Are we secretly communicating through social media or am I nuts?

[Letstakeitbacktothenineties]

Ok, so this is quite hard to explain/understand maybe, but I know I’m not imagining it 🙈
Used to go out with a guy when in my teens, lived in the same area, had the same friends etc. I moved away, he moved away..and so life goes.
around ten years ago, we connected on Fb and began chatting, I was with someone at the time, he wasn’t. We chatted as friends but had the most incredible connection, I’d look forward to hearing from him, he was so interesting, clever, funny etc and there was just something so strong between us. I live abroad and regularly went back to our home town, as did he. He asked to meet up many times (as friends) I really wanted to but ending up backing out due to my partner at the time. He wasn’t happy I don’t think and we stopped contact for ages. He’d occasionally contact me, every couple of years and I’d feel over the moon about it but was never in a position to meet up as by that stage I was pregnant and scared it would be more than friends. He ended up meeting someone (I could see from his social media) and he moved abroad and got married, I felt pretty devastated and didn’t want to see pics etc so unfriended him on Fb etc. I did a sneaky look on Instagram a few times (he had profile open) but then he put on private, mine was open at times and then on private.
Now for the crazy sounding part…when I’ve had mine open for a while, his is then open not long after. When I put mine back on private, his is then put back on private. I put mine on private for a long time (due to pics of Dd) when I put it open, a few days later he was gone..on Instagram and Fb and had blocked me (friend is still able to see him) and so this pattern continues sometimes. My point is that after every time I’ve put it on public so he can see my pics..a few days later he does something with his account.
I realise this sounds weird and as though I’m reading too much into things..but I really don’t think I am, am I?!

Know what ?
What would be the ideal outcome of him secretly communicating with you ?
(Don't have to answer it here, but I would honestly consider that if you want answers to what's going on for you).

@Flumpmageddon That he’s interested/still thinks about me I suppose

Even if most of us did think that, it still wouldn't prove anything. He's the only one who knows.

Why nor just message him to say hi and what's up and merry Christmas? Then you really will know.

That he’s interested/still thinks about me I suppose
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Why does it matter?

Tbh, you're massively over-thinking it.

It's normal to think fondly of "the one that got away" and we all do it.

But this guy is (presumably) happily married AND living abroad. There's nothing there for you any more. The ship has long since sailed.

If it makes you feel better, think of him one last time, send your good thoughts to him through the ether, and then block him on all social media platforms.

Send him a message to say merry Christmas and ask how he is. I sometimes do that with exes I stayed friends with and it’s completely innocent and brief. If he does reply and he is still married then please move on.

Its easy to romanticise ‘the one who got away’. I did this on and off over an ex for over 15 years whenever I was single. When we finally did exchange messages it was a huge let down not because I wanted him still but because he’d turned into a super weirdo. At least I didn’t stay romanticising him though. But if this guy is married and he is doing what you think he is, it’s more of a reason NOT to talk to him.

I would guess this social media scrutiny might be about being alone at the moment and not getting your needs met in other ways?. I’ve been there and obsessed over it. Try to get busy with things that will connect you authentically to other people.