Can't cope with constant intrusion by new neighbour

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

Earlier thread below for context and latest missive from neighbour.

I was not feeling well yesterday and went to bed. When I got up I went out to a friend's house to watch Strictly, a film and chat. I left 2.30am and had to scrape the windscreen. Home in the wee small hours and went to bed.

Neighbour had texted me saying she'd come to ask me to move my car because it was in the way. It wasn't and as I went out it was immaterial anyway.

Today I get another text from her about me allegedly banging my door. I do not slam doors. I arrived home in the early hours and closed the door of course but I don't slam it.

She told me when she moved in that her neighbours slammed the doors. It's odd that the common denominator is her.

I've lived here for years and since she moved here in September I'm anxious all the time.

I think she thrives on attention so I'm not replying to her.

Apart from being considerate with noise what would you do?

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4661796-next-door-neighbour-and-normal-volume-of-household-noise-sorry-a-bit-of-a-saga?page=5&reply=122372236

I asked on another thread some months ago now about cancelling my cleaner. In the end I did, because I was paying far too much (it is now £30 per hour and you can only book for a minimum of 2 hours, therefore I would be paying £120 a month and she didn't do a brilliant job). That's immaterial because the woman next door has now started working for the cleaning company. The thought that she could get into my house is horrifying!

She told another neighbour that "Tracy came to pick me up and she said we used to clean at the house next door". The NDN then told the other neighbour that "nobody said anything horrible about Saffron and neither did I"

The cleaners actually still have a key to my house now I think about it, but I daren't ask for it back in case they say they will give it to her to pass on! And if I say no, then it necessitates a conversation about her that I don't want.

I just feel I can't escape her.

Change your lock yourself? Guides are on YouTube.

Change your locks.

Just message the cleaners and ask when it's convenient for you to collect your key - if they say crazy woman could give it to you, just say you'd rather collect it yourself thank you, don't overthink it!

I'd change my locks. I wouldn't want to risk crazy neighbour getting a copy.

This is why I want to keep my distance from neighbours although when you want to be private it seems to annoy some people..

Me too. I'm polite and friendly, and I will take parcels in, and often we put one another's bins out. But that's it. My friends are my friends and my neighbours are my neighbours. One woman around the corner I did count as a friend, although now she has been swapping numbers with NDN I am keeping her at a distance. I'm concerned, actually, as she knows a bit about my split with my ex, who I was with for a very long time, and I'm worried that she will be telling her things. I'm very private and it makes me feel uncomfortable. I'm undecided whether to mention it or not, actually. I don't think she is the type to tittle tattle, but I never thought she would get involved with NDN and the energy saving scheme, either.