Partners family not acknowledging my pregnancy ?

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Hiya everyone, I want to know AIBU or do I have the right to feel upset? I’m currently 7 weeks pregnant (very early I know) It's our first baby and we are so excited. A few people already know including his family, they have known since I was 4 weeks ( we can't keep our mouths shut 🤣 ) he told them when I wasn't there , which I preferred tbh because we didn't know how they would react, I was told they reacted quiet well and they are happy. The few people that know gave me big hugs and congratulated me, except his family... I have seen them multiple times since them knowing and they haven't said anything to me, as if nothing is happening, me and his family have a good relationship and we talk all of the time, I just feel upset that they haven't acknowledged it ? is this normal for me to feel? when I say his family I mean his parents and his older sister who is 30! I see them most days during the week and I feel as if things are awkward because they won't mention it, I don't understand why they won't ? I did mention to my partner why they haven't said anything and he said "what are they supposed to say" which annoyed me because my parents give my partner a hug and congratulated us together , AIBU? xx

The parents have said nothing and Op is wondering why.
But she’s not said anything to them.
For all they know op could be planning a instagram style Christmas reveal. I can imagine thread on here - I’d got a special bauble/baby grow and surprise was spoiled.
They might be ok about it that’s what bf has said. Why not just say has ‘Brian’ told you I’m pregnant or my 12 week scan is January 10th and take it from there. You are there daily.
They haven’t said anything.
Posters have said why they might not be offering congratulations.
The lad’s parents aren’t pressuring or offering opinions. It’s giving the young couple space and chance to sort practical stuff out.

Get a grip. I said nothing about an abortion, merely offered a viewpoint when you weee outraged.

Why the obsession of having a baby? It won’t fix your problems.

Those who are commenting about abortion, you do realise OP is happy and wants to keep the baby? Her past posts are her and her partner trying for a baby so obviously baby is very wanted by both parents.

You are also imposing the newborn/baby years being woken up by crying etc at all hours of the night in their home!!! They have done their time doing this, they're probably working and need their rest, it is so selfish to actively plan this whilst living under their roof! Not fair to put an innocent baby into the equation

Her past posts also include her wanting to split from partner of 1yr (who she repeatedly says is 20 but then says here is 19 and she only just turned 18 herself, wanting to spend more time at her family's house but him not wanting to and her not wanting to spend any time away from him so her sitting crying beside him in bed from missing them, her losing friends because she feels like he gets funny with her if she spends any time with them, her not wanting to be pregnant yet but then a few weeks later getting the implant out, symptom spotting and general baby rabies stuff. Tbh it is hard to read it all and not be concerned for her wellbeing and the impact this is going to have on her life if it's a baby intended to keep the fella she "can't" be without close by :( .

Op.
What is your living situation? Baby will need to be in a room next to you in a cot or Bassinet for the first 6-12 months but after that ideally their own room.
They will be waking you up every 2 to 4 hours for the first 2 to 3 months so be prepared for that and sleep in the day.

Who is paying for all the necessities, Nappies, bottles, carseat, pram, Bibs, clothes, toys, towels, cot etc and potentially formula - £10 a tub which lasts about a week after 6 months.
What is the plan after that for childcare? Are you working? Who is paying for it, are you getting any help off grandparents? Entitled to any benefits?

5 days a week of childcare a month easily costs between 1200-2000 pounds a month depending on where you live and if using a creche or babysitter.
There's loads more you probably need to consider so I would think deeply if you want this baby. You will almost certainly be renting for a while if you don't already own a home due to the expense.

Dh and I struggle both working full time and we earn about £3300 a month between the 2 of us, that is with help from grandparents for childcare and me working condensed hours so I have one day off a week. Our mortgage is also only 600 pounds a month as well.

“Highly qualified” and “well travelled” can be subjective, tbf

@SaySomethingMan

this made me laugh. Of course they can be, but as long as you are happy with how things turned out isn’t that all that matters. Stating it in this way just sounds judgmental. It doesn’t matter if someone else’s life doesn’t live up to your standards. It’s not your life!

OP, I know it must be tough to read the judgement on your age and some of these comments. Younger parents can be fantastic and it is your right to start a family at whatever age you want; only if you can financially and emotionally support that family. If there is any question mark over that I am afraid it is selfish in lots of situations. I would suggest speaking to your partner’s family yourself, they might respect you more for this. Currently to them, their son has told them he’s going to be a father - you weren’t there when he told them, maybe he sounded worried to them? Maybe they don’t know if you want this considering you’ve not spoken to them about it? All things to think of

First thing first is look for a home. Congratulations on your happy news and hope you manage to make a wonderful life that you love.

I suspect, given what you wrote in another post about your relationship and the unhealthy level of control your bf exercises over you, that his parents are aware of what he's like, they have some idea of what you're like (very low self esteem, obsessive, lacking in maturity, naïve) and are desperately worried, for all 3 of you and themselves.