To find adults that don’t swear …

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Kind of odd?

I’m not sayinh you have to swear every sentence because that’s cringe, I’m just saying it’s ok to say “I’ve had a shit day today” or “fuck sake” if you’re annoyed.

I had dinner today with a friend and her friend and they spoke about a “fuck it list” but only said “f it list” … like we’re all adults who shouldn’t be offended by moderate swearing.

(And yes I understand not swearing in front of children, at work or elderly relatives)

I should have said swearing is not generally part of my daily vocabulary except when I am driving

I think it's weird that people think it's weird that some people just don't swear.

Are you also one of the Mumsnetters who sniffs a thimble of sherry at Christmas and considers that to be going overboard?

In my house as a child , I only ever heard my parents say bloody . As an adult I've never heard them say fuck or cunt .
as a complete opposite , was in a friends house ( as an adult ) and the dad of a little girl aged about 5/6 called her a cunt . I found it disgusting and 100% unacceptable.
they are no longer friends.

I used to swear a fair bit. I haven’t sworn out load in my house for 4 years (apart from telling an impatient driver to piss off a few weeks ago) I found it too hard remembering not to swear when my DD was there so just stopped.

I do go in the kitchen sometimes & quietly say ‘oh FFS I’m f*king sick of listening to this s*t but never ever that my DD would hear.

Yeuch. Twee.

I don’t swear. I don’t think I have ever sworn and I’m in my 50s. I might say “bloody” if very annoyed. Does that count? I’ve never heard my parents or siblings swear either. My DH swears quite a lot and I really hate it. Swearing feels very, very aggressive to me.

I’d never substitute swear words and say sugar or fudge either.

Agree with this. I love swearing, but try to keep it to places where it's appropriate and people who'll see it the same way. The only people who really annoy me are the ones who look down on swearing, but also use the fake stuff (fudge, sugar and the like) that shows they're basically swearing, but without the courage of their convictions.

What is aggressive about it? They're only words.

the man in front was on his phone having a really loud conversation with every other word being 'fuck'. It was completely unnecessary and unpleasant to have to listen to.

I absolutely detest it when people use swearing as punctuation - it just makes them sound so very, very stupid; and they usually don't even know they're doing it, can never regulate it if they're around children. The word they use is almost irrelevant, really - it would sound just as stupid if every other word were 'banana' or 'pillow'; but at least those two words don't offend anybody.

My DH is very sweaty, swears in front of his mother all the time. She swears back.

Does she tell him to buy some chuffin' deodorant?!

I don't swear, partly because I have alternative words to use, partly because as a child it was so ingrained to speak a particular way to be as polite and inoffensive and because we always were walking on eggshells around our parents and still do, and mainly because in my family swearing, angriness, abusive behaviour, shouting and arguing between adults all went hand in hand and even back then I wanted to be the complete opposite of all that, I wanted peace because I learnt to associate swearing with scary and not safe. This doesn't mean I look badly on anyone who chooses to swear and most people I know do, but it also means I am wary of people swearing in certain situations like gatherings involving alcohol.

sometimes it’s necessary to emphasise something but it just feels a bit harsh or extreme to say the actual word. So I might say “I was really effing annoyed” to really ham it home. But actually saying it would come across as OTT and/or inappropriate.

How would that be related to not swearing?

I honestly have never worried about it. And if people want to use other words instead they should crack on. The only people I’m going judge (for being small minded) are the ones who actually care what language other people use.

(I view this in the same dim light as people on here who judge what other people call their parents or grandparents etc…really, just what does that say about your open mindedness and willingness to realise that everybody is different over something that cannot damage you or anyone else?).

I don’t mind not sweating but twee euphemisms for swearwords grind my gears

I never swear and have never sworn. I am quite able to participate in a conversation without resorting to swearing. I find swearing lazy, as if the person cant be bothered to think about what they want to say. I feel so sorry for children whose parents think it some kind of ‘badge of honour’ as to how much they swear.. those poor children… given a disadvantage before they are half grown.

If you work in a profession where swearing in front of patients/clients/students etc, could cost you your job, you train yourself out if it and sometimes it’s easier to maintain that in public (though not always in private), rather than continually code-switching with the risk of a slip-up.

Exactly. All my non sweary friends enjoy a lot more than a thimbleful of sherry.

And so what if you find them odd? They might find you odd. Both of you have the right to be odd, and to find each other odd.

Move on to something that’s worth spending time thinking about. Surely you have more important things to think about.

The link is the "competitive purity" you often get on here

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll oh god!!! Sweary!! DH is sweary 😂😂😂

Swearing makes me feel scared -it’s like flashing knives and daggers. It’s completely alien to me.

There are words that I cannot say, hate to hear and dislike reading. As a child I thought bugger it was the height of profanity. I very occasionally heard my dad use bloody and I had an older cousin who said ‘shite’ occasionally. I never heard ‘fuck’ until I was a student (1962-65) and then only rarely. I really hate any sex related words used as obscenities.
I am not unintelligent, I grew up in a mining village in the North East.
My adult children and grandchildren don’t swear in my hearing.

I don’t mind not sweating but twee euphemisms for swearwords grind my gears

Is that you, Andrew?!

I rarely swear. Normally only if something bad happens like a bad mistake at work, or dropping something heavy on my foot.

I don't use it as part of everyday language; I don't think it reflects well on me to do so.

I do realise this is an unpopular view on this forum where one of the most popular answers to any kind of problematic situation is, "Fuck that shit." I always cringe when I see that. It's like the poster is trying to convey "I'm hard, me!" vibes.