To find adults that don’t swear …

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Kind of odd?

I’m not sayinh you have to swear every sentence because that’s cringe, I’m just saying it’s ok to say “I’ve had a shit day today” or “fuck sake” if you’re annoyed.

I had dinner today with a friend and her friend and they spoke about a “fuck it list” but only said “f it list” … like we’re all adults who shouldn’t be offended by moderate swearing.

(And yes I understand not swearing in front of children, at work or elderly relatives)

I think the whole point of swearing (and I'm not talking about swearing at someone) is that it's a stress release.

So for many it's a very harmless way of keeping the mental health in check.

Long may it fucking continue.

My DM had a cuss box when we were growing up, I never heard her swear.

F on the other hand was an alcoholic who ranted and raved, called us effing bitches, effing zeros etc you get the picture.

I left home as soon as possible. I find swearing upsetting as it brings back horrible memories.

Thanks to my upbringing and education I have a sufficiently large enough vocabulary to be able to express myself in several languages with resorting to expletives.

I don’t swear as a rule and don’t know many people who do. I wouldn’t choose to be around someone who did. When I hear people in the street using a swear word every other word I wonder where the idea that swearing is a sign of intelligence came from! It just makes me think that person lacks vocabulary and self control. Each to his/her own I suppose!

That isn't my experience at all. IMO that is such a silly statement and says more about you than the people you are referring to.

I agree that swearing is a stress release. Hence me using a few expletives when driving, but not generally in life.

I don't understand people why some people pepper all of their conversations with swear words. They must feel very angry all of the time or be lacking in vocabulary. Or maybe they are childishly trying to shock people.

I'll stick with dickhead 😬

I tend to not swear unless I am really,really angry. I did say the f word on here yesterday, but in real life I don't. The reason is that when I was working I got fed up with customers who would start to yell 4-letter words/insults at me when I couldn't do what they wanted. After 35 years of abuse I had enough of it. It comes across as aggressive, we could have had a much better conversation without the swearing and in the end, the customer was just told to leave. So they weren't happy and didn't even understand why I couldn't do what they wanted. There are some very angry people out there! I've even dealt with people who didn't realize that they were swearing. I asked them not to swear, and they would tell me 'I'm not f*ing swearing'. It's lost it's meaning completely, they hadn't a clue what they were saying.

I swear. A lot. But only my immediate family and very close friends would know it. Most people I interact with otherwise probably think I don't swear at all as they're generally not words I feel the need to put into every sentence, when I'm out in public.
To be honest, if I hear swearing when out somewhere, like out for dinner or on public transport, it makes me feel quite uncomfortable that others swear so freely and openly in front of everyone.

I don't swear, I don't see the point. I stay on MN despite the swearing.
There's plenty of other words in the English language.

My parents don't swear. I worked in a predominately male tech environment where people didn't swear.

Many people that do swear don't seem to be able to control when and where, which is why you then get people swearing at shop staff, call centre staff, nurses or whatever.

You do you, I'll do me thank you.

Probably a good thing not to swear. That said using cutesy terms instead of swear words unless you are actually working with the under 10s comes across a creepy somehow. Like Kathy Bates in Misery!

I'm quite sweary but work in a school so can rein it in when I have to. DH doesn't swear at all. But I couldn't be bothered with whether other people swear or not, who has time for that? Say fuck it or fluff it, whatever you want. Judging people either way for something like this is utterly ridiculous.

The woman in McDonald's yesterday though, who kept telling her little boy to "fuck off out of my way for fuck's sake", I judged you very hard. Poor little lad.

The typo or the tautology?

It's a habit isn't it? I'm not in the habit of swearing so I find it easy not to swer unless I am driven to it by extreme circumstances. I think it has more impact if you hear someone swear who doesn't normally.

All through my working life I have worked in places where swearing all the time was not acceptable. The odd expletive was fine.

We had a girl in our office who was excellent at her job but one of the reasons she was unsuccessful when she applied for manager jobs was becasue she had such a potty mouth.

Thanks to my upbringing and education I have a sufficiently large enough vocabulary to be able to express myself in several languages with resorting to expletives

Thanks to my upbringing and education, I am multilingual and can swear beautifully in not just one but several languages.

I’ve never really understood the thing about not swearing in front of children. They are always going to learn swear words so we never censored our language. When my dc discovered that swear words were a thing we explained what they were/meant and said not to swear at school (teachers won’t like it), not to swear in front of grandma (she doesn’t like it) and in our house we don’t swear at each other (calling each other names or using swearing aggressively- unless in a joking way). I can only remember him swearing once.

The point is though, that lots of people don't understand what the words mean, they use them as though they are saying a totally innocuous word. As I said in my last comment, it's not even recognized as swearing by some.

I’ve never really understood the thing about not swearing in front of children. They are always going to learn swear words so we never censored our language.

They don't need to hear swear words until they get to school though. It normalises it if they hear it at home all the time, and I often wonder what teaching staff might think when a four year old peppers their speech with expletives.

YABVU. My parents never swore and so I never swore. I did not and do not feel the need to. I might say crap occasionally and shitty if describing something but I find the F weird really grating. My eldest daughter uses it so often with her mates that it just slips out now without her even knowing it. She is always a bit embarrassed but I think if you completely normalise swearing it is almost impossible not to even if you were in a situation where you might not want to do much.
If people want to sweat that is up to them but to pass judgement on those who do not is pretty unreasonable IMO.

This - I can’t swear in my job really. So I use words like ‘whoopsie daisy’ or ‘fiddlesticks’ or ‘darn it, that’s torn it’ or ‘sugar in hot tea’- that describes someone who disappears seemingly into the ether but changes every project - within my place there are loads and loads of these phrases and everyone uses them. Many words like cunt, bitch, twat, pussy are directed at men and women but have a anti woman vibe. In my job you just wouldn’t say them. I’d been in this job for so long that honestly it is second nature and my kids say the same as I do …. So baa humbug that’s torn it then….. I’m one of those twee people

I have a colleague that says intensely annoying things like ‘Eff it’ or ‘A over T’. She seems to think ‘fart’ is too vulgar to say, and actually says ‘blow off’. 😂

I swear more than usual in her company just because she’s so prissy.

@RampantIvy but if they are going to learn it when they get to school at 4, they can still start swearing all the time then. I think it’s better to normalise it, it takes the fun, silliness and excitement out of it… my friends children think you can be arrested for swearing- they really think it’s fun to do it a lot to try and ‘get away with it’.

i rarely swear
i hate the F word

I hate it when people star out the letters in swear words. Quite a few teachers at work do it when reporting incidents in the playground. Why would you do that? If the children said it to each other, surely the adults can cope with seeing the full word typed out.