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To find adults that don’t swear …

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notcompletingthetodolist · 17/12/2022 21:59

Kind of odd?

I’m not sayinh you have to swear every sentence because that’s cringe, I’m just saying it’s ok to say “I’ve had a shit day today” or “fuck sake” if you’re annoyed.

I had dinner today with a friend and her friend and they spoke about a “fuck it list” but only said “f it list” … like we’re all adults who shouldn’t be offended by moderate swearing.

(And yes I understand not swearing in front of children, at work or elderly relatives)

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Lapland123 · 17/12/2022 23:33

I wish I was an adult that didn’t swear!!

U1sce · 17/12/2022 23:33

GreenEmeraldSea · 17/12/2022 22:31

The link is the "competitive purity" you often get on here

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There is also a certain amount of competitive 'ladishness' on here as well tbh.

I used to swear like a trooper, then when I was pregnant with my first we stopped swearing and as Ive worked with children ever since, its become a habit to not swear really. I do swear a bit when no little ones are around but as a PP said, if your job requires you not to swear, it's generally easier to just not swear fullstop rather than try and filter yourself on work days etc

I do judge people who swear all the time I have to say - as in peppered into nearly every sentence

WingingItSince1973 · 17/12/2022 23:34

I don't swear and neither do my friends and family. It never crosses our mind to swear when there are plenty of other ways to express yourself.

beeeeep · 17/12/2022 23:35

Shecrazy · 17/12/2022 22:04

Why does it bother you? I'm almost 50 and can honestly say I've never uttered a swear word in my life. I just don't like it. I was brought up in a household of no swearing and it stuck with me.

Yes, I'm aware this puts me in a very small minority, but I don't see why it would bother anyone else. I don't comment about other people swearing because that's up to them, but I'm also not going to join in just to please someone else.

It's quite an odd thing to question tbh, no one's ever been bothered about my lack of swearing before 🤷‍♀️

Bullshit

Herejustforthisone · 17/12/2022 23:36

Abcdefgh1234 · 17/12/2022 23:27

I never swear. My family never swear. My children also never swear. I have to say sorry for this but people who swear, for me they sounds uneducated.

I swear when the moment calls for it, and sometimes when it doesn’t, and I’m highly educated and somewhat posh. Swearing is one of life’s levellers.

Cherryblossoms85 · 17/12/2022 23:39

Well I don't think "bloody" is a swear word at all, and yet my 9 year old keeps telling me off for it! I try and mostly fail not to swear.

Saracen · 17/12/2022 23:41

Sunbird24 · 17/12/2022 22:58

I don’t swear very much at all except on the Masterchef thread on here, Fuck off Gregggg so it definitely gets people’s attention in real life when I do as they know I’m either really angry or upset. I don’t particularly care whether other people do or not, other than where it’s obviously inappropriate. Probably couldn’t be in a relationship with a guy who dropped an expletive every other word though.

Same here. I also encouraged my teen (who never used to swear at all) to do the same when being pushed around by friends. Worked a treat. "Wow, I guess you really ARE angry."

Shynapple · 17/12/2022 23:44

CheesenCrackersmm · 17/12/2022 22:41

What do we want?
A cure for Tourettes
When do we want it?
Fuck

Your message is very insensitive to those who have tourettes.

One of my closest friends has this condition and people cracking jokes like this is very hurtful.

gogohmm · 17/12/2022 23:45

I was brought up to use a varied vocabulary, I have plenty of options at my disposal other than the limited palate of swear words you mentioned

LimeTwists · 17/12/2022 23:45

I’m nearly 50 and out of everyone I’ve ever known, the people who swear the most are my fellow teachers of English. We love a good old creative swear, despite having expansive vocabularies. I’m really not sure what the reason for this is. However, I don’t swear in front of children or in situations where it’s clearly inappropriate in public.

Glassofwhatever · 17/12/2022 23:50

Herejustforthisone · 17/12/2022 23:10

I love swearing. They’re fantastically emphatic words. Like all powerful things, they can’t be overused or they lose impetus. Nothing beats a choice and well placed swear word. I must admit to finding those who don’t swear to be rather square and mimsy, to use a PP’s excellent word.

Agree wholeheartedly

Glassofwhatever · 17/12/2022 23:52

Herejustforthisone · 17/12/2022 23:16

God no. I’m messing. I’d shout, at the top of my lungs, “you absolute fucking CUNT,” and then for good measure I’d launch whatever the stupid fucking twatty bollocking cake had been sitting on at the wall.

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That's better!! 😆

WeDoNotTalktoPennilynLott · 17/12/2022 23:52

Mumuser124 · 17/12/2022 22:11

I recently found out that adults who swear more tend to be more intelligent than those who dont.

I knew there was a reason I couldn’t go a day without utterering ‘for fucks sake’!

-Genius.

Having seen a lot of people that swear every other word whilst swigging from a can of lager and barely stringing an intelligible sentence together, I find this hard to believe.

RishisProudMum · 17/12/2022 23:53

gogohmm · 17/12/2022 23:45

I was brought up to use a varied vocabulary, I have plenty of options at my disposal other than the limited palate of swear words you mentioned

And yet you don’t know the difference between ‘palette’ and ‘palate’.

Glassofwhatever · 17/12/2022 23:53

WingingItSince1973 · 17/12/2022 23:34

I don't swear and neither do my friends and family. It never crosses our mind to swear when there are plenty of other ways to express yourself.

Seriously? Man oh man....

cardibach · 17/12/2022 23:54

notacooldad · 17/12/2022 22:45

I used to work with someone who said "sugar" and "fudge" - what's the point?
Could be out of habit. I'm around young people all day ( and they could make a saint swear at times!) so swearing is not allowed.

But you can say words which are clear replacements for swear words? I’m a teacher and I wouldn’t use swear replacements in front of young people any more than the swear words themselves. I just self sensor until I leave school.

getalifesonny · 17/12/2022 23:55

Trust me language is more colourful when you don't swear. You can insult someone in many creative ways that can hurt them to the dept of their souls without swearing.

AGoodDayForSomebodyElseToDie · 17/12/2022 23:57

I don't think it's weird not to swear as an adult, but I do find it fucking weird to refer to an "f-it list", or use twee swear-imposters like "fluffing", other than when around children or having been conditioned to use them by the presence of children at other times.

It also amuses me when people think that swearing is a marker of a lack of intelligence or lower socio-economic status. I'm guessing those posters don't hang around a lot of highly educated and (/or) posh twats, who tend to be very sweary, and creative with it, in my experience.

AGoodDayForSomebodyElseToDie · 17/12/2022 23:59

getalifesonny · 17/12/2022 23:55

Trust me language is more colourful when you don't swear. You can insult someone in many creative ways that can hurt them to the dept of their souls without swearing.

I don't want to hurt people to the depths of their souls. That's the weirdest anti-swearing argument I've seen.

ThanksAntsThants · 18/12/2022 00:02

I have two English degrees and a wide vocabulary, and I fucking love swearing.

RishisProudMum · 18/12/2022 00:03

getalifesonny · 17/12/2022 23:55

Trust me language is more colourful when you don't swear. You can insult someone in many creative ways that can hurt them to the dept of their souls without swearing.

What the hell?! Generally not trying to hurt anyone to the depths of their souls. Are you okay? 😂

Insaneinthemembraneee · 18/12/2022 00:04

I fucking love the word cunt 🤣
As for not swearing at work; that's where 90% of my french comes out!

NameChangeObvsx1 · 18/12/2022 00:13

Everyone should cunting swear. Why the fuck not?

in all seriousness, the whole ‘eff this and that’ is so twee it makes my fucking teeth itch.

KatieMorag5 · 18/12/2022 00:26

I swear a lot, so do my family. My partner swears a lot too but his family definitely do not. I do find them a bit odd but in a lovely way, I just accept they were brought up differently to me. I know some people are horrified by the c word! I don’t get the fuss, I use it all the time. I am Scottish though so it’s a term of endearment up here 🤣

dropthevipers · 18/12/2022 00:43

For what it's worth, my experience tends to show that people that don't swear are often (but by no means always, this is hardly an infallible rule) cunts.