Are we secretly communicating through social media or am I nuts?

[Letstakeitbacktothenineties]

Ok, so this is quite hard to explain/understand maybe, but I know I’m not imagining it 🙈
Used to go out with a guy when in my teens, lived in the same area, had the same friends etc. I moved away, he moved away..and so life goes.
around ten years ago, we connected on Fb and began chatting, I was with someone at the time, he wasn’t. We chatted as friends but had the most incredible connection, I’d look forward to hearing from him, he was so interesting, clever, funny etc and there was just something so strong between us. I live abroad and regularly went back to our home town, as did he. He asked to meet up many times (as friends) I really wanted to but ending up backing out due to my partner at the time. He wasn’t happy I don’t think and we stopped contact for ages. He’d occasionally contact me, every couple of years and I’d feel over the moon about it but was never in a position to meet up as by that stage I was pregnant and scared it would be more than friends. He ended up meeting someone (I could see from his social media) and he moved abroad and got married, I felt pretty devastated and didn’t want to see pics etc so unfriended him on Fb etc. I did a sneaky look on Instagram a few times (he had profile open) but then he put on private, mine was open at times and then on private.
Now for the crazy sounding part…when I’ve had mine open for a while, his is then open not long after. When I put mine back on private, his is then put back on private. I put mine on private for a long time (due to pics of Dd) when I put it open, a few days later he was gone..on Instagram and Fb and had blocked me (friend is still able to see him) and so this pattern continues sometimes. My point is that after every time I’ve put it on public so he can see my pics..a few days later he does something with his account.
I realise this sounds weird and as though I’m reading too much into things..but I really don’t think I am, am I?!

If you're single why don't you message him?

Yep me and my ex used to do same thing . It’s as though you are indirectly letting the other know you are thinking of them and basically playing a little game. Silly mind you. I imagine he will unblock soon and the games will resume. There’s always one that sticks in your mind or comes in and out of contact throughout life . Doesn’t mean they are good for you in reality though.

My point was it’s very unlikely he’s doing this, which is detailed in my post before this one.

Although the blocking is strange. He’s possibly aware the OP regularly looks at his profile and is creeped.

@bumpytrumpy I don’t know if he’s still married and also.,after this, feels too weird 🤷🏻‍♀️I thought about just friend requesting him a while back, but chickened out

@Anissa1 That’s exactly it! But it seems so silly I sort of have to check it is real, if that makes sense? It used to happen a lot more a while ago and then I just went completely private and put a stop to it. Now each time I rarely set to public, it happens again, it can’t be coincidence

I think you want to find something, anything that means he’s thinking about you or trying to communicate so have taken this as a sign… please don’t waste any more time or effort on this! If he wanted to talk to you he would message. If it’s meant to be it will be. By the sounds of things it’s definitely not meant to be right now so try move on?

But to know this you must be checking his every single time....which sounds a bit obsessive.

Unless you're a teenager this all seems a bit much.

@Subtlety1985 No, he can’t be aware as his profile is private? I can’t see it so can’t and don’t look at it. From his point of view, he’d have no idea at all, i’m just living my life, very occasionally putting my profile public, when I do..and happen to remember a few days/a week later or whenever, he’s changed his

@welshpolarbear It’s very rare I put mine on public now, no obsessive checking at all

@Respectfullydisagree But I honestly don’t feel this way 🤷🏻‍♀️

Then why ask if you are "nuts"?

There must be part of you thinking nah

Just leave the man alone move on

Are you putting it on public to try and catch him?

I am cringing on your behalf - please stop what you are doing and refocus on whatever is missing in real life.

@panko Because it seems such a weird thing to be happening each time, on his part, not me, so I’m sort of questioning myself maybe, but it’s really happening as my friend has seen.

That isn't how men work.

@panko Catch him, how?

@TheYearOfSmallThings Ok, thanks

@panko It’s not leave the man alone, I haven’t actually done anything to not leave him alone 😬

@Diffuserqueen yes, all retired people can get a bit desperate I think 😏

Jesus. This is so pathetic

@ThereIbledit It's true I’ve never had anything like this before, I don’t see how I can be wrong when it happens each time and actually makes me feel a bit uncomfortable about it

@Whattodo182 Nice, thanks

You're a grown woman with a child.
Either send him a message and start contact again, or get over it.

All this blocking unblocking game play is best case, in your head.
Worst case, really fucked up mind games that you should steer clear of.

This is the sort of agony aunt post you'd read about in Mizz

But I mean you must be checking his every time you change your setting.

It does seem strange.

I don’t understand why you regularly change from ‘public’ to private Instagram settings?

surely most people decide ‘I want my profile private” or “I want lots of likes and I don’t care about security so I’ll leave it open ‘.

not change their mind every so often?