Are we secretly communicating through social media or am I nuts?

[Letstakeitbacktothenineties]

Ok, so this is quite hard to explain/understand maybe, but I know I’m not imagining it 🙈
Used to go out with a guy when in my teens, lived in the same area, had the same friends etc. I moved away, he moved away..and so life goes.
around ten years ago, we connected on Fb and began chatting, I was with someone at the time, he wasn’t. We chatted as friends but had the most incredible connection, I’d look forward to hearing from him, he was so interesting, clever, funny etc and there was just something so strong between us. I live abroad and regularly went back to our home town, as did he. He asked to meet up many times (as friends) I really wanted to but ending up backing out due to my partner at the time. He wasn’t happy I don’t think and we stopped contact for ages. He’d occasionally contact me, every couple of years and I’d feel over the moon about it but was never in a position to meet up as by that stage I was pregnant and scared it would be more than friends. He ended up meeting someone (I could see from his social media) and he moved abroad and got married, I felt pretty devastated and didn’t want to see pics etc so unfriended him on Fb etc. I did a sneaky look on Instagram a few times (he had profile open) but then he put on private, mine was open at times and then on private.
Now for the crazy sounding part…when I’ve had mine open for a while, his is then open not long after. When I put mine back on private, his is then put back on private. I put mine on private for a long time (due to pics of Dd) when I put it open, a few days later he was gone..on Instagram and Fb and had blocked me (friend is still able to see him) and so this pattern continues sometimes. My point is that after every time I’ve put it on public so he can see my pics..a few days later he does something with his account.
I realise this sounds weird and as though I’m reading too much into things..but I really don’t think I am, am I?!

Exactly. This is just a bizarre coincidence IMO. For this to actually be ‘communication’, you would both need to be checking each other’s profiles every few days, which is obsessive and I doubt he’s doing that.

This.

Wtf are you doing.

It seemed feasible.. until you said you were blocked? What is the point in being public/private in a clandestine 2-step with an unaware ‘partner’ - when they can’t see your stuff in either scenario anyway? 🤔

@Sleepeazie He only blocks for a while

Op how old are you now?

and for other posters she’s single now.

This isn’t checking every few days, I occasionally decide to put my profile public and this is what happens afterwards..each time

Never looked at his stories, he’s never looked as mine

Although, if your definitely sure he blocked you, that’s strange. Almost as though he does check your profile a lot and blocks to stop himself.

I don’t know. Weird one

Op I mean this gently I think he blocks you when he knows you’re looking, you need to stop stalking him.

please put a stop to it. Just message him with a hi how are you to try to put closure to this and help you;

@Diffuserqueen 35

Ok I thought older to be honest, like retired and a bit desperate.

just message him and stop stalking him, it’s creepy and not ok,

@Diffuserqueen But he doesn’t know I’m looking? Usually his profile is always on private. It’s after I’ve had mine open for a bit then closed it

Yeah I think if hea blocking you on and off hes either interested in you or terrified you keep looking at his page. I think it suggests people as a connection if you've been peeking

Don't do that if you think he might be scared you're stalking him

Yes, but he would need to be checking your profile to see when it goes public. If he changes his a few days later every time then he would need to be checking regularly.

Please don’t feed this, if she’s not well and obsessed it doesn’t help.

@panko But his is always private, it only happens now after I’ve put mine public for a bit…which anyone can do, which in that case, isn’t that him looking at mine 🤷🏻‍♀️I’m definitely not stalking, just has noticed his changes to mine and I find it unusual

Is there not an app that allows people to see who’s viewed their profile? There definitely was a few years ago, it charged a fee, I’m not too sure how accurate it was either. I haven’t seen it advertised in a while though.

You have obviously got mutual friends so find out if he's single and if he is send him a message to meet up and see where it goes.
If he is @not single then stop looking and move on.
There, that was easy wasn't it😃

@Diffuserqueen I’m not unwell..honestly.

I noticed this behaviour more and more and showed my best friend too and she thinks so too, I’m not crazy, seriously.

You are reading way way too much into it. If he wanted to be in contact he would contact you.

If you want to be in contact then contact him- properly.

It does all sound a bit teenage for someone of 35. Is life a bit dull otherwise?

@Subtlety1985 Its private, I can’t see anything on it

You might be coming up as a recommended friend for him on Instagram if you're visiting his profile every time you set yours to public. He might then click on your profile and realise it's not healthy to dwell on the past and then block you. Just a guess.

@Thedoglovesmemore Life is good and mainly filled with my dd, but I forget about this, then randomly remember after ages and the pattern is there 🤷🏻‍♀️

@WineCap Yes, maybe