention of asking for half of the money, not at all, in the moment with adrenaline high I just done what I thought was best to help another person. But I genuinely expected a thank you, to not get one has left me speechless.

Late to the thread OP but just wanted to say it’s appalling they didn’t thank you. It’s like the elephant in the room they won’t acknowledge, probably because that would be like accepting that you might be owed something. Like you say, money does funny things to people. I’m pretty sure I couldn’t be that brazen, I’d be profusely thanking you straight away and I’d definitely give you something, although I suppose working out how much/what might feel a bit awkward.

Isaidnomorecrisps · 23/12/2022 23:45

Half for you.
I’d have given it instantly - couldn’t have left for Christmas without doing it. You won them the money!

00kitty · 24/12/2022 00:25

I’m hoping you go back to work on Jan 4th and find a cheque on your desk at least for 1K, it would be the right thing to do

Tbarker1 · 24/12/2022 00:29

Hi, I understand and completely agree with your frustration. A thank you is the least you deserve. A wuestion though, did others in the office see that you had written it down? Maybe she might be trying to take credit and have her “ooh look at me” moment. I am very stubborn and can hold a grudge forever.

I would make a point of saying “how did you spend the money I won you” loudly so people hear, but not too loud so it’s obvious. Then laugh it off so to speak. She then has to acknowledge it. Also maybe a, “did Royal Mail lose my Thankyou card” all with a jokey manner with a hint of sarcasm.

Dragonella · 24/12/2022 03:21

You said you provided the answer and she won £12,000 then you deserve a very heartfelt thank you and a token of thanks of maybe £500 that's what I would Have done

Bahhhhhumbug · 24/12/2022 03:51

Friend paid absent colleagues pound entry into a local football competition without being asked. Colleague came back to work and was thrilled to find she had won the 10k jackpot.Walked over to friend and gave her the pound back and that was all.

stillvicarinatutu · 24/12/2022 03:53

She was halfway there already? Yes but halfway to nothing g is nothing- she didn't know the answer.
Op gave her the answer . Without op she's have not won a penny .

Judgyjudgy · 24/12/2022 04:04

I think I'd be pretty annoyed

Startwithamimosa · 24/12/2022 05:28

Bahhhhhumbug · 24/12/2022 03:51

Friend paid absent colleagues pound entry into a local football competition without being asked. Colleague came back to work and was thrilled to find she had won the 10k jackpot.Walked over to friend and gave her the pound back and that was all.

Ouch

pinkvariant · 24/12/2022 05:30

@Bahhhhhumbug
That's horrendous!!!!!

Tygger · 24/12/2022 07:51

I'm with check1check2, the op helped them cheat, depriving a genuine winner.
It seems that this was not so much a competition but one of those lucky dips run by the independent radio networks, where there is only one question which is "what is the exact amount in the kitty, so hardly "Who wants to be a miillionaire"

Poetnojo · 24/12/2022 08:33

If I was your colleague I would give you 2k and be delighted with the 10k and be extremely grateful to you. How stingy of them. Hopefully when they have a chance to talk to their family and friends about it they will have a change of heart.

rosemarysalter · 24/12/2022 08:36

I would have just said, you are very welcome as i left

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Inwiththenew · 24/12/2022 14:03

To not give you a share would be really bad. It’s not wrong to except a thanks. Maybe she wants to discuss it with her partner but I’d say the fact she’s been quiet to now means that she would rather not.