Partners family not acknowledging my pregnancy ?

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Hiya everyone, I want to know AIBU or do I have the right to feel upset? I’m currently 7 weeks pregnant (very early I know) It's our first baby and we are so excited. A few people already know including his family, they have known since I was 4 weeks ( we can't keep our mouths shut 🤣 ) he told them when I wasn't there , which I preferred tbh because we didn't know how they would react, I was told they reacted quiet well and they are happy. The few people that know gave me big hugs and congratulated me, except his family... I have seen them multiple times since them knowing and they haven't said anything to me, as if nothing is happening, me and his family have a good relationship and we talk all of the time, I just feel upset that they haven't acknowledged it ? is this normal for me to feel? when I say his family I mean his parents and his older sister who is 30! I see them most days during the week and I feel as if things are awkward because they won't mention it, I don't understand why they won't ? I did mention to my partner why they haven't said anything and he said "what are they supposed to say" which annoyed me because my parents give my partner a hug and congratulated us together , AIBU? xx

Well I wouldn't have shared so early personally, I think given your age they are probably concerned about how you will manage? Are you both working or in further education? Do you have a house? How will you manage financially? I think it'd be hard to get excited when there are so many practical issues without sounding patronising related to your age. Even in better circumstances, people would be quite restrained in their reaction so early as many early pregnancies end in miscarriage.

It must be tough when you expect them to be excited, but given your circumstances they are thinking this was probably a case of "oopsie" and not something you planned, so they won't be thrilled. You'll probably find they come round once you have a plan in place and the baby arrives, it's probably a shock right now.

You’re both teenagers. They’re unlikely to be over the moon, are they? They quite possibly hoped for more for their son. How did your family react?

Do you both work and support yourselves? Do you live independently? Why do you see his family most days? Was this baby planned?

This is going to be hard and they may fear you’re going to need a lot of their input/time/help/money/accommodation, which may be concerning them.

She doesn't.

I imagine they're not too thrilled.

From that link from your other thread, you sound incredibly immature and I'm not sure you should be adding a baby into that mix.

Was the baby planned?

Are you and he going to be able to financially support the baby or are you expecting family help?
Have you finished your education?
My son is around your age and I would be devastated to be honest.

Oh dear. You're in a relationship which you recognised was unhealthy months ago. You have severe health anxiety and attachment issues, and your boyfriend likewise seems very controlling. You're living at home except that you spend most nights with your boyfriend.

I can't think why his relatives aren't absolutely delighted.

Ocrumbs · Today 10:29

We don't know, she might have her own business and house and be doing ok careerwise

A house and a career that pays enough to support a child at the tender age of 18? She must be a real unicorn. It just doesn't happen in this day and age. It's not the 50s when you could buy a house for pennies and support a family of 5 on a single income. This isn't la la land. Get real...

I've just been listening to the tributes to Terry Hall from the Specials. This comes to mind:

I'd have been extremely disappointed if a son or daughter a baby at 18 .

Child care will be a huge financial burden to future work, and you are likely to part ways due to this young age and not have adequate housing.

I can understand why they aren't overjoyed.

Education and career and house should ideally come before babies.
If that sounds harsh, it's the cold facts on choosing to get pregnant very young.

I've just read your other thread and you were desperate to conceive. In a less than ideal situation.
How much help can you get from your family?.

I'd be so disappointed if my kids got pregnant at that early age. So much of your own life to live first without bringing another one into the world. They are disappointed and pissed off I expect op. Kids having kids then expecting the grandparents to support them.

Tenner says she isn’t 🤦‍♀️

www.mumsnet.com/talk/the_weights_room/4634532-can-someone-with-brains-help

Whaaattt??
''Desperate to conceive'' at 18?
That's tragic.

Where's the ambition for a good life and education?

Someone in their Thirties , with a home and a stable relationship I understand, but 18?

Usually at that age it is because of an unhealthy reason like reining in a boyfriend so he won't stray.

Ha. My mum would have gone ballistic.

I think you know why they are less than thrilled

Before reading your age it’s very early days. Most couples don’t announce until scan at 12 weeks. And as you’ve not mentioned it probably think he has overstepped mark and shared too early and you don’t know they know. I’d just show them scan photos and take it from there.
Reading your age and amount you see them I suspect one or both still living at home and being financially subsidised. I’ve got a teen and would be worried sick.

Oh for fuck’s sake. What a total fucking mess. I despair.

Ah, hopefully a fantastic thread, phew!

I have concerns about the OP

Based on all the other utterly tragic threads, please let this be a wind up.

I've never seen so many pregnancy related threads by one person. The op seems obsessed with getting pregnant in a very unhealthy relationship.

She won't be back to this thread though, so people hoping that she's has her own business and owns her own home at 18 will be disappointed.

i’m 18 he's 20. our relationship progressed pretty fast from seeing each other everyday to practically living with each other. i spend every day/night at his family home.

Im not surprised they aren’t pleased you’re pregnant then!

Oh my goodness..What an absolute nightmare.

I could maybe accept and offer support to my teen daughter if she was faced with an accidental pregancy. I would be heartbroken but maybe I could come around. Accidents happen even with proper contraception and abortion us a difficult choice.

But if my teenage daughter got pregnant ON PURPOSE I would feel I have failed 100% as a parent and I just couldn't accept the sheer stupidity and recklessness of that deliberate choice. I would offer zero support.

Hopefully it is just a ''Fantasy'' wind~up thread.