Smug couples at Christmas

[Aquarius1234]

Why is it seen as superior to be in a long term relationship at Christmas?
Why do I feel side lined always being single at Christmas.
Yet other siblings get more attention and everything arranged around them just cos they are in a couple and or with young children.
Of course I don't have plans just cos I'm single...

It surprises me when I hear of those in their early to mid twenties settled down with no interest in splitting up or being single.

If someone is settled down in a happy relationship why would they be interested in splitting up or being single though?

Your assumptions that most people are in relationships because they settled due to insecurity or neediness are strange.

I think its pretty obvious why you are single Op . 🤔 Your views are rather bizarre

So you shouldn’t settle down in your 20’s but yet is lonely and shit to be single in your 30’s I mean simple maths there.

who’s looking for the first long term relationship late 30’s to 40’s? If you want children time certainly isn’t on your side when you add actually getting to know people and actually living together before committing committing.

Sounds like you wanted the world in your 20’s and now hate being single in your 30’s because all the good ones got snagged in their 20’s. Guess you’ll have to wait for the divorcees of late 30’s to 40’s for those who don’t make it, but they will come likely with children and you still won’t be put first.

The choices you made in your 20’s have made you where you are in your 30’s, now you can work on yourself and improve or you can be bitter.

@Aquarius1234 are you drinking? Your posts are becoming more and more bizarre.

I think posters should lay off you. People have no idea about your state of mind and they're not helping.

I hope you are ok.

Eh? When did I deny anyone else’s experience? A poster said we were pretending not to understand. I said I’m not pretending, I actually don’t understand. Why are you denying my experience?
I didn’t once say I didn’t believe it happened to other people. I said it didn’t happen to me.

Yes sounds like a little to much pre Christmas drinkies OP ?

Cos I don't think you should have one boyfriend or girlfriend in your whole adult life.
And life can be boring in your twenties if your not young free and single as they say.
People do change when in a relationship not everyone still goes out and acts like they are single and chats up people and goes crazy. Or not crazy etc.

Should not * its the films where you see a journey of love and dating different people good and bad life changes moving away.
growing apart or whatever. Having a couple of years single etc
Not just meet one person young and that's it. I thought esp these days that was rare.

How do you know life can be boring if you’re in a relationship in your 20s if you haven’t been in a relationship??
Why are you moaning so much about being single and a ‘second class citizen’ if it’s actually so great and you’re having so much fun?

yet you’re single and seem completely miserable and bitter..

So , do you want to be single or in a relationship ? I don't think you know what the fuck you want !

I’m married with 2 kids and in my 20’s and my life is far from boring Thankyou!

This thread is completely bonkers.

Again imo I wouldn't encourage a 22 or 25 year old to get into a long term relationship.
I would say date different people and also be single.
I didn't say being single has to be forever it's just that at this time of year people notice it more.
I don't care that I haven't made sense.
You don't have to be in a permanent relationship. It's ok to break up , you don't then need to jump into another relationship within a month. I know of people that probably wouldn't be able to be single as they have had relationships constantly with no gaps more than a month since they were 16.
Not healthy imo.

I say this kindly but you are making no sense now. You literally said it’s awful being single, now you are saying you must be single in your 20s or that you must not have only one boyfriend. Which is it? You seem very fixated on films too as if they are a template we should all follow. Films are just made up, imaginal stories, they aren’t real and they don’t reflect how life really is or how it should be.

I am to please. 😆

Ok but how are you advising others not to get in a relationship in their 20s? Date around and have meaningless flings, don't bother settling with someone you like? No thanks.

I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Not selling the whole single thing, respectfully

I get what I think your saying, you need or can play the field a bit before settling down and it's better to try then settle later rather than meet one person then settle, but I guess it depends on the person you meet, to me, the person for me, I made a pickle when I should of been looking to settle and this was early twenties,

I didn't want a long term relationship with a view to marriage in my twenties..I liked dating that is all.
Now mid 30s I'm stuck. Too used to own company. Maybe I'm too weird. Going my this thread.

Never have a job where you advise on relationships ............because you are shit at it .

So basically you wanted to be free and relationship hop in the twenties, but now your in thirties and used to your own company, could it be possible that you think you have missed the boat on settling down in a relationship due in part to your own uniqueness ?

I've always liked the idea of being a counsellor..

No shit you're weird !

we all have our oddities, although I do wonder what the op has been drinking

If it's any comfort my DP really gets on my tits at Christmas.