Can't cope with constant intrusion by new neighbour

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

Earlier thread below for context and latest missive from neighbour.

I was not feeling well yesterday and went to bed. When I got up I went out to a friend's house to watch Strictly, a film and chat. I left 2.30am and had to scrape the windscreen. Home in the wee small hours and went to bed.

Neighbour had texted me saying she'd come to ask me to move my car because it was in the way. It wasn't and as I went out it was immaterial anyway.

Today I get another text from her about me allegedly banging my door. I do not slam doors. I arrived home in the early hours and closed the door of course but I don't slam it.

She told me when she moved in that her neighbours slammed the doors. It's odd that the common denominator is her.

I've lived here for years and since she moved here in September I'm anxious all the time.

I think she thrives on attention so I'm not replying to her.

Apart from being considerate with noise what would you do?

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4661796-next-door-neighbour-and-normal-volume-of-household-noise-sorry-a-bit-of-a-saga?page=5&reply=122372236

God I hope somebody buys the daft bat a pair of ear plugs.

I did toy with sending her a card at Christmas with "Silent Night" on it - no, not really! It would have encouraged her.

I just got back from holiday. The cat sitter told me she was accosted by the woman, who came out of her house and asked who she was and what her name was and why she was going into my house! She was polite back, but didn't engage her in any chat, and told me she thought she was creepy and way over the top. She really cannot help herself.

How very rude of her.
I know you don’t want to engage with her, but I would write down what happened and add it to your police notes. It builds a picture of her batshit behaviour. And if she catches you and happens to mentions this person you can tell her you don’t take kindly to your visitors being accosted.
She really is an odd woman.

@MinnieGirl Well it gets better. The woman on the other side of her was stopped coming out of her house (I swear she waits to hear the door open) and asked if she heard any noise at 2am as she wanted to apologise for being noisy. The woman said no, she'd not heard anything and then carried on getting her daughter on the school run. The neighbour then said she'd got a boyfriend and he had been round and stayed over that night. Also that nobody had seen her lady parts for 3 years and was giggling like a 16 year old. So embarrassing!

I'll make a note yes, the cat sitter was quite bemused about it all.

I didn't hear anything either, nor have I seen a bloke around here, but I bet she would go the full Meg Ryan, I have that to look forward to.

I had similar, he literally kept opening the gate, walking into may garden and then into the kitchen. I started locking the gate!

Bloody hell! She’s totally lost the plot… how embarrassing and with her neighbours kids around….
That is such a weird thing to say to a neighbour…

Last Friday I fell asleep in front of the telly watching Ru Paul's Drag Race. I woke up at almost 3am with the news on loop. Went to bed and got up in the morning, note stuffed through the door that my TV was far too loud. Oops. She had pushed it through and then gone out. I went out with four friends for a birthday lunch and I told them. One said I should apologise and take her some flowers. Like I am going to do that. If pushed I would apologise for falling asleep and not realising the telly was on, but flowers, no way.

This is the thread that keeps on giving! And as far as apologising goes, she is so far in the red with her antics, that I wouldn't apologise either.

I wouldn't initiate any further contact with her at all. If she comes round talking about it again just say oh yeah sorry I fell asleep and leave it at that.

Honestly, if your TV was just on at a normal volume, you're entitled to have it on whenever you want. I can occasionally hear my neighbours' telly at night, but I know the only reason it's really audible is because it's night time and everything else is silent. It's not because it's on too loud.

Plenty of people need to be up in the night sometimes - parents feeding babies, people who need to pull an all-nighter to study or finish some work, people who work shifts etc - and they are entitled to have the television or the radio or a podcast on at a sensible volume.

I would totally ignore your neighbour. This is getting ridiculous. If you see your other neighbour, ask if they heard anything. I bet they didn’t.

She’s completely off her rocker…. Goes to bed at 8pm and expects everyone to be silent. But lives in a terraced house…. Her expectations simply don’t tally with the realities of everyday life. Add the note to your file for the police, and ignore her. If she stops you and mentions it just say you really can’t believe she is still complaining about everyday noise and has she thought of moving…. That should stop her in her tracks.

Don't engage, don't apologise and continue to ignore. You weren't having a party until the early hours with lots of shouting and loud music, you had your telly on, on a normal volume

I swear to God this thread will outlive me!

Either OP or the neighbour is under the patio by now.

Well if it was the neighbour you could quite understand it…
Shes so intrusive and bloody nosey..

Don't apologise. Honestly this is the only time you were mildly in the wrong and if she was a reasonable person the correct thing to do would be to apologize.

But she is not! You don't want to give her any encouragement. If she corners you I'd say "again... please stop pushing notes in my door" and walk by. Be rude as hell.

Your friend is an idiot. What planet is she on? Flowers?!

Ha ha! No she's not dead. I've seen her outside this morning. Just had a busy week.

No more notes I hope….

Nothing yet @MinnieGirl !

Fingers crossed…. 🤞

The thread that keeps on giving. She was in heated discussion with my other neighbour last night outside my house about 9pm, talking about someone else who has moved in last week a few doors down, saying the newcomer (who's rented the house from the owner) has given her filthy looks and is parking in everyone else's space. Language was very fruity to say the least. She was saying she knows the man two doors up from her is gay, one across the street is weird, and she knows that the woman across from her has moved to live with her boyfriend in Preston and is renting the house out for £1200 a month. Also that "my boyfriend thinks Saffron is nice" and "I've made friends with Sally round the corner now, I know she's pally with Saffron" and that Sally had signed up for some deal with Utility Warehouse that she's now an agent for. Also she doesn't have any debt and is in line for £200,000. All this over the top of MY TV!!

You better pop a note through her letterbox....

I'd have been soooo tempted to lean out of a window or front door and give her a massive SSSSSHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

Nosey old cow!
But you can now take the moral high ground….
The next time she mentions your TV washing machine door slamming etc…just raise an eyebrow and remind her she was drowning out your TV when she was standing in front of your house gossiping about everyone’s private business…