Smug couples at Christmas

[Aquarius1234]

Why is it seen as superior to be in a long term relationship at Christmas?
Why do I feel side lined always being single at Christmas.
Yet other siblings get more attention and everything arranged around them just cos they are in a couple and or with young children.
Of course I don't have plans just cos I'm single...

What has being calm and not being allowed in the kitchen got to do with being single??
I loved Christmas when I was single, I just pleased myself. Now married with children it just feels like we spend the whole of Christmas juggling visits to family members on both sides!

Eh? Respect them for what?

I’ve no idea why you think single people are looked down on at Christmas? That seems to be something in your head not necessarily anyone else’s. if you aren’t looking forward to Christmas with the family, think of something different to do. If it’s too late for this year, then make sure you plan something for next year, a holiday away somewhere lovely on your own maybe?

No-one wants to watch any film about the protagonist 'getting by'

Yeah, I probably wouldnt watch that either lol. Sounds boring as fck 😂

Op what sorts of things do you enjoy doing? Are you sleeping and eating well at the moment? You sound exhausted and bitter and I think you need a break and to talk to someone

There aren't as many Christmas movies about anyone just getting by, because that's boring and rather depressing. It's too much "real life". Just like there aren't many Christmas movies about couples being annoyed with one another, feeling fed up with the constant stress to make Christmas "perfect", worrying how they'll pay for the children's gifts, etc.

You're annoyed with your family. Maybe they're annoying. Most people can be, from time to time.

Shouldn’t you respect everybody the same, regardless of the time of year?

And no, I don’t find it annoying that Christmas films are all about couples finding love building snowmen and sitting by the fire, because I don’t build my life and feelings based on what the TV is showing.

I want to be sympathetic to the actual problem op, but I don’t quite understand what is happening. There are often logistical issues with couples at Christmas trying to balance seeing both families. There are often logistical issues with young children and sleep schedules. The primary cook at Christmas often kicks people out of the kitchen because having too many people on the room can be stressful.

if you enjoy cooking, have you offered to take on the role of host? I know from experience that offer is frequently rejected, but sometimes families are ready for a change.

I am apparently not allowed to criticize

this speaks volumes

You say ‘Of course I don't have plans just cos I'm single’

But then say you don’t have any other options - so they’re not wrong.

You seem angry and bitter towards people in relationships - why just at Christmas?

Uhhh huuurrr

Maybe it's not single people, just this particular single person......

It really does.

OP, what is it that you were criticising?

Why cant there be films about single people just getting on and getting by..

Surprised Spielberg hasn't snapped up the rights already

Ha I have not been sleeping well recently, any tips would be good?

past tense but it was more constructive and offering to help. Now they just assume I will moan, but moaning is just talking IMO.

I have this image of a poster stomping around, with a face like thunder, pissed off shes “not allowed to criticise”, pissed off about choice of family film, pissed off about this, pissed off about that. And ruining it for everyone

This is sad. OP you do sound bitter and unhappy. You also sound secretively jealous of those in relationships.

You say you have accepted being single. Maybe it wasnt an active choice to be single so you are feeling sorry for yourself and lashing out about couples.

If you don't want to spend time with people then you need to speak up for yourself. Do what makes you happy.

I wouldnt want people in the way in my kitchen on a busy day, I would want calm and for things to go plan. I definately wouldnt take kindly to criticsm from anyone about food or arrangements etc but that is absolutely nothing to do with anyones relationship status.

I hope you can stop judging and thinking negatively of couples/singles and find peace and happiness with your situation

Ah you giving “constructive criticism”

I bet that was wonderful thing to hear on Christmas Day

That poster asks if you enjoy anything in life and you pointedly ignore

OP I think this is just your view, no one I know thinks like this. What is it that is actually your issue?

Not sure it was actually coined by Eleanor Roosevelt: this really resonates with me

No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent

lol, I don't like not being able to be myself.
I do not do as you say at all though, give me Eastenders any day. (back when it was good)

I felt that 20 years ago but not now. I never think about it either way, I'm so used to being single. Never invited to couple things so that's off my radar too.
now, tbh, i feel a bit sorry for some women my age in ltr. Their husbands have all the power. They work hard to please.

So the image I have is “being yourself”?

Op, have you ever been in a relationship?