Are we secretly communicating through social media or am I nuts?

[Letstakeitbacktothenineties]

Ok, so this is quite hard to explain/understand maybe, but I know I’m not imagining it 🙈
Used to go out with a guy when in my teens, lived in the same area, had the same friends etc. I moved away, he moved away..and so life goes.
around ten years ago, we connected on Fb and began chatting, I was with someone at the time, he wasn’t. We chatted as friends but had the most incredible connection, I’d look forward to hearing from him, he was so interesting, clever, funny etc and there was just something so strong between us. I live abroad and regularly went back to our home town, as did he. He asked to meet up many times (as friends) I really wanted to but ending up backing out due to my partner at the time. He wasn’t happy I don’t think and we stopped contact for ages. He’d occasionally contact me, every couple of years and I’d feel over the moon about it but was never in a position to meet up as by that stage I was pregnant and scared it would be more than friends. He ended up meeting someone (I could see from his social media) and he moved abroad and got married, I felt pretty devastated and didn’t want to see pics etc so unfriended him on Fb etc. I did a sneaky look on Instagram a few times (he had profile open) but then he put on private, mine was open at times and then on private.
Now for the crazy sounding part…when I’ve had mine open for a while, his is then open not long after. When I put mine back on private, his is then put back on private. I put mine on private for a long time (due to pics of Dd) when I put it open, a few days later he was gone..on Instagram and Fb and had blocked me (friend is still able to see him) and so this pattern continues sometimes. My point is that after every time I’ve put it on public so he can see my pics..a few days later he does something with his account.
I realise this sounds weird and as though I’m reading too much into things..but I really don’t think I am, am I?!

*Around ten years ago..should be capital 😅how I wish we had an edit button

*Ended

This sounds like you’ve been giving this stuff far too much thought. Romanticising him as the one who got away and imagining you’re somehow communicating with each other by turning your instagram private and public (and potentially blocking each other at times) is presumably a distraction from things in your real life.

I mean, maybe he is. But it's kind of irrelevant now surely? You've got a child and a LT partner. Block him on every platform and move on, no good can come of any of this.

He is married and lives abroad. It’s time to let go

@TheYummyPatler I really haven’t, sometimes I completely sort of forget, then remember and it’s happened..it’s too much of a coincidence..honestly, I’m not crazy, I have lots going on in my life, it’s just a thing I’ve noticed and I can’t see how it can be *Such a coincidence?

this is so juvenile 🤦🏾‍♀️

@HerReputationMadeItDifficultToProceed I know…I mean, I’m single now, not sure if he’s still married as see no sign of her. Definitely wouldn’t do anything about it anyway, but it’s more I'm sort of needing opinions to if it sounds like he’s doing this?

@Prisonbreak We both live abroad..but both always wanted to move back to our home town..imagine he will at some point. Not sure if he’s still married

Focus on your partner and child this is really inappropriate behaviour on your part and it's irrelevant what he's doing or not doing. Why is this important ?are you unhappy ? if so address it and stop building a fantasy escape world it won't help your real life problems.

@itwas I know, I agree, but it feels too much of a coincidence but also agree if true, it’s so stupid 🤷🏻‍♀️😅What a way to go about things..I just don’t know

Lay a trap to find out

@Tontostitis I don’t have a partner now..I don’t really focus on it a lot, I often forget and then notice. He’s been on my mind on and off all these years though..never had that about any past loves etc

@orangegato What kind of trap?

Just wanted to see others opinions really as to whether they think this is happening. I’ve only confided in my best friend as geek too embarrassed, she thinks it is

I mean if he's blocked you that's explicitly him engaging with your profile, but it's not a positive message he's giving. Why do you think he blocked you?

I think this is definitely not just a coincidence!

@DucklingDaisy I don’t know…because how can he even know I’m looking at his profile? It’s after each time I’ve had my profile private for a long time and then out it on public. That’s what seems so crazy, he can’t *Know I’m even looking at his pictures or even arsed, so why the blocking etc and changing of his, shortly after I do?
I realise this sounds ridiculous

@Unicorn25 It can’t be, can it?! Or I’m definitely losing my marbles..but, a strange way to go about things? Why 🤷🏻‍♀️If it was the case, why not just add me or send a message?

*Feel too embarrassed

Just send him a message if you want to talk to him. What is the worst that can happen?

Are you looking at his stories too? He may have seen you looking via that. But you need to just block him and move on, this isn't healthy, he's blocked you, not messaged, not liked your photos, it probably a coincidence re private and public, block, move on, stop paying this attention.

If you looked at any of his instagram stories he will know apparently. www.alphr.com/tell-someone-stalking-you-instagram/

Mate you’re stalking him and imagining some really weird shit. Honestly if you’re interested, which you are, message him, but this is some really unhealthy disturbing stuff

You must have very little going on in your life to be able to give this so much thought.