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Would this bother you?

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 15:53

I’m prepared to be slaughtered and accused of greed but in my shoes would you be annoyed by this…..
At work one of my colleagues decided to sign up for a radio competition to win a huge sum of money. To win the money they were asked a question live on air. They didn’t know the answer but I did so I told them and they won. Colleague is now (obviously!) ecstatic to receive the prize money, everyone congratulated them, requested a round of drinks on them and went back to work. My point is, is it unreasonable for me to be upset I wasn’t thanked or offered any of the prize money?

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MRSDoos · 22/12/2022 16:25

It would bother me. If this happened to me and my colleague told me the answer I’d be so grateful and probably give them a nice percentage of it

Eightiesgirl · 22/12/2022 16:25

@Thefriendlyone I hope your hat tastes good!

picnicshicnic · 22/12/2022 16:26

How much did she win?

I think anybody half decent would split the money with you? Either half or at least a decent chunk.

The only reason to not do so would be if they are not a decent person, or if they are a decent person with serious money problems. In which case they would say thank you at the very least.

Suzi888 · 22/12/2022 16:27

Why didn’t you enter the competition?

I don’t think you can expect half, there is no way on this earth I would ask for half. YABVU.

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 16:29

Well they have been talking about what they are spending the money on so it’s very unlikely I am being considered! The money isn’t the point though as I didn’t technically win it, but a thank you would have meant more. If I’d have known how rude they were I wouldn’t have given the answer, I just thought I was being a good person!

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Southwig22 · 22/12/2022 16:29

I don't think you're entitled to half, but if it's a decent win then they should give you a meaningful amount.

I would strongly caution against challenging them on it - it won't make them any more likely to give you a cut and may well make for a horrible working environment.

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 16:31

Suzi nowhere did I say I wanted half?

it’s £12,000

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Remona · 22/12/2022 16:35

You’ll be lucky to get a bottle of wine. You won’t see a penny of the cash.

I would have been annoyed too so can understand how you feel but she answered the phone, she gave them the answer and she won the prize. You shouldn’t have provided the answer if you didn’t want her to win.

summergone · 22/12/2022 16:35

Yes you should definitely receive something .

dontgobaconmyheart · 22/12/2022 16:36

I wouldn't say anything about expecting a cut of the money or your financial hard times, I think it would be nothing but awkward, come across badly and not make for an easy time at work.

I do think it's odd they've not collared you to say thank you and I agree it's a shame they haven't offered a small token gift/meal out/gift card etc (would have been the well mannered thing to do) but I don't think it would be a huge issue to me so much as a bit of an eyebrow raise. The only thing that would annoy me is that they aren't acknowledging the reason they have it with a thanks. It makes me think they're avoiding the conversation entirely so they aren't prompted to share, which is a bit grim.

You did a nice thing by helping but ultimately it's their money to do as they will with. Better someone won the money than nobody IMO.

RossPoldarksWife · 22/12/2022 16:37

Oh wow! £12,000!
I would definitely give you half. I’d still be £6,000 better off than I was this morning.
I’d also judge someone who didn’t acknowledge your part in their winning. If I was a colleague I’d be saying “ Hey Margot, with out Grapes you’d have nothing!, best share!”

susiesuelou · 22/12/2022 16:38

I'd definitely be wanting a share!! 100% you should get something OP.

NamelessTemptress01 · 22/12/2022 16:38

Yes they should totally give you some! Could the answer not have been googled?

SheWoreYellow · 22/12/2022 16:39

I would think it would about right for them to give £200-£500.

Sprig1 · 22/12/2022 16:42

Wow, I would have offered you half. She would have got nothing without you. I can't believe how greedy and selfish some people are.

diddl · 22/12/2022 16:48

Was it just one question & they would have got nothing without you?

If so, in a way you did win!

MyBooksAndMyCats · 22/12/2022 16:51

Yeah they should give you something that's not fair.

Mind you unless it was family or a close friend I wouldn't of told them the answer. Grin

OrlandointheWilderness · 22/12/2022 16:52

I'd lightly say 'so what's my cut then!? 😂'

Afl · 22/12/2022 16:54

YOLO, I'd straight up ask for some.
You helped her win that money, without you she wouldn't have it.
Ask ask ask! You have nothing to lose.

ShirleyPhallus · 22/12/2022 16:55

of course I’d talk to them, why wouldn’t you?! Not only that but I’d actually ask them how much they were planning to give you

Unless this is a huge drip feed coming and they had to answer like 10 questions correct and yours was one

Blinki · 22/12/2022 16:56

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PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 22/12/2022 16:57

Might it be that your colleague is planning to buy you a gift to thank you?

I say this because offering money might seem a bit awkward because there's no 'obvious amount' unless you split the money 50/50 - and, depending on her financial situation, it might be extremely difficult to say goodbye to £6000 that might, say, clear a loan debt.

(I know OP does not expect 50% )

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 17:03

It was a Google-able question yes, but they had a time limit and wouldn’t have found it within the time given. A simple thank you would have been welcomed, but there hasn’t been any acknowledgement from anyone in the past 5 hours, never mind from this person. They do say money changes people I guess, but basic manners cost nothing.

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PacificallyRequested · 22/12/2022 17:03

If this was me, I'd never say anything to the colleague, but would hold a grudge forevermore!