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Would this bother you?

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 15:53

I’m prepared to be slaughtered and accused of greed but in my shoes would you be annoyed by this…..
At work one of my colleagues decided to sign up for a radio competition to win a huge sum of money. To win the money they were asked a question live on air. They didn’t know the answer but I did so I told them and they won. Colleague is now (obviously!) ecstatic to receive the prize money, everyone congratulated them, requested a round of drinks on them and went back to work. My point is, is it unreasonable for me to be upset I wasn’t thanked or offered any of the prize money?

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Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 19:01

Because they were looking at everyone mouthing ‘help’ after a big groan during the question, if they’d known the answer they would have just said it knowing they had a short time limit to answer in.

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Eastie77Returns · 22/12/2022 19:04

I can see I'm in the minority but I wouldn't expect a share of the money. If it was offered that would be a nice gesture but if I helped someone in this way I wouldn't want them to feel obliged to share their winnings. Your colleague may have financial problems or other commitments that this money will help with. You never know what's going on in someone else's financial/personal life.

In any case, it was pure luck that you knew the answer to the question and it didn't cost you anything to provide it so you are no worse off than before you helped out.

LikeTearsInRain · 22/12/2022 19:04

I would have offered you a grand or something

SameToo · 22/12/2022 19:05

@Grapesontheice what was the question 👀

WomanhoodIsABirthright · 22/12/2022 19:06

Eastie77Returns · 22/12/2022 19:04

I can see I'm in the minority but I wouldn't expect a share of the money. If it was offered that would be a nice gesture but if I helped someone in this way I wouldn't want them to feel obliged to share their winnings. Your colleague may have financial problems or other commitments that this money will help with. You never know what's going on in someone else's financial/personal life.

In any case, it was pure luck that you knew the answer to the question and it didn't cost you anything to provide it so you are no worse off than before you helped out.

She's a cheeky cunt and I'd absolutely call the station and say she cheated.

Next time she might share, ey.

diddl · 22/12/2022 19:07

I’ve been thinking of what would have happened if I didn’t give the answer then confessed I knew it after they lost.

Why would you do that though?

You'd just keep schtum!

YaWeeFurryBastard · 22/12/2022 19:07

I kind of think it depends on the question. Was it along the lines of what colour are Rupert bear’s trousers or more who was the 11th president of the United States?

Canthave2manycats · 22/12/2022 19:10

What a horrible person!! Maybe she will have no luck with it.

You can at least hold your head high and know that you have a generosity far beyond this grasping bitch. I'd find it hard to ever look at her again - it's not about the money either; it's the principle.

TempyBrennan · 22/12/2022 19:11

I think I would have went for ‘so colleague, what’s my cut for giving you right answer?’ In my cheeriest tone and see how it landed!
if it went down like a lead balloon I would probably call her out 😂

BriteSparke · 22/12/2022 19:13

Riapia · 22/12/2022 18:48

If you had given her the wrong answer would you have offered her half of the prize money?

Nah, sorry, that doesn't work.

Let's say the question was 'What is the capital of France?' and the OP slid her colleague a piece of paper that said 'Madrid'. If the colleague incorrectly answers "Madrid!" then she clearly doesn't know the right answer and would have lost anyway. No prize money

FlissyPaps · 22/12/2022 19:13

Canthave2manycats · 22/12/2022 19:10

What a horrible person!! Maybe she will have no luck with it.

You can at least hold your head high and know that you have a generosity far beyond this grasping bitch. I'd find it hard to ever look at her again - it's not about the money either; it's the principle.

Wow 😂

In this current financial climate I don’t blame anybody who decides to keep winnings for themselves. She entered the competition. OP didn’t. Yes it’s lovely to share, and most people do. But some don’t. That’s life.

Sounds very bitter to be calling someone horrible and a bitch.

Money is the root of all evil. And I hope to God I never come to a large sum where people are calling me a bitch for deciding not to share.

amylou8 · 22/12/2022 19:15

You're not entitled to anything, which of course you know. But I'd have given you some of it, maybe 2k as a gesture. I'd be pissed off in your shoes at not even getting an acknowledgement.

diddl · 22/12/2022 19:18

Anyone else want to know the question?

whynotwhatknot · 22/12/2022 19:19

i would have at least thanked you and offered to take you out for a meal or something

SuKnackered · 22/12/2022 19:20

I am completely shocked that she didn't offer you half of the money, never mind a thanks. I really, really hope you have a massive windfall or some other good fortune, @Grapesontheice

blueflagflyhigh · 22/12/2022 19:21

Ur certainly entitled to nout but it would be nice to at least be thanked! That's quite rude. They should have been so utterly grateful to you as u basically won it for them! In the situation I wld def give you a nice bit of money.

£12k I think they should give u £1-£2k that still gives them £10k they wouldn't have had without u!

booklovingmum · 22/12/2022 19:23

I would have made a joke along the lines of so when am I getting a cut 😉 and just left it at that. If i had won I'd definitely have offered you something, small not half like some have said, £100 maybe max.

SomethingNastyInTheBallPool · 22/12/2022 19:26

£100?? Out of £12,000? I like to think I’d give you half. Not sure if I would in real life, but I’d definitely give you £2,000 - that would still leave me 10 grand better off, thanks to you.

NatalieIsFreezing · 22/12/2022 19:27

Money is the root of all evil.

Nope, it's love of money that is the root of all evil.

booklovingmum · 22/12/2022 19:31

SomethingNastyInTheBallPool · 22/12/2022 19:26

£100?? Out of £12,000? I like to think I’d give you half. Not sure if I would in real life, but I’d definitely give you £2,000 - that would still leave me 10 grand better off, thanks to you.

If you're referring to me then yeah I definitely wouldn't be giving a hefty chunk away.

I hadn't read the whole thread so didn't know it was £12000 but even so, maybe like £500 tops.

They wouldn't have won without the OPs answer but wouldn't have won had they not entered either so they don't need to be handing over half like many have suggested that's ludicrous and i doubt very much anybody when faced with £12000 IRL would hand over half in this situation, not in the current climate we are in.

PhillySub · 22/12/2022 19:33

Moral of the story is that you knew what they were doing and you didn't set any ground rules before giving the answer.

ThisTimeNext · 22/12/2022 19:34

I'd expect half. And I'd think about getting in touch with the radio station and telling them. But I might not follow through - it's always different in "real life".

Gagaandgag · 22/12/2022 19:36

What was the answer that nobody else knew!!!?

FfayeN · 22/12/2022 19:36

Grapesontheice · 22/12/2022 18:54

If I hadn’t known the answer I wouldn’t have commented at all. I was very confident I was correct, they also chose to accept my answer without question. IF I’d been wrong I’d have been apologetic but you can’t lose money you didn’t have in the first place. Maybe I’m just too generous as I’d be falling on my knees with gratitude if I’d been the winner. I know faced with a huge sum of money many people aren’t willing to let it go, but as many have pointed out they wouldn’t have won without my answer. I’m just shocked at how greedy and selfish some people can be when it comes to money. I didn’t answer with the intention of asking for half of the money, not at all, in the moment with adrenaline high I just done what I thought was best to help another person. But I genuinely expected a thank you, to not get one has left me speechless.

Do you know any of your work colleagues well enough that they could go to the prize winner and offer a helpful hint on your behalf? Such as "oh good job knew the answer or you wouldn't have got the prize, I would be so thankful to them I reckon I'd give them some of the winnings?!"
This is much less confrontational and may even prompt a decent response towards you! X

AndEverWhoKnew · 22/12/2022 19:36

Maybe they'll give you something in the new year OP because those type of radio station phone-in quizzes are notorious for taking ages to pay. your colleague probably hasn't had their prize yet.